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Happiness self help blog
archived for October 04
by Helene Malmsio

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30th October 2004

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All the best in Happiness, Health and Prosperity – Helene Malmsio

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25th October 2004

The purpose of our lives is to be happy.
The 14th Dalai Lama

Let us be grateful to people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.
- Marcel Proust

All the best in Happiness, Health and Prosperity – Helene Malmsio

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23rd. October 2004

Money management self help blog notes:

Home is where we learn to watch television.

Have you ever seen a TV commercial for a $100,000 necklace? For your own private jet? Rolls Royce?

Actually you don’t see too many advertisements for anything remotely prosperous.

Mainly it’s the latest $1.99 meal at McDonalds…….Beer and cola commercials abound. The irony is that the masses have their reality reflected back at them and it’s all lack-conscious, low-end stuff. It’s what they wear, what they see, what they eat.

prosperity page:

How do you FEEL about being or becoming truly PROSPEROUS in your everyday life?

Are you programmed against rich people?
Money is Bad. Rich people are evil. It is spiritual to be poor. They may be rich, but that doesn’t make them happy. Rich women are vain, vapid and superficial. Rich men are workaholics who don’t care about their family, only making money.

Our media is very effective in programming us from childhood about how we should feel about wealth and wealthy people. Consider the TV shows Dallas and Dynasty. When did you last see anything on TV that showed people as Wealthy, who were also healthy, thin, happy, loving, contributing, and well balanced people you would like as friends or partners…..

Why do we then soak up the image of money not bringing wellbeing?

If you are overweight and out of shape, it’s good to know that those who are very thin aren’t necessarily happy. Because let’s face it, that would really be too much. If we knew that they were thin AND happy – that might be more than we can bear!

And if we know that rich people are poor parents – we can feel noble for being broke. If we learn that wealthy people are vain, stupid and cheat on their spouses – then we can justify why we never opened that business, went after that promotion, or acted on our dream.

“We may be poor, but at least we are honest”. Translation to your subconscious mind: Rich people are crooks.

Is it any wonder that you grow up hating rich people and subconsciously not wanting to be like them? Self help finance blog notes continued on link page below:

prosperity page:

These notes are drawn from a collection of books by Randy Gage, that are just so appropriate for the Prosperity message being set here on the site, that I will use them to get the ball rolling for you.

All the best in Happiness, Health and Prosperity – Helene Malmsio

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22nd October 2004
“ Ask yourself whether you are happy, and you cease to be so” – self help quote from John Stuart Mill

” Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to error that counts. ”
- Nikki Giovanni

Feel Happy!

Self help strategy blog for emotion management:

You might look at the following strategy and think “Oh No! Not more of this simplistic – quick fix – nonsense”.
Please don’t discard this powerful concept just because it is so SIMPLE. Simple doesn’t always mean EASY.
You have to apply yourself – consistentlly – with a genuine desire to improve your emotional wellbeing, THEN you will get powerful results.

Go on – Try this straightforward self help exercise – answer the questions and notice how you feel when you think about the answers……

“What am I most enjoying in my life right now?”
(as Tony R. says, don’t say “..nothing!”
Instead ask yourself “If I could be enjoying something in my life right now, what would that be?”)

Then ask yourself:
“What about that do I enjoy?”

Then ask yourself:
“How does that make me feel?”

Then next ask yourself:
“What am I most happy about in my life right now?”

Then ask yourself:
“What about that makes me feel happy?”

Notice how your emotions react to the experience of dwelling or thinking about the good and sweet things in your life. If you like the feeling and want more of it, just keep asking yourself the right questions.

Any self help tool, no matter how powerful, only works when you work it.

Also sometimes the “essence” of certain events or tangible things can be more important to how we feel than actually having more of exactly the same thing.

You don’t need to own a horse to ride one. You especially don’t need 6 horses to ride for the same experience that riding one can give you. You don’t have to own a countryside retreat to have a picnic in the countryside. You don’t even have to own a Ferrari to drive one.

There are many ways available to get the essence of what you want, that makes you feel happy. More self help on that later….

When you start each day asking yourself questions that generate a feeling of pleasure, excitement, enthusiasm, just by the act of answering them, your day gets off on the right path.

Try designing self help questions that suit your life or interests, maybe straightforward ones like What am I excited about in my life now? What am I grateful about in my life now? What am I most looking forward to in my life today?

