Going your separate way for vacation holidays can be a good ‘holiday from each other’ as well. In the case of couples who are also parents, each may take turns at minding the kids while the other one has a chance to get away in peace and quiet.
Remember that separate vacation destinations can mean: ‘distance makes the heart grow fonder’ for couples in a good relationship.
If you are fortunate enough to both like the same holiday activities and destinations, then go for it. However, if one adores camping while the other considers the ‘Hilton Hotel’ the nearest they want to roughing it up, there will be problems. ONE of you will not enjoy themselves.
Sacrificing yourself during your holiday is not going to recharge or refresh you, more likely to result in simmering resentment from feeling your needs are not being respected or met.
Talk it through. Travel with friends that have similar interests. Split the kids between you, as the kids won’t all have the same likes either. There is a way for BOTH of you to totally enjoy your holidays and get all the benefits and it doesn’t have to be traveling together everywhere joined at the hip. Get creative – as a couple.
Write down a list of the things you both find most:
Whatever makes you happy:
Look at the environment and locations you feel happiest in:
Whatever makes you happy:
Put the two favourite things together and you are off to a good start.
If you can only be at home for your holiday, then build in the components you both want, even if it’s a day trip to a special location, or hire a video that incorporates the things you enjoy.
“There’s sand in the porridge and sand in the bed, And if this is pleasure we’d rather be dead” Noel Coward.
If your idea of a dream holiday is to book into a city hotel for a weekend and shop ’til you drop, going to shows or dinner with friends every night, then so be it.
If your partner wants to camp in the country and water ski or fish, then so be it. Live and let live.
Some sites to look at for your couples holiday research: coming soon……..
“Happiness lies in the joy of achievement and the thrill of creative effort” Franklin D Roosevelt.
Your hobbies are important for your happiness and wellbeing. The fact that you are now part of a couple does not mean you have to stop having your own creative pursuits for relaxation and pleasure.
The pride of creating things with your own hands is never to be underestimated. It provides a sense of accomplishment and pride in your skill that only you can create for yourself.
You don’t need to be an artist or master craftsman to develop your own skills or collections. There are many self help ideas for getting satisfaction without needing to spend a fortune or taking over the house with equipment and materials.
Create a corner for yourself, even if only a couple of shelves in a bookcase that can hold your patterns, journals or collections.
‘It doesn’t matter what is happening to the economy, government or your industry; it matters what is going on in your imagination. If you’ve got a rich imagination you’re going to have a rich experience” Mark Victor Hansen
Even better, sometimes you both can combine different interests to create one joint outcome. Maybe one likes to make furniture or knick knacks and the other likes to French polish or paint them. Maybe one like to take photographs and the other likes to create journals or scrapbooks or framing or some sort. Maybe one likes to grow things that the other can preserve, bottle, press, cook, dry, arrange, or use creatively.
Both of you make a list each of the things you like to do, or hobbies you already have and start to compare if there are any similar themes there for joint activities, If not, just go it alone and enjoy yourselves.
Some ideas for couples creative hobbies, craft ideas, collecting, cooking recipe, gift hamper ideas, scrapbook and journal resource ideas, creative personal development:
Scrap books: Take some favorite photos, get some coloured papers and cardboard, scraps of lace, ribbon, buttons, glue, stamps, cut out letters, type and print a brief story about the photo or photos, and start cutting and gluing. Put together in a one or two fold presentation format. There are examples on the internet and in magazines of this popular and inexpensive way to tell the story of important events in your life. My favourite scrapbook is still to have a big bound scrapbook that I get from the supermarket stationery department, that I fill with photos, ticket stubbs, birthday cards, notes and mementos that I collect. I decorate the pages with interesting photos from magazines that attracted me, and quotes or articles that I have collected. It just becomes a visual diary for me of events and people. Much more interesting than just a photo album.
Journals: keep a daily written journal of your experiences and lessons as you hurtle through life. Makes fascinating reading in future years, and can become your legacy for your children in the future. Research and write your Family History. Publish it yourself on your computer and distribute it to family members at gift giving times.
“To be able to enjoy one’s past life is to live twice” Martial
Freeze extras and treat yourself to some for later. Hold dinner parties when you need to cook up a storm and impress friends with your skill. Master at least two dishes in your lifetime, just to show you can.
Decorating, A change is as good as a holiday. Don’t need to buy anything new. Just take out all the knick knacks and decorating accessories, including lamps, cushions, mats, pictures, maybe even some of the non-essential furniture.
