How to Succeed at Anything,
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by Bill Harris
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For many years I’ve been noticing how stuck many people feel about their inability to manifest the results they want in their life.
Sometimes it is basic security, money, things that eludes us. Sometimes it’s a loving relationship. Sometimes it is the development of a skill.
Or, it could be the healing of past trauma. Very often, we feel discouraged about our inability to manifest these things in our life, even to the point of negating whole idea of wanting or achieving things.
Sometimes people get so discouraged they decide it’s wrong, not spiritual, not “good,” to want things, to achieve, or to create big things in their life.
I’ve decided to do something about it.
I have to admit one of the big thrills of my life is manifesting whatever it is I want to create in the world.
At first this was mostly around what I wanted for myself, but as I’ve become more successful it has swung around more and more to being about what I can do for others.
I have a burning desire to help others experience the incomparable thrill of creating something in the world and seeing it work. Until you have done this (in my opinion) you are only half alive. Some call it self-actualization.
I remember my grandfather (a very brilliant self-made man) telling me that nothing could match the feeling of making your own money, creating your own success, and that being given money or things did not bring the satisfaction of creating them for yourself.
I thought he was nuts, of course. “Just give it to me,” I thought. “I don’t care how I get it. I just want it.”
I now know he was right. Part of what he was saying was that the having is great, but the real thrill is in the creating.
It’s nice to have money and things, but (as they say) things don’t create happiness (though they do make unhappiness easier to bear).
Ultimately, the knowledge that you have to power to manifest whatever you need brings not only satisfaction, but a solid sense of security.
The truth is, most people have never been taught how to achieve what they want. It isn’t taught in schools, and few parents teach it to their children (probably because few know how to do it themselves).
There are many wonderful books about it (I highly recommend Think and Growth Rich by Napoleon Hill, which I have read about 40 times over the years), but to really learn how to manifest what you want in the world it helps to have some coaching and feedback from someone who has done it and knows the rules.
Hill studied achievers (the top people in the world in his day) for over 20 years before publishing his first work on the subject, a 12-volume set called The Law of Success based on extensive interviews with and study of 620 of the world’s most successful people.
One thing Hill discovered (this always fascinated me) was that a measly 2% of people really knew where they wanted to go and then did what it took to get there. 98% let circumstances dictate how and where their life went!
How, then, can you be part of the 2%? I’ve decided to teach you how to do it — if you want to — and how to experience the absolute thrill of being a creator of whatever it is you want to create. This is your chance to do good for yourself, and then to spread it around to others.
I’ve been working on this idea for at least eight years. Here’s how it started:
In 1992 I started a class in my home for people who wanted to become more successful. It continued for several years.
Each class contained about 15 people, and met one evening a week for about 6 months, for about 2 1/2 hours at a time. One by one, I took each person through a checklist of items a person needs to handle in order to be able to create whatever it is they want to create in the world or in themselves.
If you handle these items in your life, you will succeed at whatever you do.
These checklist items can be summed up, however, in one sentence, one rule:
“If you think like a successful person, and act like a successful person, you will be a successful person.”
This rule applies to anything, whether to creating a company, making money, becoming a better parent, having a good relationship, being a more spiritual person, learning a skill, being happier, mastering a sport, overcoming an adversity — anything.
I’ll bet by now you’re dying to know what the checklist is, aren’t you? Well, I’m not going to make you wait any longer (though it takes much instruction to understand an implement everything in the checklist).
Here is my checklist of the things you need to handle in order to succeed at anything:
You need to know exactly what you want.
You must create a clear, succinct, specific goal statement.
Your mind cannot help you create something unless it knows exactly what it’s supposed to create.
You need to determine what the price is that must be paid to achieve what it is you want (there is always a price), and be willing to pay it in full.
You must create a plan of action and immediately begin working the plan, improving it as more information becomes available.
You must determine what a person who would, could, or has achieved what you want to achieve believes about achieving that goal, and also what you believe about achieving that goal.
You must rid yourself of the beliefs you have that are holding you back and adopt the beliefs of the person who is successful. In other words, you must develop the resourceful beliefs necessary to achieve your goal.
You must develop the values that support achievement of your goal, and rid yourself of values that either do not support it, or are in conflict either with the goal itself or with other values that do support it (for example, you might value both risk-taking and security, and this conflict must be resolved or it will create problems).
You must create resourceful internal information sorting processes (this one is too big to explain here, but it is a biggie).
These are largely unconscious processes, and have to do with how you decide what incoming information to delete, what information you decide to focus on, in what ways you might distort incoming information, and how you create internal generalizations about that information.
There are resourceful ways to do this and unresourceful ways to do this. Having unresourceful methods in this department is one way people sabotage themselves without knowing how or why.
You must know how to deal with adversity, “failure,” and setbacks so as to turn them into opportunities. There will be no straight shot to success, and you have to know how to deal with the challenges that come up and make them into ways to move forward again.
Every adversity carries with it the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit, and you have to know how to find it.
You must develop the personality traits that support success in whatever it is you want to do, and eliminate the personality traits that do not support it.
You must learn how to control your state of mind, so as to create motivation, faith, self-discipline, ability to focus, certainty, persistence, and other resourceful states, and to avoid or shift out of fear and discouragement and other unresourceful states.
You must gather around you the resources, both material and human, that will help you achieve what you want.
The creation of the human part of this is sometimes spoken of as creating a mastermind group.
That’s it. If you handle all of this, you will succeed at anything.
Be well, William Harris, Director, Centerpointe.com Research Institute
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