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28th February 2005

Put Some Z.I.P. Into Your Relationships By Chris Widener

But... relationships can also be the bane of our existence! What really brings more pain in this life than a broken relationship, especially when it isn't just broken but downright ugly!

So, it behooves us to do all that we can to keep our relationships zipping right along, doesn't it? If we put our very best into our relationships we can almost guarantee getting the very best out of our relationships!

Through the years I have spent hundreds of hours working with people in their relationships: Marriages, friendships, working relationships and social relationships. Through it all I have seen some wonderful things and some terrible things. It truly is the good, the bad and the ugly!

But I have been able to find three core elements of successful relationships. These are things that, when done over time, begin to create for you the kinds of relationships that you truly desire. They are the kinds of relationships you have always dreamed of.

The key to remembering these three items is the acronym Z.I.P. Z.I.P. stands for three things you can do - and begin to do immediately - to improve any and all of your relationships. They are:

Put some ZEST into your relationships. Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships. Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.

Let's take a closer look at each of these three:

Put some ZEST into your relationships. By Zest, I primarily mean fun. Relationships were meant to be fun! We wouldn't have been made with the capacity to have fun if relationships weren't supposed to have a little zest in them!

Think about it: Don't you usually start out most healthy relationships with a lot of fun times. Whether it is going out to dinner or a ballgame, or spending time playing a game or even just a lively talk, you usually have fun as a major part of the relationship. Fun is some of the glue that bonds the relationship.

But as life goes on, specifically in a marriage, but in all relationships really, the fun starts to go by the wayside. More and more it is about getting the job done, whatever the job may be.

To restore the relationship, to put a little zip into it, we need to reintroduce the idea of "zest."

What about you? Have you lost the zest? What can you do to get it back? Think of a specific relationship you have: What were the fun things you did at the beginning of the relationship that acted as the glue that bonded you together? Now, commit to doing those again and see if your relationship doesn't begin to soar again! If you can, develop new fun things to do together so you can both start an adventure of fun together!

Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships.

First a couple of clarifications: One, I don't just mean intimacy in the currently common understanding, that is, sexual intimacy. I mean for all intents and purposes, taking your relationship to a deeper level. Second, I don't mean that you have to start doing group hugs with your workmates or having revelation sessions where the tissue flows freely.

What I do mean is that every relationship that is mutually satisfying has a level of depth to it that provides meaning. This is really what the search is for in our relationships: meaning.

Remember when you first started your relationship, whether with your spouse or friend. All of that time was spent opening up, telling who you are, where you were from, what your likes and dislikes are. There was a deep sense of satisfaction with the relationship - that is why it continued. You liked who they were and you enjoyed being known by them.

But then something happens. We get to a certain level and the pursuit of depth ends. We stop sharing feeling, likes, and dislikes. We stop sharing joys and dreams and fears. Instead, we settle into routine. The daily grind takes over and we stop knowing one another and we simply exist together. Now don't get me wrong, every time you get together doesn't have to be deep. Remember, I am the one who advocates in the previous paragraphs just having plain old fun sometimes. But there is a need for regular times of intimate connection where we go deeper with others.

This is particularly hard for many of the male species like myself but it is not only possible but healthy and needed! If we want to have the kinds of relationship we were made to have, we have to open ourselves up to having others know us and for us to know others.

True meaningful relationships come when we are loved and accepted for whom we are at our core, not simply for acting the right way in our relationships so as to keep the other person in it.

Think about the relationships you would like to see improvement in. Take some time in the coming weeks and months to spend time just talking and getting to a deeper level in your relationship. Specifically, let the other person deeper into your world. You can't force the other person to be more intimate and you certainly can't say, "Let's get together and have an intimate conversation," because that would be too contrived. But you can make a decision for yourself that you will let others into your world. Perhaps this will be the catalyst for them doing the same.

You can guard yourself from intimacy but then you won't go much deeper and you will feel a longing in your heart for more, or you can begin the deepening process and see your relationships change for the better.

Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.

The most meaningful relationships we have are those that are held together by a common purpose and vision for what the relationship can accomplish, not only for those involved but also for a greater good.

Let's face it, when people have a common purpose they feel like they are part of a team and they feel bound together in that relationship. Even when people may be disappointed in the people they are in relationship with, if they have a purpose, such as raising the children, they are much more likely to stick it out. Purpose creates bonds.

So what happens if we are proactively involved in seeking out a common purpose with those who we want to have a relationship with or those who we already have a relationship with but we would like to see it go deeper with? Well, it gets better and stronger.

Think about your strongest relationships. Aren't they centered around at least one area of purpose or a common goal?

What about a relationship that has cooled? Think back and see if perhaps you used to have a common purpose but it has gone by the wayside.

And what of your desire to see a relationship grow? Take some time to begin to cultivate a common purpose. Sit down with that person and tell them that you would like to have some common goals, some purposes that you pursue together. As you develop these, you will see your relationship strengthen in ways you never imagined!

Let's recap: You want your relationships to show a little "zip?" Then put a little Z.I.P. in them:

Put some ZEST into your relationships. Cultivate more INTIMACY in your relationships. Develop a PURPOSE in your relationships.

Chris Widener, in addition to being a weekly contributor to the Jim Rohn One-Year Success Plan, was also the host emcee for the recent 2004 Jim Rohn Weekend Event held in Anaheim, CA â?" he received rave reviews not only from Jim Rohn, Denis Waitley and Brian Tracy, but also our attendees! If you would like to take advantage of the special New-Release Offer for the Entire 2004 Jim Rohn Weekend Event on DVD and CD - good for a very limited time, plus three special bonuses for all those who order go to http://3day.jimrohn.com

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27th February 2005

30 Observations JUST FOR BIT OF FUN

1. Now that food has replaced sex in my life, I can't even get into my own pants.
2. Marriage changes passion. Suddenly you're in bed with a relative.
3. I saw a woman wearing a sweat shirt with "Guess" on it. So I said, "Implants?" She hit me.
4. I don't do drugs. I get the same affect just standing up fast.
5. Sign in a Chinese Pet Store: "Buy one dog, get one flea"
6. I live in my own little world. But it's OK. They know me there.
7. I got a sweater for Christmas. I really wanted a screamer or a moaner.
8. If flying is so safe, why do they call the airport the terminal?
9. I don't approve of political jokes. I've seen too many of them get elected.
10. There are two sides to every divorce: Yours and *****head's.
11. I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.
12. I am a nobody, and nobody is perfect. Therefore, I am perfect.
13. Everyday I beat my own previous record for number of consecutive days I have stayed alive.

