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Power Tips #020 for your Relationships & Attitude tune up
August 23, 2005
Power Tips newsletter, Issue #020
This month we have
One Minute Tip:
3 Questions to Help You Get Out of a Bad Situation
Ask yourself the following questions:
1. Is there anything I am doing right now that, if I were starting over today, I wouldn’t get into?
2. Am I involved in a personal or business relationship that, if I had it to do over, I would avoid?
3. Have I made an expenditure of time or money that I would never make again?
If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, ask yourself one more thing: “How do I get out of this situation? And how fast can I do it?”
Getting yourself out of just one major thing that is complicating your life can make a dramatic difference. Sometimes overnight.
(Source: “Focal Point” by Brian Tracy)
“Mountaintops inspire leaders but valleys mature them.” — J. Philip Everson
“It is not the great temptations that ruin us; it is the little ones.” — John W. De Forest
“Courage and perseverance have a magical talisman, before which difficulties disappear and obstacles vanish into air.” — John Quincy Adams
“I was the seventh of nine children. When you come from that far down you have to struggle to survive.” — Robert Kennedy
Overcoming the Negative
“In the face of unjust criticism we can become bitter or better; upset or understanding; hostile or humble; furious or forgiving.” — William Arthur Ward
“It is not the great temptations that ruin us; it is the little ones.” — John W. De Forest
“The sound of failure is such a familiar sound… it can be found in the center of excuses.” — Doug Firebaugh
“The most glorious moments in your life are not the so-called days of success, but rather those days when out of dejection and despair you feel rise in you a challenge to life, and the promise of future accomplishments.” — Gustave Flaubert
“Patience is a bitter plant that produces sweet fruit.” — Charles Swindoll
“Wisely and slow; they stumble that run fast.” — William Shakespeare
“Unreasonable haste is the direct road to error.” — Jean Baptiste Moliere
“Haste trips its own heels, and fetters and stops itself.” — Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Tips for your Happiness:
Relationships: One of the Most Vital, Yet Complex Areas of Human Life by Kyle Wilson
(excerpted from Week Eighteen of the Jim Rohn One-Year Success Plan)
Welcome to Week Eighteen of the Jim Rohn One-Year Success Plan. We hope you are having a great week and are ready for this week’s journey.
This week we begin our 5th Pillar – Relationships, which is obviously one of the most vital, yet complex areas of human life.
For me this is an especially interesting Pillar/Month because although I understand and appreciate the value and importance of our relationships, it is an area that I have to work on. I think it is related to being a driven, task-oriented entrepreneur, or at least so I’m told. 🙂 Being a dad and husband is not difficult (it is one of the most important parts of my life).
The rewards are obvious, and caring for and providing for my family is part of what drives me. But outside the home is more of a stretch for me. I’m sharing this, because I believe with each month we are all challenged more in certain areas than others.
Currently, a large portion of my work now involves large amounts of time on the computer and doing email. At different times throughout the day I have reminders pop up on my computer and a good 60% are related to the topic of relationships.
The amazing thing is that most of the changes/skills/habits/thoughts/beliefs etc., that I’m encouraged and reminded of, fall under the “free” and “easy” category that we have been touching on the past several weeks and that Jim has always taught.
How free and easy is it to:
Smile at others?
Speaking of not judging, a good friend and strategic coach I know, Jim Sharp, uses as a rule; to stay as neutral as possible when it comes to relating to others, especially when communicating. He says to never make it personal or take it personally, which is solid advice for achieving good, clear communication.
Like Jim says, “Attack the problem, not the person.” Obviously, as with everything, there can be exceptions. But by following this rule you can eliminate much of the negativity that can be created in relationships, which often starts over very trivial comments or events.
For many of you, the “free” and “easy” list above may either come easily or you have already mastered it. But for the rest of us, we will continue to try and make this area of our lives a much needed priority and place to improve.
Jim and Chris have a powerful month lined up for you and will be covering these four parts of relationships.
1. Basics of Healthy Relationships
Let’s embrace the process of change and improvement in our relationships. The results are immediate in many instances and the long-term fruit is inevitable.
Enjoy the Journey!
Kyle Wilson is President of Jim Rohn International and a Weekly contributor to the Jim Rohn One-Year Success Plan – to enroll and begin the journey go to www.jimrohn.com
Tips for your Health:
Stop Using Your Snooze Alarm
During the night, you go through five different stages of sleep — from lighter to deeper. Toward morning, there is an increase in REM (rapid eye movement) sleep. Your muscles relax, dreaming occurs, and recent memories are consolidated in your brain. If your REM sleep is cut short, it could impair your mental functioning during the day.
And that’s why it’s a very bad idea to delay the start of your day by hitting the “snooze” button on your alarm. Because instead of giving yourself 30, 60, or 90 more minutes of much-needed sleep, what you’re really doing is interfering with your REM sleep and making yourself even more sleep-deprived.
According to Dr. Edward Stepanski, who has studied sleep fragmentation at the Rush University Medical Center in Chicago, a teeter-totter effect of dozing and waking causes shifts in the brain-wave patterns. “Even a subtle noise that doesn’t actually wake you up is disruptive enough to affect the sleep quality,” Dr. Stepanski said.
”That’s why someone who falls asleep with the TV on may wake up exhausted. So, if a person is rousing themselves enough to reset a clock, there’s likely to be an even more profound effect.”
(Source: Martica Heaner, writing in The New York Times)
Tips for Better Sleeping Every Night, Plus Two Bonus Free Books to Download
This article is a summary of some of the sleep aid remedies that are described in greater detail and with recipes and instructions at http://sleep-aid-tips.com
Balance and perspective:
At certain times, insomnia may result from stress.
Some stress is an inevitable part of life, but when you need to achieve a state of inner calm, a range of meditation and visualization techniques can help you work through your insecurities, worries and anxieties.