You don’t have to be a rocket scientist to apply this self help strategy, do you? All you need is the DESIRE to improve your day and then make the commitment to actually APPLY it every morning for at least 30 days.
It will work. – Helene Malmsio

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19th October 2004
“Change Begins With Choice ” – self help philosophy by Jim Rohn

“Every life form seems to strive to its maximum except human beings.

How tall will a tree grow? As tall as it possibly can.

Human beings, on the other hand, have been given the dignity of choice. You can choose to be all or you can choose to be less.

Why not stretch up to the full measure of the challenge and see what all you can do? ”
- Jim Rohn

Any day we wish; we can discipline ourselves to change it all. Any day we wish; we can open the book that will open our mind to new knowledge. Any day we wish; we can start a new activity.

Any day we wish; we can start the process of life change. We can do it immediately, or next week, or next month, or next year.

We can also do nothing. We can pretend rather than perform. And if the idea of having to change ourselves makes us uncomfortable, we can remain as we are.

We can choose rest over labor, entertainment over education, delusion over truth, and doubt over confidence.

The choices are ours to make. But while we curse the effect, we continue to nourish the cause. As Shakespeare uniquely observed, “The fault is not in the stars, but in ourselves.” We created our circumstances by our past choices.

We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices beginning today. Those who are in search of the good life do not need more answers or more time to think things over to reach better conclusions.

They need the truth. They need the whole truth. And they need nothing but the truth.

We cannot allow our errors in judgment, repeated every day, to lead us down the wrong path. We must keep coming back to those basics that make the biggest difference in how our life works out.

And then we must make the very choices that will bring life, happiness and joy into our daily lives.

And if I may be so bold to offer my last piece of advice for someone seeking and needing to make changes in their life – If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.

You have the ability to totally transform every area in your life – and it all begins with your very own power of choice.

To Your Success, Jim Rohn

More inspiring self help articles by Jim Rohn are to be found in the “Be Happy” pages… The master philosopher provides us with so many self help fundamentals on how to improve our levels of happiness, Health and prosperity- Helene Malmsio

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16th October 2004
“The fate of Love is that it always seems too little, or too much” – Amelia E Barr

“Love is patient and kind;
love is not jealous or boastful;
it is not arrogant or rude.
Love does not insist on it’s own way;
it is not irritable or resentful;
It dies not rejoice at wrong, but rejoices in the right.
Love bears all things, believes all things,
hopes all things, endures all things.”
- Bible: I Corinthians

I am surprised by the popularity of our self help famous quotes page, thousands of people visit it after searching for famous or motivational quotes.

As I had a request for “Love Quotes” today, I thought I would draft up an e-book for “Inspiring Love Quotes and Romance Manual”. If you would like a preliminary copy, still in Word format, email me on the blog form below, and I’ll send you one for your review.

The Romance Manual is especially useful for men, but women can get plenty of ideas too. I can add hundreds of quotes to the book, but at the moment I have left it at 15 pages, and I’ll see what my feedback is from people reading the self help Romance draft….
So if you have a favourite quote you think should be in it, or if you have a favourite Romance tip, let me know… – Helene Malmsio

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14th October 2004 self help blog
“Success is Getting what you Want – Happiness is Wanting what you Get”

“Success makes Living easier. It doesn’t make Life easier.” Bruce Springstein

I totally agree with Barbara Bush who said “At the end of your life you will never regret not having passed one more test, winning one more verdict or not closing one more deal. You will regret time not spent with a husband, a child, a friend or parent”

No one has died with their last words being “I wish I had spent more time at the office….”

But my favourite saying is the first one, which I have referred to for over 25 years now….“Success is Getting what you Want – Happiness is Wanting what you Get”

I have had many hard won and well earned “successes” in my life but the sweetest times in my life were always when I simply “wanted what I got” in my life, as a result of my labours. A small but very powerful distinction of how we perceive life.

My view has always been that the “glass is half FULL” rather than half empty….. When life hands you bitter lemons, you are being given the opportunity to enjoy home made lemonade!

“Polly-anna thinking” – sure! “Simplistic view of life” – sure!
Am I happier and more successfull in life as a result – YOU BET!

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13th October 2004 self help blog
When You Have to Make an Important Decision, Don’t Leave It (Entirely) to Chance

The Situation: You’ve done all the analysis and narrowed your options to two courses of action. Both have strengths and weaknesses, risks and rewards. You can’t make up your mind.

The Solution: Flip a coin or put each option on one side of an index card and flip it.