14. How come America choose from just two people to run for presiden.! And 50 for Miss Universe?
15. Isn't having a smoking section in a restaurant like having a peeing section in a swimming pool?
16. Why is it that most nudists are people you don't want to see naked?
17. Snowmen fall from Heaven unassembled.
18. Every time I walk into a singles bar I can hear Mum's wise words:
"Don't pick that up, you don't know where it's been!"
19. A good friend will come and bail you out of jail. But a true friend will be sitting next to you saying,
"Damn ... that was fun!"
20. I signed up for an exercise class and was told to wear loose fitting clothing. If I had any loose fitting clothing I wouldn't have signed up in the first place!
21. When I was young we used to go skinny dipping. Now I just chunky dunk.
22. The worst thing about accidents in the kitchen is eating them.
23. Don't argue with an idiot. People watching may not be able to tell the difference.
24. Wouldn't it be nice if whenever we messed up our life we could simply press 'Ctrl Alt Delete' and start all over?
25. Stress is when you wake up screaming and then you realise you haven't fallen asleep yet.
26. My wife says I never listen to her (at least I think that's what she said).
27. Just remember ... if the world didn't suck, we'd all fall off.
28. Why is it that our children can't read a Bible in school, but they can in prison?
29. If raising children was going to be easy, it never would have started with something called LABOUR!
30. Wouldn't you know it ... brain cells come and brain cells go, but FAT cells live forever.

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26th February 2005

An elderly man in Adelaide calls his son in Sydney And says, "I hate to ruin your day, but I have to tell you that your mother and I are divorcing... forty-five years of misery is enough."

“Pop, what are you talking about?" the son screams.

"We can't stand the sight of each other any longer," the old man says.

"We're sick of each other, and I'm sick of talking about this, so you call your sister in Brisbane and tell her," and he hangs up.

Frantic, the son calls his sister, who explodes on the phone. "Like heck they're getting divorced," she shouts, "I'll take care of this."

She calls her dad immediately, and screams at the old man, "You are NOT getting divorced! Don't do a single thing until I get there. I'm calling my brother back, and we'll both be there tomorrow. Until then, don't do a thing, DO YOU HEAR ME?" and then hangs up.

The old man hangs up his phone and turns to his wife... Okay," he says, "They're coming for Christmas and paying their own airfares."

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25th February 2005 Life's simple pleasures that we all have experienced at one time or another. Some, many times over..............

Think about them one at a time BEFORE going on to the next one......... FEEL GOOD especially with the thought at the end.

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1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No lines at the supermarket
5. A special glance.
6. Getting mail.
7. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
8. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.
9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Finding the sweater you want is on sale for half price.
12. Chocolate milkshake. (or vanilla!) (or strawberry)
13. A long distance phone call.
14. A bubble bath.
15. Giggling.
16. A good conversation.
17. The beach.
18. Finding a $20 note in your coat from last winter.
19. Laughing at yourself.
20. Midnight phone calls that last for hours.
21. Running through sprinklers.
22. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
23. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
24. Laughing at an inside joke.
25. Friends.
26. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
27. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
28. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).
29. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
30. Playing with a new puppy.
31. Having someone play with your hair.
32. Sweet dreams.
33. Hot chocolate.
34. Road trips with friends.
35. Swinging on swings.
36. Wrapping presents under the Christmas tree while eating cookies and drinking your favorite tipple.
37. Song lyrics printed inside your new CD so you can sing along without feeling stupid.
38. Going to a really good concert.
39. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
40. Winning a really competitive game.
41. Making chocolate chip cookies.
42. Having your friends send you home-made cookies.
43. Spending time with close friends.
44. Seeing smiles and hearing laughter from your friends.
45. Holding hands with someone you care about.
46. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
47. Riding the best roller coasters over and over.
48. Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.
49. Watching the sunrise.
50. Getting out of bed every morning and thanking God for another beautiful day.

Friends are quiet angels who lift us to our feet when our wings have trouble remembering how to fly.

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24th February 2005

The Difference between Focusing on Problems, and Focusing on Solutions

When NASA began the launch of astronauts into space, they found out that the pens wouldn't work at zero gravity. (Ink won't flow down to the writing surface) .

In order to solve this problem, they hired Andersen Consulting (Accenture today). It took them one decade and 12 million dollars. They developed a pen that worked at zero gravity, upside down, under water, in practically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.

The Russians used a pencil...

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23rd February 2005

HOW TO STAY YOUNG

1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctor worry about them. That is why you pay him/her.

2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.

3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. " An idle mind is the devil's workshop." And the devil's name is Alzheimer's.

4. Enjoy the simple things.

5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.

6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.

7. Surround yourself with what you love, whether it's family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.

8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.

9. Don't take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, to the next county, to a foreign country, but NOT to where the guilt is.

10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

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22nd February 2005

Getting to know your friends & relatives.

Answer the questions in this email.

Then send this to a whole bunch of people you know They read your answers and learn more about you. They then send you back their answers to the questions in this email.

The theory is that you'll learn a lot of little known facts about your friends/relatives.

It's fun and easy. You might be surprised with some of the things you learn about people you think you know...

1. IF YOU COULD BUILD A HOUSE, WHERE WOULD IT BE? 2. FAVOURITE ARTICLE OF CLOTHING?

3. FAVOURITE PHYSICAL FEATURE OF THE OPPOSITE SEX? 4. THE LAST CD THAT YOU BOUGHT? 5. FAVOURITE PLACE TO BE?

6. WHERE'S YOUR LEAST FAVOURITE PLACE TO BE?

7. WHAT'S YOUR FAVOURITE PLACE TO BE MASSAGED?

8. WHAT'S MOST IMPORTANT, STRONG MIND OR STRONG BODY?

9. WHAT TIME DO YOU WAKE IN THE MORNING?

10. WHAT'S YOUR FAVOURITE KITCHEN APPLIANCE?

11. WHAT MAKES YOU REALLY ANGRY?

12. IF YOU COULD PLAY ANY INSTRUMENT WHAT WOULD IT BE?

13. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE COLOUR?

14. CAR OR MPV?

15. FAVOURITE CHILDREN'S STORY?

16. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE SEASON?

17. WHAT'S YOUR LEAST FAVOURITE HOUSEHOLD CHORE?

18. IF YOU COULD HAVE ONE SUPER POWER, WHAT WOULD IT BE?

19. Do YOU HAVE A TATTOO?

20. CAN YOU JUGGLE?

21. THE ONE PERSON FROM YOUR PAST YOU WISH YOU COULD GO BACK AND TALK TO?

22. WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE DAY?

23. WHAT'S IN THE TRUNK OF YOUR CAR? 24. WHICH DO YOU PREFER, SUSHI OR HAMBURGER?

25. WHAT DO YOU SECRETLY LIKE THAT NO ONE KNOWS?

26. FROM THE PEOPLE YOU WILL EMAIL THIS TO WHO'S MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND?

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21st February 2005

Things I Learned From Noah's Ark

Everything I need to know, I learned from Noah's Ark.

