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Power Tips #014 Are you Charismatic enough?
February 23, 2005
Power Tips newsletter, Issue #014
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1) One Minute Tip
1) One Minute Tip:
Consider this when you think of the day or month you have planned ahead for yourself:
You have powers you never dreamed of.
And then remember at all times through all stages of your efforts:
Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach. - Tony Robbins
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3) Tips for your Happiness:
Start Living in Prime Time by Denis Waitley
Prime time is that period between 6 and 10 p.m. during which most of the general public watches television. Commercials in prime time are the most expensive, approaching a million dollars per minute.
Your real success in life will take a quantum leap when you stop watching other people making money in their professions performing in prime time, and start living your own dreams and goals in prime time.
Time is the ultimate equal opportunity employer. Time never stops to rest, never hesitates, never looks forward or backward. Life’s raw material spends itself in the now, this moment, which is why how you spend your time is far more important than all the material possessions you may own or positions you may obtain.
Positions change, possessions come and go, you can earn more money. You can renew your supply of many things, but like good health, that other most precious resource, time spent is gone forever.
Each yesterday, and all of them together, are beyond your control. Literally all the money in the world can’t undo or redo a single act you performed. You cannot erase a single word you said. You can’t add an “I love you,” “I’m sorry”, or “I forgive you”, not even a “thank you” you forgot to say.
Each human being in every hemisphere and time zone has precisely 168 hours a week to spend. And some of the most precious hours occur in prime time.
Consider this: most of your daytime hours are spent helping other people solve their problems. The little time you have in the evenings and on weekends is all you have to spend on yourself, on your own dreams and goals, and personal development. Some thoughts to ponder:
– Have supper with your loved ones at least two to three times per week. It’s the best time for casual conversation to listen to what those close to you feel is important in their lives. Mealtime is a time to dialogue.
– A television set is an appliance. It should be used, at most, for two hours at a time. It should be off, unless specific programs of interest are selected. It should not be used as a one-eyed baby sitter. For the most part, TV exposes us to negative role models.
– Instead of watching television why not read a good fiction or non-fiction book, write a letter, engage in a hobby or craft, call a friend or someone in need of encouragement on the phone, network on your computer, go out to an ethnic restaurant, a home show, an entrepreneurial show, a musical recital, a play, a fitness class, or cultural event.
Take an art or photography class. Use prime time to live the kind of life others put on layaway.
Action Idea: If you and your family/friends watch TV, try not turning it on for one week. When you do watch TV, reduce by 50% the amount of time you spend watching it.
Concentrate your evenings and free time engaged in hands on, real life experiences, you can touch, feel, smell and engage all your senses in. Instead of virtual reality, insist on the real thing
Great Health, Wealth, Relationships and Overall Success!
4) Tips for your Health:
Make 2005 the Healthiest Year of Your Life How would it feel to rise early each day with abundant energy and a laser-sharp mind . . . completely free of aches and pains . . . lean and perfectly toned?
Imagine your immune system in peak condition, protecting you from illness and disease.
How would it feel to look in the mirror and see yourself at your ideal weight?
This can be much more than an exercise in imagination. You can experience this level of fitness and the profound sense of well-being that comes with it — and you can accomplish it this year.
Not only that . . . you can do it while still eating foods that you enjoy and engaging in exercise that brings you pleasure.
Here are 10 things you should do to make this the healthiest year of your life. Make these choices a habit and you’ll feel the difference within days. Within a week, you’ll see the difference. And within a few months, you will find yourself staring in the mirror at a vision of health and fitness.
1. Drink plenty of pure water.
Drinking enough water strengthens the immune system, promotes weight loss, improves the skin, and carries waste from the body. Drink a quart of water each day for every 50 pounds of body weight. Drink spring water from a trusted source or tap water that has been filtered to remove chlorine, lead, and fluoride.
