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July 21, 2009
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One Minute Tip:
Too many of us live in the midst of chaos. Many people get up early, work very hard, and are busy in their eagerness for success, but they permit their efforts, their focus and their results to be undermined by whatever “happens to happen.” That is not a recipe for success! Working hard and being productive are not the same thing.
Highly successful people know this. World class athletes don’t have to “find” time to train. Stephen King and other prolific writers don’t “try” to write! Wealthy people don’t “force” themselves to do the paperwork of managing their investments. Successful people organize their environments to support their most important projects.
We can learn from these extraordinary people. We may not be able to be as rigorous and systematic about it (yet!), but we can create environments that encourage and support the achievement of our most important goals.
Greatness is rarely achieved in our “spare time”.
”If you are never scared, embarrassed, or hurt, it means you
never take chances.”
”In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the
right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing.”
”In each of us are places where we have never gone. Only by
pressing the limits do you ever find them.”
Tips for your Happiness:
A good question is worth a thousand pieces of casual advice. A great question can instantly transform our lives and launch us in a whole new direction. In almost any area of life, if you are not getting the results you want, try asking different, better, questions. I think you’ll like the results
Asking ourselves, “Why can’t I ever save for the future?” causes the brain to give us a list of expenses and habits that spend all our income. Asking a better question like, ”I wonder how I could reduce expenses by $100 this month?” leads to a completely different set of answers and potential solutions.
Whenever you find yourself stuck, particularly if you are repeating a pattern and want to change it, try asking yourself some new (and better) questions. Here are a few I use regularly:
1. What is the most important thing I can do today?
2. Since I don’t seem to know how to do this, I wonder who might know the answer? Who can I call for help?
3. Even though I can’t do it all today, what step can I take to get started right away?
4. Who could coach me, or teach me, about this?
5. Since what I’m doing isn’t working, what other methods could I try? What other strategy might give me a better approach?
A good question is worth a thousand pieces of casual advice. A great question can instantly transform our lives and launch us in a whole new direction. In almost any area of life, if you are not getting the results you want, try asking different, better, questions. I think you’ll like the results.
Getting out of the Dark: How to Avoid being Pessimistic
Our lives are an endless cycle of happiness and sadness, and this is a reality we all must face. By hoping for the best and expecting the worst, we are being realistic; but if you concentrate on expecting the worst, and if you constantly and visibly avoid every shred of hope, then you are being pessimistic. Laugh, and the world laughs with you; cry, and you cry alone.
In other words, we are all going through the same cycles of happiness and sadness, so you arent alone in experiencing the highest of highs and the lowest of lows. And because everyone has their own tragedies to deal with, you cant afford to ruin their day and be sad yourself! Avoid being pessimistic by following these tips.
– Stay away from anything that might induce you to feel sad. If you are easily drawn to tears by sad movies, depressed by sad books, or brought to the point of bawling outright by the slightest sentimentality, then you can do one of two things. You can either stay away from any depressing stimulus, or you can actively seek out something that will make you happy and neutralize the sadness.
One of the keys to losing your pessimism is to losing the sadness in your life. You have to avoid being sad. Stay happy and smile! Make the most of any sadness, because the happy ending might come for you soon. All you need to do is wait.
– Write a daily gratitude journal. Take an ordinary notebook, and make a habit of sitting down at a regular time each day to write five things that you are grateful for. List concrete things: the ability to still breathe, a nice gift you received from a friend, or a nice morning filled with sunshine are just a few examples of things you can be grateful for. A gratitude journal will allow you to see the good in your life more clearly.
– Talk to optimistic people, and stay away from gloomy people. Sure, your gloomy friend have an interesting gothic life, but how long can you stay friends? If you feel drained and tired after talking to a friend, then you might be in need of people to perk you up and make you feel better about yourself.
– Be spiritual. Find a way to connect with the Almighty, and you can certainly find a real Someone to thank for every blessing you receive.
How To Deal With Awkward Silences
by Peter Murphy
There are three fool-proof ways to handle those moments of silence that can make you feel self-conscious and uneasy:
1. Decide that conversation is a two way street
Whenever you are talking to someone and the conversation grinds to a halt. Remember this…
A good conversation requires input from at least two people. And this means that it is not up to you alone to fix things if the dialogue fades away to nothing.
Take the pressure off yourself to be the one to make everything right.
Pause and let the other person speak first. Give others the opportunity to get things started again.
Very often the other person will resume the conversation as long as you look interested in hearing more.
You can do this by being attentive and by demonstrating your interest through your body language.
It is a good idea to keep facing the other person and to keep the non verbal rapport alive by mirroring.
2. Decide if you want to use this silence as a way to finish the conversation.
Does the other person want to mention anything else?
Is there anything to add?