1. Don't miss the boat.

2. Remember that we are all in the same boat.

3. Plan ahead. It wasn't raining when Noah built the Ark.

4. Stay fit. When you're 60 years old, someone may ask you to do something really big.

5. Don't listen to critics; just get on with the job that needs to be done.

6. Build your future on high ground.

7. For safety's sake, travel in pairs.

8. Speed isn't always an advantage. The snails were on board with the cheetahs.

9. When you're stressed, float awhile.

10. Remember, the Ark was built by amateurs; the Titanic by professionals.

11. The whole world can change in only 40 days.

12. No matter the storm, when you are with God, there's always a rainbow waiting.

Have a fantastic day!

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20th February 2005

True or False?

Prankish Disney animators slipped a few frames of Jessica Rabbis without underwear into the film……?

The first translation of Coca-Cola into Chinese meant “bite the wax tadpole”….?

Kiss & Tell email shows up the not so nice aspects of the reviewer….?

True or False? Click here to find out…..

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19th February 2005

Well, this has got to be the simplest, and most effective, formula for goal success ever.

You need no other formula or strategy, ever. In order to achieve any and every goal, you simply need to answer these 3 questions. "In order to achieve my goal....

1. What do I need to STOP doing?

2. What do I need to START doing?

3. What do I need to DO MORE OF?"

THAT'S ALL THERE IS TO THIS FORMULA FOR SUCCESSFUL GOALSETTING... But if you DO want more suggestions and tips for goal setting, go to:

self help goals setting page

Famous Quotes by Jim Rohn

Show your contempt for the problem and your concern for the person.

Be sensitive to the plight of others. You have to know about the tragedies as well as the triumphs, the failures as well as the success.

How do you build a bridge between age 12 and age 40? By remembering.

One of the greatest gifts you can give to anyone is the gift of attention.

The more you care, the stronger you can be.

Don't operate on the heart with a hatchet.

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18th February 2005

The ABC's of Celebrating Love!

To be a special Valentine to your partner takes lots of energy, time, attention and Love. Let's all give some thought about who we are being in our relationship, what we can do to make them better and who we will have to become to have them be healthy and successful. Let's make EVERYDAY Valentine's Day for our partner.

Let's begin with the premise that relationships are something that must be worked on all the time, not only when they are broken and need to be fixed!

Here are a few ideas to get you started!

A: Absolutely amaze your partner with adoration. Let them know in very special ways that you care. Exercise extravagant respect and devotion toward your lover. Accept them for who they are. Demonstrate your warm attachment and affection to them. Avoid taking your partner for granted.

B: Believe in your instincts. Be spontaneous. Don't plan. . . just do something that you've wanted to do with your partner for a long time. Let your love occur naturally. Stop and pick a roadside flower and present it to your partner.

C: Cuddle. Lie close and be cozy. Do spoons! Just hold each other. There is a very special healing power in a close, warm embrace. C is also for "considerate."

D: Discover new ways of expressing your love for each other. Hire a skywriter. Put a message up on a billboard. Buy a radio commercial to say I love you. Record a special message on a cassette.

E: Entice your lover to try a new way of making love. Always making love the same way can bring on boredom. Focus on pleasure. Enjoy each other to the fullest. Read, Red Hot LoveNotes for Lovers.

F: Flirt for fun and frivolity. Be creative in your flirting. Pretend you are together for the first time or that you are trying to pick up your lover.

G: Gaze into each other's eyes with a steady intention to say, "I love you" without words. Smile. Notice the eye color. Say something nice about them. Be generous with your love.

H: Have a private party for just the two of you. Candles, music, the works. Talk. Listen. Express your love for one another. I: Indulge each other's desires. Write your secret desires on pieces of paper and trade. You may be surprised.

J: Joke and have fun together. Lighten up. Be joyous. Release your sense of humor. Have fun with love.

K: Kissy. . . kissy. . . kissy! Quick pecks on the cheek don't work. Give your partner an unexpected, looooooong, juicy kiss. Be keen on kissing!

L: Love with all your heart and soul. Always remember to speak, "I love you" at least once each day. Express love in new and exciting ways. Remember to love yourself and do nice things for you too.

M: Massage away the day's tension and stress. Begin with the feet and work up. Surprise your lover with your magic fingers or tantalizing tongue. Buy some special massage oil; something that smells good.

N: Nurture your need for nibbling. Nibble each other's earlobes or other parts of the body that feels good. Practice a soft, light, romantic nibble with your lover. Nibbling feels good.

O: Offer breakfast in bed or some other surprise your lover might like. Be creative. Plan. Make it very special.

P: Pretend you are long-lost, passionate lovers. Use your imagination. Think! What could you do that you haven't done for a long time? Do that.

Q: Quote your lover a love poem or a special passage from a book or greeting card that expresses exactly how you feel.

R: Remember the little things. Respect your partner by paying attention. Be aware when your partner's likes and dislikes. Notice what makes them happy and deliver more of that.

S: Slow dance by candlelight or in the backyard in the moonlight. Get back to romance. Be sensitive to the romantic needs of your lover. Romantically impaired? Read, 1001 Ways to Be Romantic.

T: Try a little tenderness. Be gentle. Practice the "soft touch." Go slow. Be intentional.

U: Uncover your deepest feelings. Speak them or write them to your lover. Communicate them unwaveringly. Let your emotions express themselves with sensitivity, understanding and love.

V: Vow your eternal love for each other. Renew your vows. Make some new ones. Look up the word "vow" in the dictionary. Live by your solemn promises.

W: Watch a sunrise or sunset together. Bring a picnic basket with snacks and your favorite beverage. Let the warmth you feel for your partner be felt.

X: X-plore your romantic dreams. Daydream about this one. Think. X-cellerate. Don't wait. Do something X-citing together; something you said you would do in the past, but you both have been putting off or making X-cuses about.

Y: Yearn for each other's touch. Don't hold back. A hug-a-day pays dividends beyond your wildest imaginings. AND. . . it feels good to be touched by the one you love.

Z: Zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz in each other's arms. Zero in on being close. Touching feels good. Enhance your enjoyment by listening to your partner's breathing cycle and to their heartbeat. Inhale and exhale together. Become as one.

Now I can say my A-B-C's!

Copyright 2005 - Larry James. Reprinted with permission. - This article is adapted from Larry's book, "LoveNotes for Lovers: Words That Make Music for Two Hearts Dancing!" Author Larry James presents seminars nationally for singles and couples. mailto:LarryJames@CelebrateLove.com - http://www.CelebrateLove.com

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17th February 2005

The Rose by Jim Rohn

Lifestyle is style over amount. And style is an art - the art of living. You can't buy style with money. You can't buy good taste with money. You can only buy more with money. Lifestyle is culture - the appreciation of good music, dance, art, sculpture, literature, plays and the art of living well. It's a taste for the fine, the unique, the beautiful.

Lifestyle also means rewarding excellence wherever you find it by not taking the small things of life for granted. Today as we celebrate Valentine's Day, I wanted to illustrate this with a personal anecdote:

Many years ago my lady friend and I were on a trip to Carmel, California for some shopping and exploring. On the way we stopped at a service station. As soon as we parked our car in front of the pumps, a young man, about eighteen or nineteen, came bouncing out to the car and with a big smile said, "Can I help you?"