2. Increase your physical activity.
Many of the diseases we are prone to are the result of a sedentary (see “Word to the Wise,” below) lifestyle as well as an unhealthy diet. Your body is meant to be used and will quickly deteriorate if it’s not. Physical activity should be as high a priority as eating and sleeping. Do the things you enjoy, but be sure to engage in some form of aerobic exercise at least five days a week and some form of resistance exercise at least two or three times per week.
3. Limit your carbohydrate intake.
Learn about the glycemic index and avoid carbohydrates that are too high on it. This includes potatoes, corn, grain products, baked goods, sugars, and other sweets. Stick to low- and mid-range glycemic-index foods, such as non-starchy vegetables, greens, nuts, berries, beans, and fruits.
4. Consume good sources of natural fats.
Completely avoid any products made with hydrogenated oils. Start reading the ingredients on the labels of the foods you eat. You’ll be surprised at where these “artery bombs” are hiding. Replace vegetable oils with olive oil and organic unrefined coconut oil. Increase your intake of omega-3 fats found in fish oil, grass-fed meat, walnuts, olives, organic eggs, and flaxseeds.
5. Eat protein at every meal.
Your body needs protein every day. A lack of protein sends your brain the signal that food is scarce and prompts the body to protect itself from this “famine” by storing excess fat. If you’re a vegetarian, rice protein powder is an excellent source of pure protein with no carbohydrates to raise insulin levels. Also consider spirulina, a microalgae that is 60% protein.
6. Eat a natural diet.
Whenever possible, insist on organic fruits, vegetables, and berries. Organic produce is more nutritious, free of harmful pesticides, and it even tastes better than conventional produce. Don’t believe it? Have you ever eaten a perfect home-grown tomato? If so, compare that with the taste of a mass-produced tomato that looks beautiful but tastes like a rubber ball. Also, choose grass-fed meats, organic eggs and poultry, and wild-caught fish known to be free of contaminants.
7. Eliminate artificial sweeteners.
As bad as sugar can be, artificial sweeteners are worse. The worst offender is aspartame, marketed as Nutrasweet or Equal. It has been responsible for more adverse reactions reported to the FDA than all other foods and additives combined. It has been linked to tumors, seizures, headaches, altered brain function, chronic fatigue, optic-nerve damage, and a host of other maladies. Avoid Splenda as well. For an all-natural, no-calorie sweetener, use Stevia extract.
8. Get enough rest.
While the body is at rest, your brain organizes memories, muscles are repaired and restored, and the immune system is rejuvenated. The right amount of sleep will boost creativity, improve your mood, and even decrease your chances of obesity. For optimum health, most people need seven hours of uninterrupted sleep each night.
9. Expose your skin to sunlight.
There are numerous health benefits associated with moderate sun exposure — and despite what you may have heard or read to the contrary, populations with the most exposure to sunlight actually exhibit the lowest rates of cancer. The key is to never allow your skin to burn — which means that it’s generally best to enjoy the sun before 10 a.m. and after 2 p.m. when UV rays are lower. If your lifestyle does not allow you to be in the sun for a short time each day, consider supplementing with cod liver oil. Among its other outstanding benefits, the cod liver oil will compensate for the vitamin D you may be lacking as a result of not getting enough sun.
10. Take a few sensible supplements.
You should get most of your nutrients from high-quality whole foods, but any nutritional program can be enhanced by supplementing with appropriate vitamins and minerals. In upcoming issues of Early to Rise, we’ll be giving you recommendations on supplements that we think you should consider.
The road to total health and wellness is not about making a single decision that will take you to your goal. It is about making many small decisions every day. Decisions that become habits. Habits that lead to success.
It’s about taking a few minutes a day to plan what to eat and when to exercise.
It’s about choosing a bottle of water when your mouth is craving a soft drink.
It’s about sitting down to a salad when you’re tempted to snack on chips.
It’s about going out for a 30-minute jog instead of hitting the couch after work.
It’s about waking up an hour earlier to get in a workout before you start your day.