The Secret: Pay attention to how you feel about the winner. Are you relieved? Disappointed? That feeling represents your intuition — which has been overwhelmed by all the heavy analysis you’ve been doing.

Action to Take: Follow your intuition, not chance.

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10th October 2004 self help blog
“Motivation alone is not enough. If you have an idiot and you motivate him, now you have a motivated idiot. .” – Jim Rohn

“People have more options than they think they do. But most people spend more time planning their vacations than thinking about what they want to do with their lives.” – Bob McDonald

“I read an article recently about why it is important to align goals with our values. It seems this salesman set his goals for the coming year. He had a target for volume of sales and acquired new business. He then planned his work schedule to accomplish these goals. It would involve a great deal of travelling, with frequent weekends away from home.

Although he was successfully implementing his plan and having positive results towards meeting his goals, he was not overjoyed. Why? It had nothing to do with his job, but had all to do with his family life. You see, he put great value on being with his family. He missed time spent with his wife and sharing memorable experiences with his two sons. He was away from home too much.

When he realized this, he changed is travelling schedule so that he could be with his family every weekend, on holidays and occasionally during the week. It meant working longer hours when travelling, but to him that was okay. His adjustment put his goals in line with his values, and both his business and his family life flourished.

Are your goals in line with your values? It is necessary first to identify what your values are, both personally and professionally. How important is your family and other relationships, your health, your integrity and honesty, respect for others, meaningful career. These are only a few values to consider. Denis Waitly put it nicely, “Happiness, wealth and success are by-products of goal setting, they cannot be the goal themselves.”

If you do not have written goals for your career and your life, it is time to start. Review each goal with respect to your values. If they don’t line up, make some adjustments. Next it is important to plan your time to meet your goals. This is a topic for another time.” © 2002 Carol Halsey – read the full article at:
Aligning Goals With Your Values, self help article by Carol Halsey

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8th October 2004 self help blog
“Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

“Happiness is not a destination. It is a method of life.” – Burton Hills

When you woke up this morning, how happy had you already decided to be for the day…? We are happy by nature, usually until life comes and “happens to us” and distracts us from our natural state.

Try simply making the DECISION, simply CHOOSING TO BE HAPPY for a day. Smile when you open your eyes, and keep smiling. CHOOSE to rise above the petty distractions, and keep the “tragedies” of the day in perspective….

It works for me, no reason it won’t for you. – Helene Malmsio

=============== >>> Blog message contributed today:

Many people are just now realizing that we’ve had (and are still having) another scientific revolution, brought on by research in the field of quantum physics.

This modern scientific revolution has incredible, life-changing affirmations for people who practice self-help for their motivation, success, personal growth, etc.

One of the more interesting experiments in the quantum field proves, beyond all doubt, that light takes the form in which it is perceived. Scientists have long known that light takes the form of either photons or waves; they now know that it is HOW LIGHT IS PERCEIVED that determines its form!

Isn’t that exciting! Doesn’t that make you want to jump for joy? Why? Because quantum science is proving what we have intuitively known all our lives – our perception creates our reality.

It is now a scientific fact that we see what we believe and that matter is a creation of both our thoughts and our attitude. What great news for those of us who care enough about ourselves to nurture, grow, and guide ourselves with positive, uplifting, and effective guidance, help, and information!

Greg Kuhn, Laugh Doctor Junior



“I just recently had my Visa card stolen. Right now, it’s everywhere I want to be.” Scott Wood


Thank you Greg, for a truly inspiring and insightful contribution! If there are other visitors who would like to add their thoughts to this, just click the link below and drop us a line!

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4th October self help blog
“The real menace in dealing with a five-year-old is that in no time at all YOU begin to sound like a five-year-old. Jean Kerr

“A mother takes her son to a psychiatrist and says, “Doctor, I’d like you to evaluate my 13 year-old son.”

“He’s suffering from a transient psychosis with an intermittent rage disorder, punctuated by episodic radical mood swings, but his prognosis is good for full recovery.”
”How can you say all that without even meeting him?”
”Didn’t you say he was 13?”………….

How are your family dynamics today?

Here is wonderful article for you to read by Jim Rohn about family relationships: My Tip for the Day is READ THIS:

Today we also send our condolences to Joe Vitale and family, on the loss of his best friend, Marian. Those who are registered for his call this Tuesday (now deferred for a week ’til Tuesday 12th) will have heard the sad news by now.

We need to make sure we tell our loved ones how much they mean to us….EVERY DAY.

“To the world – you may be one person – but to one person – you may be the world”

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