"Yes," I answered. "A full tank of gas, please." I wasn't prepared for what followed. In this day and age of self-service and deteriorating customer treatment, this young man checked every tire, washed every window - even the sunroof - singing and whistling the whole time. We couldn't believe both the quality of service and his upbeat attitude about his work.

When he brought the bill I said to the young man, "Hey, you really have taken good care of us. I appreciate it."

He replied, "I really enjoy working. It's fun for me and I get to meet nice people like you."

This kid was really something!

I said, "We're on our way to Carmel and we want to get some milkshakes. Can you tell us where we can find the nearest Baskin-Robbins?"

"Baskin-Robbins is just a few blocks away," he said as he gave us exact directions. Then he added, "Don't park out front - park around to the side so your car won't get sideswiped."

What a kid!

As we got to the ice cream store we ordered milkshakes, except that instead of two, we ordered three. Then we drove back to the station. Our young friend dashed out to greet us. "Hey, I see you got your milkshakes."

"Yes, and this one is for you!"

His mouth fell open. "For me?"

"Sure. With all the fantastic service you gave us, I couldn't leave you out of the milkshake deal."

"Wow!" was his astonished reply.

As we drove off I could see him in my rear-view mirror just standing there, grinning from ear to ear.

Now, what did this little act of generosity cost me? Only about two dollars - you see, it's not the money, it's the style.

Well, I must have been feeling especially creative that day, so on our arrival in Carmel I drove directly to a flower shop. As we walked inside I said to the florist, "I need a long-stemmed rose for my lady to carry while we go shopping in Carmel."

The florist, a rather unromantic type, replied, "We sell them by the dozen."

"I don't need a dozen," I said, "just one."

"Well," he replied haughtily, "it will cost you two dollars."

"Wonderful," I exclaimed. "There's nothing worse than a cheap rose."

Selecting the rose with some deliberation, I handed it to my friend. She was so impressed! And the cost? Two dollars. Just two dollars. A bit later she looked up and said, "Jim, I must be the only woman in Carmel today carrying a rose." And I believe she probably was.

Can you imagine the opportunity to create magic with those around you, and all for the cost of a few dollars, some imagination and care. Remember, it is not the amount that matters but the thought and care that often has the greatest impact upon those you love.

To Your Success, Jim Rohn

16th February

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21 things to remember... think about each one SERIOUSLY...

before moving on to the next one.

1. Success stops when YOU do!

2. Look for opportunities... not guarantees.

3. If you don't start, it's certain you won't arrive.

4. The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.

5. We often fear the thing we want the most.

6. Whatever you are willing to put up with, is exactly what you will have.

7. Others can stop you temporarily, but only you can do it permanently.

8. You will never "have it all together."

9. The biggest lie on the planet: "When I get what I want, I will be happy."

10. When your ship comes in... make sure you are willing to unload it.

11. I've learned that ultimately, 'takers' lose and 'givers' win.

12. Life's precious moments don't have value, unless they are shared.

13. Life is a journey... not a destination. Enjoy the trip!

14. Most people will be about as happy, as they decide to be.

15. He or she who laughs... lasts.

16. Yesterday was the deadline for all complaints.

17. No one can ruin your day without YOUR permission.

18. Life is what's coming... not what was.

19. Success is getting up one more time.

20. When things go wrong... don't go with the flow.

21. Now is the most interesting time of all.

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Best friends

15th February 2005

In kindergarten your idea of a good friend was the person who let you have the red crayon when all that was left was the ugly black one. In first grade your idea of a good friend was the person who went to the bathroom with you and held your hand as you walked through the scary halls. In second grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you stand up to the class bully. In third grade your idea of a good friend was the person who shared their lunch with you when you forgot yours on the bus. In fourth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who was willing to switch square dancing partners in gym so you wouldn't have to be stuck do-si-do-ing with Nasty Nick or Smelly Susan. In fifth grade your idea of a friend was the person who saved a seat on the back of the bus for you. In sixth grade your idea of a friend was the person who went up to Nick or Susan, your new crush, and asked them to dance with you, so that if they said no you wouldn't have to be embarrassed. In seventh grade your idea of a friend was the person who let you copy the social studies homework from the night before that you had. In eighth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pack up your stuffed animals and old baseball but didn't laugh at you when you finished and broke out into tears. In ninth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who would go to a party thrown by a senior so you wouldn't wind up being the only freshman there. In tenth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who changed their schedule so you would have someone to sit with at lunch. In eleventh grade your idea of a good friend was the person who gave you rides in their new car, convinced your parents that you shouldn't be grounded, consoled you when you broke up with Nick or Susan, and found you a date to the prom. In twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you pick out a college/university, assured you that you would get into that college/university, helped you deal with your parents who were having a hard time adjusting to the idea of letting you go... At graduation your idea of a good friend was the person who was crying on the inside but managed the biggest smile one could give as they congratulated you. The summer after twelfth grade your idea of a good friend was the person who helped you clean up the bottles from that party, helped you sneak out of the house when you just couldn't deal with your parents, assured you that now that you and Nick or you and Susan were back together, you could make it through anything.

Helped you pack up for university and just silently hugged you as you looked through blurry eyes at 18 years of memories you were leaving behind, and finally on those last days of childhood, went out of their way to give you reassurance that you would make it in college as well as you had these past 18 years, and most importantly sent you off to college knowing you were loved. Now, your idea of a good friend is still the person who gives you the better of the two choices, holds your hand when you're scared, helps you fight off those who try to take advantage of you, thinks of you at times when you are not there, reminds you of what you have forgotten, helps you put the past behind you but understands when you need to hold on to it a little longer, stays with you so that you have confidence, goes out of their way to make time for you, helps you clear up your mistakes, helps you deal with pressure from others, smiles for you when they are sad, helps you become a better person, and most importantly loves you! Pass on to those friends of the past, and those of the future...and those you have met along the way... [crying yet? oh there's more]

Thank you for being a friend. No matter where we go or who we become, never forget who helped us get there. There's never a wrong time to pick up a phone or send a message telling your friends how much you miss them or how much you love them.

You know who you are, pass it on to someone who you want to remind. So send this to all your friends and maybe those who aren't but just watch and see who sends it back. If you love someone, tell them. Remember always to say what you mean. Never be afraid to express yourself. Take this opportunity to tell someone what they mean to you. Seize the day and have no regrets.

Most importantly, stay close to your friends and family, for they have helped make you the person that you are today and are what it's all about anyway. Pass this along to your friends. Let it make a difference in your day and theirs. The difference between expressing love and having regrets is that the regrets may stay around forever.

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13th February 2005

Personal development self help Blog:

To be young Again... When we were kids You lived as a child in the 50s or the 60s or earlier.

Looking back, it's hard to believe that we have lived as long as we have...

As children, we would ride in cars with no seat belts or air bags. Riding in the back of a pickup truck on a warm day was always a special treat.