Ask the other person these questions. This will ensure a quick response and may reinvigorate the conversation.
If the chat has come to a natural conclusion then take control and wrap it up. You do not always have to wait and let the other person decide if the conversation is over.
You can simply thank the other person for talking to you and wish them well until you meet again.
When you get into the habit of doing this you will feel more confident talking to people.
Because the fear of standing there with nothing to say will not bother you so much…
In the future you will have the option of ending the conversation instead of waiting for the other people to take charge of the situation.
Finishing the conversation is a great way to put an end to awkward silences. Obviously you will only do this AFTER you have covered what needs to be discussed.
3. Always have a back up plan
Like I have said in the past. Adequate planning is one of the secrets to always having something to say to people.
Nobody ever said you cannot prepare in advance by having a stock pile of interesting stories to talk about. In fact this is what Presidents do.
They have speech writers prepare off the cuff remarks which are meant to appear spontaneous. Of course each statement is planned and rehearsed.
When you have a whole range of topics you can talk about it becomes very difficult to get stuck for words.
And you will find that the issues and topics that work best will work for most people you talk to. If a particular topic works very well for a few people it will probably work just as well for most people you meet.
When I tell jokes for example. I always start by telling the new ones to my best friends. If they go down well and everyone laughs I will use those jokes again with people I don´t know very well and when I meet new people.
You can test jokes, conversation topics and personal stories and pay attention to see which ones get the best response.
Then drop the ones few people like and keep using the popular ones.
There is no need to be original!
What else can you do?
Go to the bonus reports that come with my book and…
Review the How to Start a Great Conversation with Anyone report. Then start using the 15 great distinctions that will make your conversations sing.
Peter Murphy –
Tips for your Health:
Can Muscles Help You Live Longer?
You already know that muscles can help you look better. But you might not know that there is a direct relationship between muscle mass and the strength of your immune system. White blood cells and antibodies, the foundation of your immune system, are both made from protein. And when you have well-developed muscles, you have a ready supply of protein to make these antibodies and cells. That’s why strength training is so important, especially as we age (when muscle mass naturally decreases).
Studies have shown that the number of natural killer cells (a specific type of white blood cell) is directly proportional to muscle mass in the older population.
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) was originally designed to reduce the psychotherapy process from months and years down to minutes and hours.
From there it was discovered that astonishing physical healings also occurred. Symptoms faded for everything from Migraine Headaches to Cancer.
Complete details are given on the EFT website at www.emofree.com It often works where nothing else will.
Alcohol And Exercise
On Friday afternoon after you leave work, you probably think about going out and having a few drinks with friends to relax and wind down.
Even though you may think you deserve to go out and have a few drinks, there are some things that you should certainly keep in mind.
Like any other day, tomorrow is going to be a day for exercise, and since you are exercising on a regular basis, a few drinks of alcohol won’t really hurt anything, right?
Before you decide to rush out to the local bar, there are a few things below that you should think about before you make your choice about going out to drink some alcohol.
Research has proven that even small amounts of alcohol with increase muscular endurance and the output of strength, although these types of benefits are very short lived.
After 20 minutes or so, the problems will begin to surface.
All of the negative side effects associated with alcohol will easily outweigh any possible benefits that it can have.
No matter how you look at it, alcohol is a poison that can really harm your body if you aren’t careful.
The negative side of alcohol can reduce your strength, endurance, aerobic capability, recovery time, ability to metabolize fat, and even your muscle growth as well.
Alcohol will also have an effect on your nervous system and brain. If you use it long term, you can cause severe deterioration of your central nervous system.
Even with short term use, nerve muscle interaction can be reduced which will result in a loss of strength.
Once alcohol reaches the blood cells, it can and probably will damage them. With alcohol users, inflammation of the muscle cells is a very common thing.
Over periods of time, some of these cells that have been damaged can die which will result in less functional muscle contractions.
Drinking alcohol will also leave you with more soreness of your muscles after you exercise, which means that it will take you a lot longer to recuperate.
Alcohol will also have many different effects on your heart and circulatory system as well.
When you drink any type of alcohol, you may begin to see a reduction in your endurance capabilities.
Anytime you drink, your heat loss will increase, due to the alcohol simulating your blood vessels to dilate.
The loss in heat can cause your muscles to become quite cold, therefore become slower and weaker during your muscle contractions.
Drinking alcohol can also lead to digestive and nutrition problems as well. Alcohol cause a release of insulin that will increase the metabolism of glycogen, which spares fat and makes the loss of fat very hard.
Due to alcohol interfering with the absorption of several key nutrients, you can also become anemic and deficient with B type vitamins.
Because your liver is the organ that detoxifies alcohol, the more you drink, the harder your liver has to work.
The extra stress alcohol places on your liver can cause serious damage and even destroy some of your liver cells.