If you commit to making these small, positive decisions and following the plan laid out above, you will very quickly begin to experience changes in your life.
5) Tips for your Prosperity:
Charisma: What is It? What will It Do for You? by Dr. Tony Alessandra
You’re squirming in your seat, wondering if the next speaker can possibly be less inspiring than the preceding one, when, suddenly, the room falls silent. Looking poised and confident, the next presenter smiles, then begins.
Instantly, it’s clear that he’s good: His strong, measured voice, his relaxed tone, his precisely articulated and well-chosen words, even his classy but understated appearance seem to fixate the crowd.
You think, “Wow! Who is this guy?” And then you realize it’s just not what he is saying, or how he looks. It’s his whole being.
As his voice and gestures signal that he’s nearing the high point of his remarks, you feel yourself soaring, rationally as well as emotionally, along with the ideas he presents so passionately…so much so that you know you’d probably follow him to a convention of cannibals if that’s where he wanted to lead you.
This guy has it!
Appeal to Mind and Emotions
But what does he have?
Actually, it’s all that–and more.
For lack of a better term, we often group such qualities under the term charisma. I’ve been studying, teaching, and writing about human behavior, especially in business, for more than 20 years now. As a result, probably like you, I know charisma when I see it…even if it’s sometimes hard to pinpoint.
But here’s my definition: Charisma is the ability to positively influence others by connecting with them physically, emotionally, and intellectually.
In brief, it’s what makes people like you and enjoy being around you…even when they don’t know much about you. This personal magnetism can exist at the level of mass movements–such as politicians and evangelists–or in the small-scale encounters of everyday life, such as the shop owner who makes you feel so comfortable and valuable that you cheerfully drive a few extra miles to her store.
I’m convinced that, contrary to popular wisdom, charisma is not something you’re born with, like having blue eyes or brown eyes. Instead, I think our personalities consist, let’s say, of a series of containers, like cups or glasses.
Some are nearly empty, some brimming, yet others are partially filled to varying degrees. Together, they constitute our potential charisma.
If all the glasses were filled to the top, you’d be so charismatic people would think you were a god…and you’d probably think so, too. But nobody has a complete set of totally full glasses, although some really gifted people–JFK or, say, Churchill–may have come close to this ideal. But, for most of us, the glasses are filled a bit erratically, though we can add to them.
Here, as I see them, are the seven main components of charisma–or, the “glasses,” if you will:
1. Your silent message…
You unconsciously send out signals to others. Maybe you look them right in the eye, or maybe you stare at your shoes when you talk. Perhaps you slump your shoulders, or maybe you square them confidently.
You may fail to smile naturally or shake hands firmly, or you might dress in a way that’s not you. All these shape your image and affect the people you want to lead.
2. Your persuasive talent…
No idea, however great, ever gets anywhere until it’s adopted. Charismatic executives can distill complex ideas into simple messages so that even the guy who sweeps the floor understands what the company stands for and why that’s important.
3. Your ability to speak well…
You may have a zillion terrific ideas, but who will know if you can’t articulate them?
4. Your listening skill…
Rarely taught and infrequently practiced, listening is nonetheless a key to communicating and making others feel special in your presence.
5. Your use of space and time…
Again, though it’s often overlooked, use of spatial and temporal territories can make or break relationships.
6. Your ability to adapt to others…
Building rapport means understanding other people’s personalities, then adapting your own behavior to increase compatibility.
7. Your vision, your ideas…
Regardless of how strong and persuasive a speaker you are, how adept you are at connecting with others, how well you listen, use your space or time, or send out silent signals, you’ve still got to have something to say… or you’ll just be an empty suit. So, it’s not a single ingredient that makes a person charismatic, and, more important, charisma isn’t based on I.Q., genetics, social position, wealth, or luck. Instead, it can be learned.
Why Charisma Matters
Learning to improve your charisma is more important than ever. Why? Change calls for strong, mesmerizing leaders.
