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November 16, 2010
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One Minute Tip:
What actions will take you closer to your goals? Decide upon the steps and write them down. Review them until you feel comfortable with those steps. Then repeat them at least once a day, crossing them off as you accomplish them.
“I believe there is no escape from the rule that We must do many, many little things to accomplish even just one big thing,” said James Dupont. “This gives me patience when I need it most.”
The most rewarding accomplishments are those that take long to achieve and present difficulties. It is only through these difficulties that a person can rise above the rest to be the unusual, the outspoken and the well-deserved.
The way I see it, if you want the rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain. – Dolly Parton
”Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see the shadow. It’s what sunflowers do.” – Helen Keller
Formal education will make you a living, self education will make you a fortune. – Jim Rohn – success quote
Tips for your Happiness:
How to build self esteem
There are a variety of ways how to build self-esteem. This includes positive self-talk, developing new skills, doing the thing you enjoy doing, exercising, having good relationships and helping others who are less fortunate than yourself.
By receiving praise from others, your confidence will increase dramatically. It is no secret that people love to be recognized and praised, and you are no different.
However, one way how to build self-esteem that a lot of people never stop to think about is letting go of your need to control everything. Usually this stems back to childhood whenever your parents more than likely compared you to other children who were behaving better than you.
Television also has the bad habit of comparing people to one another and placing unrealistic expectations on how people should look. That doesnt mean you should stop watching TV shows, but you should start watching them objectively and not translating them into reality. The same can be said for magazines which have a horrible track record of imposing certain physical expectations upon people.
If you stop to think about this you will see that there really is no point in comparing 2 people to one another. This is because everyone is different. Everyone has different values, goals and life views because everyone has different DNA. So, if you want to know how to build self-esteem you should know that you will have to stop comparing yourself with others and start accepting yourself! That is the key to winning this battle.
Instead, give yourself the time to develop spiritually, discover who you really are and decide what you want to accomplish with your life. This is an important part of increasing your confidence levels and feeling that you are a worthy part of society.
Exercise plays an important role in self esteem building. It has been proven that people who exercise or experience some sort of outdoor activity each day are more likely to have higher self confidence than those who do not seek exercise on a regular basis.
Exercise produces feel good chemicals in the brain and increases our overall wellbeing. This is why regular exercise is essential when you want to build and maintain your self esteem levels. Even just a brisk walk once or twice daily will do wonders for your confidence and health.
Learning how to build self esteem is the first step; ultimately you must put what you have learned into action.
Host a Halloween Party
Instead of just passing out candy for Halloween, organize a masquerade party together where everyone is required to come dressed up.
Include in your party food, drinks, door prizes, and games. Have a few friends provide help you plan this and then go all out. Choose costumes the two of you can wear to enhance each other.
A few suggestions would be to Adam and Eve (wearing skin-toned clothing no nudity), Batman and Batgirl, Cleopatra and Marc Anthony, Romeo and Juliet, Robin Hood and Maid Marian, or Sonny and Cher.
You will have a blast with the planning and searching out your costumes. This type of party is great for good laughs and fond memories of each other, which are important for a good relationship.
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Tips for your Health:
Steer clear of winter driving hazards
Authorities on the subject say the rules for vehicle maintenance and driving technique apply in all seasons.
But, the penalty for not heeding them is more serious in winter. With that in mind, consider this advice from the National Safety Council:
Before even considering driving in bad weather, make sure your vehicle checks out and all systems are working properly. Make sure you have all-season or snow tires, and that they are properly inflated.
Assemble your emergency kit. A plastic crate or tote bag will hold gloves, a scarf, knit cap, extra clothes, ice scraper, safety goggles, flashlight, flares, jumper cables, water, and a first aid kit. You could add boots, blankets, a snow shovel and snow brush. A bag of sand or two pieces of burlap will give extra traction.
Now, ask yourself if you really have to go. Check the weather report and your own physical and emotional state. If you can postpone the trip, do so. If not …
* Buckle everyone up. The Insurance Institute for Highway Safety says kids under 12 should travel in the back seat in an age-appropriate safety seat.
* Be gentle on your car. Turn everything off before starting the engine. Avoid braking too hard or too abruptly, and accelerate smoothly.
* Double the 2-second rule for the interval between your vehicle and the one ahead. Sometimes a 6-second interval is better.
Dealing With Work Related Stress
Examples that can cause work related stress are trying to get too much work done in too little time, cutting corners or otherwise taking chances that may put you, or someone else at risk, and trying to get along with superiors and co-workers.