Since alcohol is diuretic, drinking large amounts can put a lot of stress on your kidneys as well.
During diuretic action, the hormones are secreted. This can lead to heightened water retention and no one who exercises will want this to happen.
If you must drink alcohol, you should do it in moderation and never drink before you exercise, as this will impair your balance, coordination, and also your judgement.
Think about your health and how you exercise – and you may begin to look at things from a whole new prospective.
Tips for your Prosperity:
Have you crafted your elevator speech?
It’s a tool used by entrepreneurs to pitch start-ups when they run into a venture capitalist: the 15-second speech.
The phenomenon in the corporate world is now called the “elevator speech.” Self-help promoters say people who want to stand out should have a 15-second self-promo at hand, just in case they find themselves face-to-face with the boss. The speeches work in elevators, at networking events, and with people and companies pitching ideas or products. (Even single people are coming up with a quick catchy introduction, according to Business Week.)
Corporate trainers report a surge in interest. They advise people to hit hard on the value of what they do. Business Week’s example: “Hi, I’m Claude Monet of software. My masterpieces are written with zeros and ones.” After the speech, the speakers actually introduce themselves.
Should You Start Your Own Business?
Are you unsatisfied with your current job? If you are, you may be interested in changing employers. While it is more than possible for you to find, apply for, and be awarded a new job, did you know that is not your only option?
Have you ever thought about starting your own business? If this is a thought that has yet to cross your mind, you may want give starting your own business some serious consideration.
As nice as it is to hear that you should examine starting your own business, you may be curious as to which points you should take the time to examine.
If you are serious about starting your own business or at least learning if running your own business is something that you are capable of doing, you will want to continue reading on. A few important points that should be taken into consideration by those who are interested in leaving the traditional workplace to start a business are outlined below.
One of the many points that you will want to take into consideration, when looking to start your own business, is the startup costs associated with doing so. Whether you would like to open up a gift shop or if you would like to sell your professional writing services, it is likely that you will need to make some startup purchases. The startup costs associated with starting your own business will all depend on the opportunities that you choose.
Although there is likely to be some variance, it is likely that you will need to purchase a computer, internet service, a business phone, business phone service, a fax machine, a copier, an office desk, and other office furniture. If you have an ideal credit score, you may be able to receive financial assistance to get your business up and running.
Another factor that you need to take into consideration, when looking to determine if you should leave your current job and start your own business is time. Should you be interested in starting your own business, it is important to remember that you will likely not see success right away.
Many businesses, no matter what the type, take time to see profits and success. You have to market your business to the general public, set up your online website or your storefront location, and do so much more.
That is why it is important that you not only have enough money to get your business up and running, but you will also want to make sure that you also have enough money to support yourself and your family until you are able to start making a profit with your own business.
Another one of the many factors that you will want to take into consideration, when trying to determine if you should start your own business, is insurance. At your current position, do you have health insurance? If you are married, would you be able to get health insurance through your spouse? If you would be unable to do so, health insurance is something that you will want to take into consideration.
Even if your health is fine right now, you never know what could happen, especially if your health insurance is also used to help cover the rest of your family. Should you decide to start your own business, you should be able to purchase insurance for yourself or for the rest of your family. With that in mind, it is important to remember that insurance costs money, quite a bit of money to be exact.
What is nice about starting your own business is that you, literally, have an unlimited number of options. For example, did you know that you can sell a product or a service? Popular startup businesses include gift shops, cleaning services, accounting services, and so forth. In addition to the type of business that you would like to start, you also have a number of different options when it comes to operating a business.
Many entrepreneurs run online businesses, storefront businesses, or even both. In all honesty, the decision is yours to make. With that in mind, the decisions that you do make can have a huge impact in determining whether or not your business, should you decide to start one, is a success.
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God -vs- science
God is sitting in Heaven when a scientist says to Him, “God, we don’t need you anymore. Science has finally figured out a way to create life out of nothing – in other words, we can now do what you did in the beginning.”
“Oh, is that so? Tell Me.” replies God.
“Well,” says the scientist, “we can take plain dirt and form it into the likeness of you, and breathe life into it, thus creating man.”
“Well, that’s very interesting … show Me,” says God.
So the scientist bends down to the earth and starts to mold the soil into the shape of a man.
“No, no, no …” interrupts God, “CREATE your own dirt.”
A lady was there
She hunted for a book
She was engrossed in her book
Grabbed a cookie or two
So she munched the cookies
She was getting more irritated
With each cookie she took,
With a smile on his face,
He offered her half,
This guy had some nerve
She had never known
She gathered her belongings
She boarded the plane,
As she reached in her baggage,
If mine are here,
Too late to apologize,
How many times have we absolutely
“Always Keep An Open Mind And
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