In our age of start-ups, acquisitions, turnarounds, mergers, de-mergers, new regulatory climates, and all other sorts of rapid, unpredictable change, especially in business, that’s more true than ever.
Television and our general emphasis on the visual make charismatic people more effective. (Remember: The physical is a big component of “the silent message” glass.)
Our expectations have risen. We’ve come to demand more from people than mere competence. When even the local car dealer or supermarket manager can be seen as articulate, personable, and persuasive in a slick TV ad, we no longer readily accept those who squirm, stumble over their words, and don’t quite look us in the eye.
The old-fashioned kind of hierarchy, the command-and-control environment, is passe. Even the highest-ranking officials need more than their title to get people to accept their ideas. Instead, in this era of “empowerment,” when empathy and support are revered, charismatic people stand out because they’re communicators who are able to see things from another’s perspective and, thus, continually seek to find the common ground.
Those with personal magnetism, or charisma, are usually self-confident optimists. Viewing almost all problems as solvable–focusing on desired results rather than possible failures–helps encourage people to step forward and convert fear into challenge.
All of these are reasons for you to try to greatly improve your charisma. Remember that even if you never get a chance to head a corporation, spearhead a movement or even hold office in the local PTA, you can use your charisma, present or future, to do good for yourself and others, to make for positive change in ways large and small.
Connecting with People
A person who develops his or her charisma is likely to do well in all aspects of life. That’s because, on several different levels, they better connect with people. By definition, the charismatic person is more other-directed, more empathic. That gives them more personal power–and that’s a big plus for anybody.
Take basketball star Michael Jordan…
He didn’t make it to the big leagues, but he didn’t strike out with his millions of fans, who may have thought his ill-starred tenure with the Birmingham Barons made him, if anything, more human.
As you seek to improve your charisma and personal power, remember that when people feel someone is making them do something, they’re often frustrated and resentful–and as a result, they dig in their heels.
The truly charismatic person, strives to create feelings of collaboration and equality. They approach others interactively and try to give them a choice.
Testing this doesn’t require a big, important issue. Everyday tasks will suffice. For example, saying “Copy this report” is a mild form of coercion from a position of power.
But asking “Would you mind copying this report?” or “Do you have time to copy this report right now?” is more interactive.
Similarly, you can’t successfully order employees to “Be more productive!” or “Improve your efficiency!” But you can organize them into teams, for instance, or create suggestion systems that really work, and give people more information about the company’s profits and losses.
In addition, recognize another person’s achievements, contributions, and particular skills. Catch someone doing something right! And celebrate those successes. Everyone wants to feel that they’re on a winning team.
Be aggressively optimistic and willing to be the first to do something and to take the heat if it doesn’t work out. Charismatic people have heard all the bromides about why you can’t rock the corporate boat (“We’ve never done it that way before.” “It’s too radical a change.”), but they just pay less attention to them.
Instead, they relish a challenge, not just for themselves but for their followers, too, who wish to take risks and be allowed to make some mistakes. So if you give your people some control over resources and influence over how to do a task, you’ll help them build self-confidence.
In fact, the charismatic person often good-naturedly challenges, prods and pokes as he or she encourages others to stretch themselves. Again, take Michael Jordan.
He’s said to, even in practice, be the loudest, most demanding player on the court, goading the other Bulls to give their all.
It’s his way of being inspirational; he never stops competing, even when no one is keeping score.
The potential to be charismatic leader is within you, too. And…the payoff for doing so has never been higher.
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7) Editors Note: .
One day a father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the firm purpose of showing his son how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.
On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, “How was the trip?”
“It was great, Dad.”
“Did you see how poor people live?” the father asked.
“Oh yeah,” said the son.
“So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?” asked the father.
The son answered: “I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.
Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and They have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs.
We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.”
The boy’s father was speechless.
Then his son added, “Thanks, Dad, for showing me how poor we are.”
Isn’t perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don’t have.
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