Everybody has days when there simply seems there’s too much work to get done. Trying to get everything done by yourself can bring on stress. Some people try and deal with the pressure by delegating certain jobs to others. If you can unburden yourself and not worry about when and how the work gets done, if you can put full faith and trust in co-workers or subordinates it can be an effective escape valve. Trouble is, most people can’t let go. If you have the type of personality that demands to know how things are going, chances are you’re only increasing the pressure and stress on yourself by constantly worrying if the work is getting done or not.
To lessen stress you must either learn to trust others to get the job done, or prioritize jobs to get rid of “what must be done” first. Many people tend to “put off” the difficult jobs they hate to do until the last possible minute. Of course, this only makes it all the more difficult and stressful when you finally get around to doing what you should have done earlier.
When you feel the “walls closing in on you” if possible, take a break. Many people in trying to relax actually kick their bodies into overdrive by using their break time to either get a nicotine or caffeine fix. Instead of calming you down, both substances being stimulants speed up your body processes. You may think you’re relaxing, but your blood pressure and heart are working harder.
Instead of coffee or cigarettes try a brief chat with friends, a short leisurely walk, even just looking out the window for a few minutes. Never take breaks, or eat lunch at your work station. The point of a break is to get away from whatever work you’re doing. You can’t get your mind off your work if you’re chained to your work area.
Getting along with your co-workers and the boss can be more than a sore point. It can be something you learn to put up with, or it can turn into a festering wound that only gets worse with time. If you’re having problems, get them out in the open. Most managers today at least have some training in dealing with personal problems. If you can’t clear the air or have tried using all the company procedures to resolve a grievance, and you no longer enjoy your job, hate to go to work in the morning, or feel that the pressure is getting to be too much, it may be time to seriously consider a change.
You Can Download my Stress Relief Guide here: How to Break Free From A Stressful Life
Tips for your Prosperity:
To Ask for a Raise or To Not?
Are you currently satisfied with your job, but unhappy with the pay? Do you need an increase in pay to support your family? If you do, you may be interested in asking your supervisor about a raise. If that is the case, you may want to continue reading on. A few of the many factors that you should take into consideration, before you decide to ask your employer for a raise, are outlined below for your convenience.
One of the many factors that you will want to take into consideration, when trying to determine if you should ask for a raise, is your duties. Have you recently taken on more duties at work? If you have, were you compensated for those additional duties? If you were not, you may be within your right to ask for pay raise. With that in mind, you also need to examine the other aspect of duties. If you recently had your workload reduced, you may want to refrain from asking for a pay raise, as it may give off an unpleasant impression of yourself.
Seniority is another factor that you will want to take into consideration, when trying to determine if you should ask for a pay raise. Your length of employment can play a large role in whether or not you are able to receive the raise that you were hoping for. Generally speaking, the longer you work for a company, the more likely it is that you will be able to get a raise. In fact, before asking for a raise, you may want to refer to your employee handbook, as your company may already have a pay raise plan in place.
The minimum wage for your state is another one of the many factors that you will want to take into consideration, when examining pay raises. In recent years, may states have made the decision to increase their minimum wage pay rates. In fact, some of these wage increases have been quite high. You will first want to make sure that you are making more than minimum wage. If your state recently increased its minimum wage, your employer should have done so as well, but there is no harm in checking. You may also want to see about requesting a pay raise that will increase your wage in conjunction with any state minimum wage increases. For example, you will want to make sure that you are making at least a few dollars more an hour than all new hires.
Speaking of the starting wage for your company, you may want to verify this information. Generally speaking, long-term employees should be making more money than new hires, especially in similar positions. You may be able to examine the average starting pay for new hires in your company by examining any company job listings that you are able to come across. You may also be able to get information from other employees about their salary. With that in mind, many companies require confidentially when associated with pay. Therefore, if you are aware of a coworkers income, you will want to refrain from citing that as an example with your supervisors.
The above mentioned factors are just a few of the many factors that you will want take into consideration, before you make the decision to ask for a raise. Should you decide to ask for a raise, you will want to take a positive, friendly approach when doing so.
Remember the basics of effective listening
Everyone knows that listening to customers is important in developing a relationship. But how do you suppress the urge to talk? Consider this advice from experts quoted in Selling Power.
* Be patient. Make eye contact, and take brief notes of key points.
* Offer verbal and nonverbal encouragement with facial expressions, mm-hmms and head nodding. Allow for periods of silence, and let customers speak for as long as they want.
* Listen carefully to discover underlying issues. Focus on customer needs, not on your product. Don’t interrupt or distract.
* Ask questions at the end. Assume you haven’t understood everything.
* Don’t make assumptions, jump to conclusions, or finish clients’ sentences.
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45 of Life’s Best Lessons
This was written By Regina Brett, 90 years old, of The Plain Dealer, in Cleveland, Ohio.
To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written.
My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful, or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you, really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words, ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come…
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow; but, it’s still a gift.
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