Then re-arrange the furniture and start to re-introduce the accessories. Swap accessories between rooms. Create changes for the seasons. Bring out the pinecones you found while walking – for a winter theme, along with a clutch of candles on a plate. Bring a potted plant with bright flowers inside for a few days for a summer or spring fee.
Collect some spectacular autumn leaves and place in a bowl, stir in some pot pourri or a few drops of scented oil. Get a bag of light clean sand and pour on a tray, arrange some sea shells from the store or the shore.
Buy a small ‘sample’ tin of paint and re colour a small piece of furniture or section of a wall. Fiddle about with what you have in hand, or stored away that you didn’t have room for when you first set up house. OK then, go buy yourself a couple of new cushion covers, or a pot plant, or a simple throw over for the couch.
Have fun, and do it at least four times a year. Work out your shared favourites as a couple, and repeat them seasonally or annually.
Couples collecting stuff – stamps, records, books, figurines, oddities, old photos, china, watches, postcards, spoons or key rings from your travels, – these are only some of the small things, Obviously, if you like something, just start to collect more of them.
Then your friends will catch on very quickly, and before you know it, your collectables will be flowing in to you from everyone you know. Unless, of course, you decide to collect very large diamonds.
Photography: Get your old camera out and have fun. Now-days with digital cameras and computer programs – anything goes. Take some photography classes. Just get a new perspective on your world and the people in it. Will not cost a lot, but get you totally engrossed, so – aim and fire at will.
If one of you is a computer buff, experiment with the digital camera editing programs. As a couple you can produce some amazing collages of family and friends, as very special gifts.
art and painting: Make sure you get your hands on the book “Drawing on the right side of the brain” by Betty Edwards – Fontana or Collins publishing. I guarantee that you CAN draw and paint what you see.
Then also go to the library and get a book on “how to” paint in oils, water colour, acrylics, or how to draw in pencil or charcoal. Also try books that specialize on one subject matter like cats, dogs, horses, landscapes, ocean scenes, etc. Get a block of good sketching of painting paper from the supermarket or an art supplier. And just have fun learning as you go.
If you find you really enjoy this, look for a local art teacher. Many hold classes in their homes or at community or civic centres, for very low fees. This can be more fun than you can possibly imagine. Join local art groups, show your work. Give as gifts. Sell at markets. Who knows what might happen, except that you will have many hours of pleasure.
Play a musical instrument: If the thought terrifies you, or you don’t want to invest in an instrument yet, try the computer software that allows you to learn on a keyboard that plugs into your computer. Or ask a relative who has a piano, guitar or whatever, to give you lessons. They will be delighted that you are interested, and that they have a skill to share with you.
Musicians advertise in the local paper for students. If they have the equipment, you only need to pay for lessons and see how you go. Learn to sing – no layout for a musical instrument there. Join you local drama group, learn to act, be a stage hand. Your contribution will be appreciated.
Learn a language: Again, teachers advertise their services everywhere. You can also get some excellent language programs on audio to learn by. Check out if your library has any audio language programs you can borrow.
New computer programs are also being created to make the learning process even more interactive. Hire foreign language videos to hear the language in a more natural environment, and get into the culture behind the language.
Plan a trip to visit that country. Join the Associations of that country eg: Australia Japan Association or Society for social interaction and to hear the language, or get a partner to practice speaking the language with. Contact that country consulate or embassy for listings of clubs and associations nearest to your home.
Have fun, play mind puzzles, Stimulate your brain cells or your laughing bone with games, mind puzzles and similar low cost challenges. Join a community centre that has games nights for scrabble, trivial pursuit etc. Buy some inexpensive crossword puzzle books or mind teaser books. Have a games night once a month for friends to drop in and share the fun with you.
Collect Jokes to cheer yourself and your loved ones. Keep a file, scrapbook or computer file.
Print your own joke book or quotes collection to distribute to friends for gifts.
Try out your IQ levels with tests for yourself and friends.
Handwriting analysis, This can be a fascinating art, and it has been said that if you modify your own handwriting you modify aspects about yourself too, Learn about your own handwriting characteristics and what they say about you. Do the same for your partner.
TEXT LINK BOX: handwriting. Coming soon
Most importantly, relax and enjoy your recreation and holiday time. Be creative in your ‘playtime’ and you will soon get creative in your approach to everything else in your life – and be Happy doing it.
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