Our baby cribs were covered with bright coloured lead-based paint.

We had no childproof lids on medicine bottles, doors, or cabinets, and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets. (Not to mention hitchhiking to town as a young kid!) We drank water from the garden hose and not from a bottle. Horrors.

We would spend hours building our go-carts out of scraps and then rode down the hill, only to find out we forgot the brakes.

After running into the bushes a few times we learned to solve the problem. We would leave home in the morning and play all day, as long as we were back when the streetlights came on. No one was able to reach us all day.No cell phones. Unthinkable.

We played dodgeball and sometimes the ball would really hurt. We got cut and broken bones and broken teeth and there were no law suits from these accidents. They were accidents.

And No one was to blame but us. Remember accidents? We had fights and punched each other and got black and blue and learned to get over it. We ate cupcakes, bread and butter, and drank sugar soda but we were never overweight.... .....we were always outside playing. We shared one grape soda with four friends, from one bottle and no one died from this? We did not have Playstations, Nintendo 64, X Boxes, video games at all, 101 channels on cable, video tape movies, surround sound, personal cellular phones, Personal Computers, internet chat rooms ... we had friends. We went outside and found them.

We rode bikes or walked to a friend's home and knocked on the door, or rung the bell or just walked in and talked to them. Imagine such a thing. Without asking a parent! By ourselves! Out there in the cold cruel world! Without a guardian. How did we do it? We made up games with sticks and tennis balls and ate worms and although we were told it would happen, we did not put out very many eyes, nor did the worms live inside us forever. Little League had tryouts and not everyone made the team. Those who didn't had to learn to deal with disappointment..... Some students weren't as smart as others so they failed a grade and were held back to repeat the same grade.....Horrors. Tests were not adjusted for any reason. Our actions were our own. Consequences were expected. No one to hide behind. The idea of a parent bailing us out if we broke a law was unheard of. They actually sided with the law, imagine that! This generation has produced some of the best risk-takers and problem solvers and inventors, ever.

The past 50 years has been an explosion of innovation and new ideas.

We had freedom, failure, success and responsibility, and I learned how to deal with it all. And you're one of them.

12th February

Happiness self help Blog:

Comic Perspectives on Life

Just remember...if the world didn't suck, we'd all fall off.

Every time I walk into a singles bar I can hear Mom's wise words: "Don't pick that up, you don't know where it's been!" Don't argue with an idiot; people watching may not be able to tell the difference.
A good friend will come and bail you out of jail, but a true friend will be sitting next to you saying, "Whoa! That was fun!" Marriage changes passion. Suddenly you're in bed with a relative.

I don't do drugs. I get the same effect just standing up real fast.

I live in my own little world. But it's OK. They know me here.

I don't approve of political jokes. I've seen too many of them get elected.

I love being married. It's great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.

I signed up for an exercise class and was told to wear loose-fitting clothing. If I HAD any loose-fitting clothing, I wouldn't have signed up in the first place!

When I was young we used to go "skinny dipping," now I just "chunky dunk."

Why is it that our children can't read a Bible in school, but they can in prison?

Brain cells come and brain cells go, but FAT cells live forever.

I saw a woman wearing a sweat shirt with "Guess" on it. So I said "Implants?" She hit me.

If raising children was going to be easy, it never would have started with something called LABOR!

11th. February 2005

Personal Development self help Blog: Labor That Works Miracles by Jim Rohn (excerpted from The Challenge to Succeed CD series)

Two thousand years ago on April 15th one of Jesus' disciples came to him and said it was time to pay taxes (that's how I know it was around April 15th), but they had no money.

In response to his disciple's statement Jesus said "no problem".

Now why could he say "no problem"? Well, word had it that Jesus was a miracle worker.

If you hand a problem to a miracle worker what they are inclined to say is "no problem". You've got to hang out with people like that.

I belong to a small group and we do business around the world. These guys are all miracle workers. What an incredible group. If you hand any of them a problem guess what they say, "no problem".

How many books will they read to solve a problem? As many as it takes. If they need to consult - how much consulting will they do? As much as it takes. How early will they get up? As early as it takes. "No problem"... you got to hang out with people like that.

You cannot believe the thrill of being associated with miracle workers, people who will do whatever it takes to get the job done and perform miracles.

When asked about paying the taxes Jesus said it was "no problem". In fact, he said it was going to be easy - he told the disciple to just go fishing.

Now it couldn't have been any easier than that, especially for this disciple whose name was Peter, because Peter was a fisherman. Now if you can fish and you should fish and you don't fish - then that is why you do not get a miracle.

But Jesus told his disciple to go fishing and the first fish that he caught to look in its mouth. Peter, who was used to strange things happening, agreed.

Well, the first fish Peter catches, he looks in its mouth and finds coins. Peter then adds up the coins and they are exactly enough to pay his and Jesus' taxes.

"Wow!", you might say, "That is a miracle!" Here is why we call it a miracle - simply because we don't quite understand how it works. That's all. Doesn't mean it doesn't work, it just means we don't quite understand how it works.

Which is true of all miracles. In fact, for most of us - our whole life is a miracle.

How about this miracle... God says if you plant the seed I will make the tree. Wow, you can't have a better arrangement than that.

First, it gives God the tough end of the deal. What if you had to make a tree?

That would keep you up late at night trying to figure out how to make a tree. God says, "No, leave the miracle part to me.

I've got the seed, the soil, the sunshine, the rain and the seasons. I'm God and all this miracles stuff is easy for me. I have reserved something very special for you and that is to plant the seed."

I have found in life that if you want a miracle you first need to do whatever it is you can do - if that's to plant, then plant; if it is to read, then read; if it is to change, then change; if it is to study, then study; if it is to work, then work; whatever you have to do. And then you will be well on your way of doing the labor that works miracles.

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn

This is one of my favourite Jim Rohn self help articles! He is so droll and dry in stating the obvious, and lacing it with humor.

What an amazing philosphy of life he has (and shares) on work, play, contribution (even taxes) and how to simply be a BETTER YOU to have a much BETTER LIFE.... its so sipmle really.

If for some strange reason you haven't heard of the wonderful Jim Rohn before, and aren't familiar with his collection of works, do visit his site to see what he has to offer... Reading and applying Jim Rohn philosophy WILL change your life for the better.

Just click on this banner and spend a few minutes on his wonderful site, with hundreds of self help articles like the one above.

That's why I'm such a fan.... Helene Malmsio

10th February

Happiness self help Blog:

Life Reflections

• If you're too open minded, your brains will fall out.

• Age is a very high price to pay for maturity.

• Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he'll be a mile away - and barefoot.

• Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than going to a garage makes you a mechanic.

• Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.

• A clear conscience is usually the sign of a bad memory.

• A closed mouth gathers no feet.

• If you must choose between two evils, pick the one you've never tried before.

• My idea of housework is to sweep the room with a glance.

• I have found at my age going bra-less pulls all the wrinkles out of my face.

• If you look like your passport picture, you probably need the trip.