With practice, stress can be diminished so that it is no longer a cause of sleepless nights.
If you struggle to go to sleep every night of your life, you probably have more than a simple sleep disorder issue to deal with.
It is important to have your life in balance, your health and wellness optimised, and to make sure you have a clear head and calm mind ready for sleep before you go to bed.
Some of our self help sleep aid blog entries are designed to just get you to chuckle a little in your day. Laughter is the great healer, and sometimes humour is the best way to get someone to actually consider the message that is making you laugh!
So if your life is a bit out of whack, and you tend to stress more than you like in your life, have a look at our sleep aid self help blog, for resources and self help tips to get your life and overall wellbeing back in balance.
If you are worried or stressed – you simply will not sleep restfully!
Our sleep aid tips self help Blog page has an abundance of helpful articles to assist you in getting balance in your life and developing your overall life skills.
If all else fails and you are still awake in the dead of night, try some or all, of these quick insomnia cures:
Lie on your back with your knees propped up on a small pillow
We also have two free ebooks for you to download today. One for an overview of your sleep Cycles in your average lifetime… from newborn to mature age… and the other is a book on interpreting your dreams (for your entertainment)
The site also has an extensive section on Sleep Disorders and some recommended sleep remedies for them.
Helene Malmsio has created http://sleep-aid-tips.com to assist you in getting a good nights sleep with natural sleep aid tips.
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Tips for your Prosperity:
Attitude Versus Aptitude by Brian Tracy
Use the 80/20 Rule
The 80/20 rule is as applicable to individual salespeople as it is to a large sales force. Fully eighty percent of your success as a salesperson will be determined by your attitude and only twenty percent by your aptitude. Some people feel that attitude is ninety percent of success in all human endeavors involving other people, but we can quite comfortably use eighty percent as a figure for the purposes of this article.
Develop a Positive Attitude
A positive mental attitude, or a constructive and optimistic way of looking at yourself and your work, goes hand in hand with sales success in every field and in every market. The development of this unshakable attitude of cheerfulness and enthusiasm is your springboard to greatness as a salesperson, no matter what is going on around you.
Learn Your Product Well
The twenty percent of sales effectiveness that comes from product knowledge and professional selling skills is terribly important as well. It is only when you are thoroughly knowledgeable about what you are selling and thoroughly skillful in your ability to present it effectively that you develop the calmness and confidence upon which a positive mental attitude depends.
Upgrade the Quality of Your Thinking
The quality of your thinking determines the quality of your life. If you improve the quality of your thinking, in any area, you improve the quality of your life in that area. By using your mind, your ability to think, you become a creator of circumstances rather than a creature of circumstances. You move from being powerless to being powerful. You determine everything that happens to you by the way you think about it, in advance. You may not be what you think you are, but what you think, you are!
Change Your Inner Attitudes of Mind
The most rapid and positive changes in your personality and your sales results come about when you change your thinking about yourself and your possibilities. When you reprogram your subconscious mind so you feel a sense of unshakable optimism and self-confidence, every part of your life begins improving immediately. As William James of Harvard wrote in 1905, “The greatest revolution of my generation is the discovery that individuals, by changing their inner attitudes of mind, can change the outer aspects of their lives.”
Expect the Best
The very best salespeople have an attitude of calm, confident, positive self-expectation. They feel good about themselves and they have absolute faith that everything they are doing is contributing toward their inevitable success. They are cool, relaxed, happy and cheerful about their lives and their careers. They know, deep in their hearts, that they are good at what they do, and their customers know it as well.
Often, their customers decide to buy from them even before they’ve made a sales presentation or described their product or service. They are the champions, or superstars, of selling everywhere, and you can be one of them by developing the same attitudes and attributes that they have.
First, resolve today to develop and cultivate an attitude of calm, confident, positive expectations towards yourself, your customers and your career. Expect the best!
Second, take complete control of your thinking and concentrate on the solution rather than the problem. Look for the good in every situation. Be positive and cheerful, no matter what happens.
To receive more information about Brian Tracy and his books, audios and seminars including the Psychology of Achievement, The Psychology of Selling and the Success Mastery Academy www.jimrohn.com
Also to receive Brian’s One-Hour MP3 – Qualities of Master Achievers (retail $29) for only $6.99 or as part of a Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar 3 Pack – all 3 for only $9.99 – go to www.jimrohn.com
10 Tips For Running A Profitable Web Site
1. Address your targeted audience on your business site. Example: “Welcome Internet Marketers”. If you have more than one, address them all.
2. Make sure your content and graphics are relevant to your web site’s theme. You wouldn’t want to use a bird graphic on a business web site.
3. Alert visitors by email when you add new content to your web site. This will remind people to revisit your web site.
4. Offer a way for visitors to contact you on each web page. List your email address, fax number and phone number.
5. Give people the option of viewing your web site offline. Offer it by autoresponder or printer friendly version.
6. Make sure a least 50% of your content is original. The other option is to offer something else original other than content, like software or an online utility.
7. Offer your visitors incentives for revisiting your web site. You could give them new content, ebooks, software, ezine, etc.
8. Publish a FAQs for your business, product and web site. They could have questions about multiple parts of your business.
9. Make sure all links on the navigational bar are clickable. If people can’t get to where they want to go, they will leave.
10. Organize you web site in logical and profitable sequence. You don’t want to give a freebie before they learn about the product(s) you’re selling.
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Thank you for joining us this month, I hope that you have found some extra motivation and inspiration on HOW TO LOVE YOUR LIFE!
A great obstacle to happiness is to anticipate too great a happiness. Fontanel
Human felicity is produced not so much by great pieces of good fortune that seldom happen as by little advantages that occur every day. Ben Franklin
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