• Always yield to temptation, because it may not pass your way again.

• Bills travel through the mail at twice the speed of checks.

• A conscience is what hurts when all your other parts feel so good.

• Eat well, stay fit, die anyway.

• Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it.

• No husband has ever been shot while doing the dishes.

9th February 2005

Happiness self help Blog:

Desire is the fuel of all goal achievement!

- By Rod Moore

When you have a burning desire for something you will take the necessary action steps to see that you achieve it.

A burning desire will see you move through, over and around the obstacles that might otherwise stand in your way.

Desire propels you forward towards that which you desire most.

The more intensely you desire your goals the more likely you are to take action and do something about them.

Those who pursue goals with low levels of desire always find the path to the achievement of their goals a battle.

They struggle to get themselves to take action and instead engage in sabotaging behavior such as procrastination, delay, and paper shuffling.

A low level of desire rarely manifests itself into high levels of goal achievement.

Some people are consumed by an almighty dream or goal that leads them to high levels of desire.

This burning desire manifests itself into single mindedness and focus on a specific purpose.

Strong desire leads people to develop a sense of mission or purpose in life.

The result can be difficulty-sleeping nights as your desire for your goals keeps you constantly creating new ways of moving forward.

In my own life I developed a burning desire to spread the magic in goals globally.

The desire to make a difference in the lives of others led me to develop a sense of mission to move towards my goal of impacting one million people.

Even though at the time I was working more than 60 hours per week in an unrelated field, my strong desire drove me to get out of bed at 4:30 in the morning to work on my goals.

In time this overwhelming desire moved me to the point where I could resign from my job and work full time on my goals.

Burning desire is a key to getting your goals.

So a burning desire is one of the essential keys to getting your goals. Without it your goals may remain elusive and out of reach.

With a burning desire your goals become real as you move towards them. The intensity of your desire will determine the tenacity and drive you have to achieve your goals.

The more you can do to build your desire the greater the likely hood of successfully achieving your goals.

To build your desire for your goals you should spend time getting fully associated with your reasons WHY!

If you can build a huge compelling list of reasons WHY you must achieve your goal then it is likely that your desire levels will rise.

If you have poor reasons why you wish to achieve your goals then it is hard to imagine your desire levels will be strong enough to demand that you take positive steps forward.

Build your desire & achieve your goals.

If desire is the fuel of goal achievement then it makes sense that the more you build your desire the greater your chance of success.

So what can you do to build your desire? It starts with a focus on WHY you want to achieve your goals.

Work on building your list of reasons WHY first. As you focus on the benefits of achieving your goals your desire will naturally rise.

Do everything you can to fan the flames of desire. Get images of your goals and put them everywhere.

Do everything you can to reinforce to yourself how strongly you want to achieve your goals.

Fan the flames of desire and watch it propel you towards your goals!

*** This article is an extract from the forthcoming book '47 Keys to Unleashing the Magic in Goals!'

Rod Moore is the creator of the Goals Magic System used by more than 5,000 people globally to set and achieve their goals. You can download your copy today at www.GoalsMagic.com

8th. February 2005

Happiness self help Blog:

Discover your own Genius.

"Time stays long enough for those who use it." Leonardo da Vinci

Besides being a painter, sculptor, architect and engineer, Leonardo da Vinci was a world-class entertainer, cook, and musician.

In his amazing life, he drew the first known plans for an aircraft, including a helicopter, and made the first accurate human anatomical drawings.

He was a genius who changed the world because he refused to put limits on himself. Leonardo referred to himself as a "man without fetters."

Michael Gelb in his best seller, "How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci: Seven Steps to Genius Every Day," writes about the way Leonardo lived his life.

For one thing, he was insatiable curious and asked questions about everything. Like Leonardo, Gelb says we are all born curious, and as children, we asked endless questions.

However, as adults we typically adapt to accepting things rather than questioning them.

Not only was Leonardo curious, he constantly experimented and recorded all his observations, ideas and queries in notebooks that he kept with him at all times.

Over his life, he wrote more than 14,000 pages filled with creative ideas and possibilities.

Gelb's premise is that each of us has within ourselves a creative genius that remains untapped because we define ourselves narrowly based on one or two skills we have developed.

What if you have unlimited natural gifts you haven't discovered?

Ways to unleash your creative genius:

1. Be insatiably curious- ask questions without assuming anything. Look at the world as if it is brand new.

2. Experiment every day with change and ideas. Look at mistakes and failures as ways to learn and grow.

3. Keep an "idea notebook" with you at all times to capture your creative ideas and observations.

4. Make a list of the most independent thinkers you know and hang out with them. Be open to new and revolutionary ideas.

5. Immerse yourself in life and experience all the possibilities and opportunities you can!

7th February 2005

Happiness self help Blog:

Men are like..... Placemats. They only show up when there's food on the table.

Men are like..... Mascara. They usually run at the first sign of emotion.

Men are like..... Bike helmets. Handy in an emergency, but otherwise they just look silly.

Men are like..... Government bonds. They take so long to mature.

Men are like..... Copiers. You need them for reproduction, but that's about it.

Men are like..... Lava lamps. Fun to look at, but not all that bright.

Men are like..... Bank accounts. Without a lot of money, they don't generate much interest.

Men are like..... High heels. They're easy to walk on once you get the hang of it.

Men are like..... Curling irons. They're always hot, and they're always in your hair.

ENGRISH

Mangled English from Japan, and http://www.engrish.com

Seen at a train station:
"For rest rooms, go back toward your behind"

Seen at a laundry:
"Push button. Foam coming plenty. Big Noise. Finish."

Seen on a baseball-style jacket:
"US Marines, the greatest fighting farce on earth."

Seen on a kitchen knife:
"Warning keep out of children."

Seen on a blanket:
"Not to be used as protection from a tornado."

Seen on a product used to relieve painful hemorrhoids:
"Lie down on bed and insert poscool slowly up to the projected portion like a sword-guard into anal duct."

An advisory for expectant mothers from the Public Health Center in Joetsu City in Niigata Prefecture:

1. Strain yourself or push at the time of contraction and two hours later a baby will come out.

2. A swell will be checked if there is, by pushing shin.

3. If your weight gains rapidly, it is a sign of swell or fatness.

4. If you pick up around your nipple come out 1 cm high, and it'll be alright.

5. You'd better begin your sexual intercourse after the delivery after the one mouth check-up with a doctor.

6. If you want to do a vowel movement don't stop.

7. After you vomit, you rinse your mouse and if you can eat, eat.

8. You can do 'foo, foo' naturally when you open your mouth slightly.

9. Brasure can be for maternity one or nursing bra, so that your breast can't be oppressed.

10. There are many differences of ideas in family but she felt family bondage after delivery as a wife.

6th February 2005

Happiness self help Blog: How to Squeeze the Most Out of Your Time by Brian Tracy

How do you start your day?

Years ago I started planning mine by writing everything down I would have to do, the night before.

I found that drawing up your list the night before prompts your subconscious to work on your plans and goals while you sleep.

When you wake up, you feel ready to tackle your challenges.

When prioritizing and planning your time, consider the following points:

- Key questions. What is the highest value-added action I can do?

What can I and only I do that I've done well before to make a difference? Why am I on the payroll?

The answers to these questions help identify all that needs to be done and in what order.

That, in turn, will bolster personal productivity.

- Values.

Decide what's important to you, and in what order. Make sure your values don't conflict with work. Energy spent worrying diminishes your abilities.

- Consequences.

Every action has consequences - good and bad. Consider what rewards you'd reap by completing a task.

Then, compare those rewards with the consequences of putting it aside. This process makes it easier to see which goals have a higher value.

- The Pareto Principle.

Vilfredo Pareto, a 19th-century engineer, argued that 20% of what you do accounts for 80% of the value.

When considering the importance of a task, ask yourself whether it's among the 20% that creates the most value.

- Urgency vs. Importance.

An unexpected phone call or a drop-in visitor may be urgent, but the consequences of dealing with either may not be important in the long run.

The urgent is other-oriented, it's caused by someone else. Important things are self-directed and have the greatest value for you.

- The Limiting Step.

Standing between you and what you want to achieve is the limiting step. That's the bottleneck that determines how quickly you can reach your goal.

It's important to identify that step and focus single-mindedly on getting that one thing done.

- A Written Plan.

Lists of goals, tasks and objectives are of no help unless they're written. Putting your plans on paper makes a seemingly elusive goal more concrete.

There's a connection that takes place between the brain and the hand. When you don't write it down, it's fuzzy, but as you write it and revise it, it becomes clear.

- Visualization.

See yourself doing what you need to get done. Visualization trains the subconscious to focus on completing tasks. Say, for example, that you want to begin each morning by exercising.

Visualizing yourself doing sit-ups and push-ups the night before conditions the mind to do those the next day.

When you prime your mind, it wakes you up even before the alarm clock goes off.

Remember you are a winner and preparation goes a long way in helping you achieve all your goals.

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"Get around people who have something of value to share with you. Their impact will continue to have a significant effect on your life long after they have departed." Jim Rohn famous quote

5th February 2005

Happiness self help blog:

The Power of a Few Written Words

19th century author Guy de Maupassant is generally considered to be the greatest short story writer in French history. This anecdote is supposedly true:

A blind beggar holds a sign asking for money. The usual "J'ai faim" (I'm hungry).

Maupassant passes by and sees the sign. He doesn't have any coins, but he does have something to write with.

"Old man," he says, "I have no money to give you. But allow me to write something on your sign and you'll be rewarded."

The beggar agrees. Maupassant writes something and walks away.

The next passerby stops, reads the sign, and drops a coin in the beggar's cup.

Same thing happens again. And again.

Everyone walking by drops in some change.

The next day, it's even better.

Finally, the old man can't stand it.

He can't figure out what Maupassant could possibly have written on his sign that made such a big difference.

He stops someone and asks him to read it aloud.

"It says, 'You who will once again see the flowers of spring, please help feed a man who shall never see them again.'"

Consider the abundance in your life today, and send your heartfelt Gratitude out to God, or whatever you acknowledge is "bigger than you", and be truly aware and appreciative of all the things you have taken for granted today, that we should instead be grateful for every day.

- Helene Malmsio

4th February 2005

Happiness Self Help Blog:

Oh! Don't you just love those "blonde" jokes?

SPEEDING TICKET

A police officer stops a blonde for speeding and asks her very nicely if he could see her license.

She replied in a huff, "I wish you guys would get your act together. Just yesterday you take away my license, and then today you expect me to show it to you!"

EXPOSURE

A blonde is walking down the street with her blouse open and her right breast hanging out.

A policeman approaches her and says, "Ma'am, are you aware that I could cite you for indecent exposure?"

She asks, "Why officer?" "Because your breast is hanging out," he says.

She looks down and says, "OH MY GOSH, I left the baby on the bus again!"

RIVER WALK

There's this blonde out for a walk. She comes to a river and sees another blonde on the opposite bank. "Yoo-hoo!" she shouts, "How can I get to the other side?"

The second blonde looks up the river, then down the river and shouts back, "You ARE on the other side!"

KNITTING

A highway patrolman pulled alongside a speeding car on the freeway.

Glancing at the car, he was astounded to see that the blonde behind the wheel was knitting!

Realizing that she was oblivious to his flashing lights and siren, the trooper cranked down his window, turned on his bullhorn and yelled, "PULL OVER!"

"NO!", the blonde yelled back,
"IT'S A SCARF!"

BLONDE ON THE SUN

A Russian, an American, and a Blonde were talking one day. The Russian said, "We were the first in space!"

The American said, "We were the first on the moon!" The Blonde said, "So what? We're going to be the first on the sun!" The Russian and the American looked at each other and shook their heads.

"You can't land on the sun, you idiot! You'll burn up!", said the Russian.

To which the Blonde replied, "We're not stupid, you know. We're going at night!"

IN A VACUUM

A blonde was playing Trivial Pursuit one night. It was her turn. She rolled the dice and she landed on Science &Nature.

Her question was, "If you are in a vacuum and someone calls your name, can you hear it?" She thought for a time and then asked, "Is it on or off?"

FINAL EXAM

The blonde reported for her university final examination that consists of yes/no type questions.

She takes her seat in the examination hall, stares at the question paper for five minutes and then, in a fit of inspiration, takes out her purse, removes a coin and starts tossing the coin, marking the answers after each toss.

Within half an hour she is all done, whereas the rest of the class is still sweating it out. During the last few minutes, she is seen desperately throwing the coin, muttering and sweating.

The moderator, alarmed, approaches her and asks what is going on. "I finished the exam in half an hour, but now I'm rechecking my answers."

FINALLY, THE BLONDE JOKE TO END ALL BLONDE JOKES

A girl was visiting her blonde friend, who had acquired two new dogs, and asked her what their names were.

The blonde responded by saying that one was named Rolex and one was named Timex. Her friend said,"Whoever heard of someone naming dogs like that?"

"HellOOO," answered the blond. "They're watch dogs!"

JUST ONE MORE, OKAY?

Three women go down to Mexico one night to celebrate college graduation, get drunk, and wake up in jail, only to find that they are to be executed in the morning, though none of them can remember what they did the night before.

The first one, a redhead, is strapped in the electric chair, and is asked if she has any last words.

She says, "I just graduated from BrighamYoungUniversity, and believe in the almighty power of God to intervene on the behalf of the innocent."

They throw the switch and nothing happens. They all immediately prostrate themselves; beg for her forgiveness, and release her.

The second one, a brunette, is strapped in and gives her last words, "I just graduated from the Harvard School of Law and I believe in the power of justice to intervene on the part of the innocent."

They throw the switch and, again, nothing happens. Again, they all immediately prostrate themselves; beg for her forgiveness, and release her.

The last one, a blonde, is strapped in and says, "Well, I'm from the University of Tennessee and just graduated with a degree in Electrical Engineering, and I'll tell ya right now, y'all ain't gonna electrocute nobody if you don't plug this thing in."

Keep the jokes coming, they are so corny - yet I just love them - and I'm a natural blonde, to boot. - Helene Malmsio.

3rd February 2005

Happiness self help blog:

"Talk Yourself Into Success"

You’ve tried and failed. You’ve watched others fall. You’re wiped out, burned out, and beaten. Is there any way to turn it all around?

If you’re reading this, than likely you have been working very hard at realizing a goal that now seems out of reach. It does not matter whether that goal is related to diet, creating a home business, getting a promotion, finishing a difficult course, or mastering a talent. The one common factor is that our past can, and will, affect our future success.

So, if nothing has worked, shouldn’t you throw in the towel? Learn from your mistakes and quit while you’re ahead?

Think of this: "What’s Possible?"

Why say Possible?

Motivational speaker, Les Brown, shares an interesting lesson with us when he points out that past perceptions influence our projected images of success or failure. Consider what changes can be made when you see that others before you have conquered the same battles, and same fears, and created a successful outcome. And consider that if it was possible for them, than it IS possible. Period.

Before Roger Bannister, NO one believed the 4 minute mile barrier could be broken. SINCE his record was set, 20,000 individuals, including high school students, have broken the 4 minute mile. Why? Now, it was possible.

Do all the so called ‘success’ stories ensure that you too will follow the same path to fame, fortune or health? Well, reason will tell us that no two individuals will have identical results in life. But recognizing the importance of accepting possibility can mean the difference between success and failure.

So look around you. Read the stories of those you admire. Emulate their qualities, strategies or attitudes. And remember everyday that it was possible. That it IS POSSIBLE.

Enjoy more of Les Brown and other motivational and educational experts by viewing the free sample program “The Course In Mastery” at www.MasteryOne. View ‘What’s On’.

Shannon Emmanuel is challenging the Possible by running several home businesses and raising a family. Find more information at http://www.Affiliate-Start.com

2nd February 2005

Happiness self help Blog:

You Have the Power to Change Your Life!

Do you wish you could go back in time and make decisions that would change your life? Well I am not a genie therefore; I am not qualified to grant you any wishes! However, there is one thing I can do which is tell you: that even though you can not travel back in time, you can still change your life. Does this sound good? Keep reading!

It does not matter how many mistakes you have made in life, how old you are, how many people you hurt along the way, how many wrong choices you made, etc. You can always start over with a new day. You can change your life for the better as long as you want to.

Even in the worst case scenarios for example a convicted child molester came to light, he went as far as going to a popular TV show and spoke about the horrible things he had done. Not that he should be anyone’s idol but, you know what: he had guts to come clean to the World and even though, he can never travel back in time an undo the harm done. He has taken the responsibility of telling parents how to protect their children from people like him. As a parent I can truly appreciate such advice.

As humans we have the ability to make mistakes, do harm, etc. But most importantly we also have the ability to learn from our experiences either good or bad. Forgive yourself and start all over again. As I stated before: It does not matter how old you are, what the odds are against you. If you would like to change your life for the better; then you have the power to do so.

Make changes today,

Kenia Morales - is the publisher of online magazine http://kpatra.com "For Every Aspect of Today's Woman. Visit her site to find a variety of women related issues and topics" click here www.kpatra.com to find Kenia's little piece of heaven her inspirational column

1st February 2005

Happiness self help blog:

Four Words that Make Life Worthwhile

by Jim Rohn (Excerpted from the Jim Rohn Weekend Event)

Over the years as I've sought out ideas, principles and strategies to life's challenges, I've come across four simple words that can make living worthwhile.

First, life is worthwhile if you Learn. What you don't know Will hurt you. You have to have learning to exist, let alone succeed.

Life is worthwhile if you learn from your own experiences - negative or positive. We learn to do it right by first sometimes doing it wrong.

We call that a positive negative. We also learn from other people's experiences, both positive and negative.

I've always said that it is too bad failures don't give seminars. Obviously, we don't want to pay them so they aren't usually touring around giving seminars.

But that information would be very valuable - we would learn how someone who had it all then messed it up.

Learning from other people's experiences and mistakes is valuable information because we can learn what not to do without the pain of having tried and failed ourselves.

We learn by what we see so pay attention. We learn by what we hear so be a good listener.

Now I do suggest that you should be a selective listener, don't just let anybody dump into your mental factory.

We learn from what we read so learn from every source; learn from lectures; learn from songs; learn from sermons; learn from conversations with people who care. Always keep learning.

Second, life is worthwhile if you Try. You can't just learn; now you have to try something to see if you can do it.

Try to make a difference, try to make some progress, try to learn a new skill, try to learn a new sport.

It doesn't mean you can do everything, but there are a lot of things you can do, if you just try. Try your best. Give it every effort. Why not go all out?

Third, life is worthwhile if you Stay. You have to stay from spring until harvest. If you have signed up for the day or for the game or for the project - see it through.

Sometimes calamity comes and then it is worth wrapping it up. And that's the end, but just don't end in the middle. Maybe on the next project you pass, but on this one, if you signed up, see it through.

And lastly, life is worthwhile if you Care. If you care at all you will get some results, if you care enough you can get incredible results.

Care enough to make a difference. Care enough to turn somebody around. Care enough to start a new enterprise.

Care enough to change it all. Care enough to be the highest producer. Care enough to set some records. Care enough to win.

Four powerful little words: learn, try, stay and care. What difference can you make in your life today by putting these words to work?

To Your Success,
Jim Rohn

31st Jan 2005

Happiness self help Blog about Creating and Protecting your Image and Repuptation

A small town prosecuting attorney called his first witness to the stand in a trial - a grand motherly, elderly woman.

He approached the woman and asked, "Mrs. Brown, do you know me?"

She responded, "Why, yes, I do know you Billy Williams. I've known you since you were a young boy.

And frankly, you've been a big disappointment to me. You lie, you cheat on your wife, you manipulate people and talk about them behind their backs.

You think you're a rising big shot when you haven't the brains to realize you never will amount to anything more than a two-bit paper pusher. Yes, I know you."

The lawyer was stunned. Not knowing what else to do he pointed across the room and asked, "Mrs. Brown, do you know the defense attorney?"

She again replied, "Why, yes I do. I've known Tommy Bradley since he was a youngster, too.

I used to baby-sit him for his parents. And he, too, has been a real disappointment to me. He's lazy, bigoted, he has a drinking problem.

The man can't build a normal relationship with anyone and his law practice is one of the shoddiest in the entire state. Yes, I know him."

At this point, the judge rapped the courtroom to silence and called both lawyers to the bench.

In a very quiet voice, he said with menace, "If either of you asks her if she knows me, you'll be in jail for contempt within 5 minutes!"

So, How strong is your reputation for honesty, integrity and honour?