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One Minute Tip
Power Quotes
Tips for your Happiness
Tips for your Health
Tips for your Prosperity
Sponsored Resources
Editor’s Note / Humour / new free books

One Minute Tip:

A good question is worth a thousand pieces of casual advice. A great question can instantly transform our lives and launch us in a whole new direction.

In almost any area of life, if you are not getting the results you want, try asking different, better, questions. I think you'll like the results.

Power Quotes:

Happiness:

"Everyone has inside of him a piece of good news. The good news is that you don't know how great you can be! How much you can love! What you can accomplish! And what your potential is!"
- Anne Frank

Health:

"What you get by achieving your goals is not as important as what you become by achieving your goals."
- Zig Ziglar

Prosperity:

"The people and circumstances around me do not MAKE me what I am, they REVEAL who I am. "
- Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Tips for your Happiness:

Kids of working moms rank high if they get good care

No need to feel guilty about working away from home if you have a three-year-old. Studies by Columbia University say that at age 3, a child whose mother didn't work by the ninth month scores the same as the child of a working mother -- if the mother is sensitive and arranges above-average child care.

The study showed that an average child with below-average child care and mother sensitivity, whose mother worked 30 hours a week, scored some 13 points lower on the Bracken School Readiness test. It tests knowledge of colors, letters, numbers, shapes, and comparisons.

A child whose mother worked 30 hours or more who was in an average environment, scored six points lower than the child whose mother worked but who received excellent care.

Real Commitment: Bad Relationship Habits to Avoid

Nearly everyone on the planet is excited about having someone to love them, and someone they can love. But sometimes, not all love can be healthy: it can be an addiction, or a dependency, or it can be hurtful because it is manifested or understood in an unhealthy way. A relationship is more complicated than it seems: it is difficult to start, and so much more difficult to maintain.

There are certain habits that you need to avoid when in a relationship. Remember, a relationship is like a street built for two people to walk side by side: if one of you walks ahead or lags behind, what you have is a master and slave relationship, not something built on love.

- Be sensitive: do as much as you can to avoid hurting the other party, but most importantly, do as much as you can to empathize. Empathy means understanding how the other person feels: if your partner is happy, take time to rejoice with him or her; if your partner is sad, then do your best to comfort him or her. Many of the biggest problems in relationships come with a lack of empathy, so do your best to get in touch with your partners emotions.

- Avoid forcing your own opinions on the other person. By keeping an open mind, you won’t only win your partner to your side, you’ll also learn a lot from what your partner has to say.

- Avoid talking too much. Listen to what your partner has to say, and listen to what your partner isn’t saying. Talking is not only about the words, but about the body language. If you have spent a long time with your partner, then you will know if he or she is uneasy, or if he or she is sad. Recognize any telltale signs of these things, and you will be able to empathize better and ultimately connect better with your partner.

- Avoid being too serious. Have fun! The best relationships are built on a good, decent sense of humor.

- Avoid turning the relationship into a reward for you. Love isn’t a noun, it is a verb, so if you want to be loved, you must love first; if you want to be respected, you must respect the other person first. Give, but don’t expect anything in return. Sometimes, relationships are destroyed by expectations that are set too high.

- Avoid making your partner the center of your universe. Love yourself first! Only then can you truly love someone else.

A Rich Retirement

Whether it is you who is approaching those golden years we call retirement or one of your loved ones is in those years, there is no question that making that transition from the working world and decades of responsibility and hard work is not always easy.

The sudden change of lifestyle and that feeling of “no longer being useful” is one of the most difficult aspects of retirement and growing older. When you combine that with reduced activity and the natural decline in physical ability that aging brings, you have a powerful emotional transition to go through.

That is why people who actively counsel the elderly have learned that the most positive thing a person can do to combat that depression and sense of “uselessness” that plaques retirees is to make themselves useful. And there is no better place for them to do that than in community service.

There are a variety of great reasons that volunteerism among the elderly is such a great idea. And if you are in a position to counsel an aging family member or friend, it is important to remember that doing community service is not all about being charitable and helping out the down and out. It is just as much about the health and well-being of the retiree as it is for the good of the community and the people in it.

By getting out into the community and finding rewarding ways to perform community service, that sense of “being needed” and being a part of something is given back to the retiree. Community service and the retirement set are a perfect match for each other. People who are staffing community service projects are always in need of an army of qualified and mature help, especially from those who have sufficient time to really do a good job with a community service project.

This is just right for retiree who if anything suffers with too much time on their hands. Too often, that time can be turned to self-pity or indulging in less than healthy lifestyle choice. Community service is, after all, “work”. And as a people who are enjoying their rewards from a lifetime of work, this is just the thing to transition to a life of retirement.

Community service can also call upon the elderly to participate in some level of physical activity. Now your local community service coordinator can make sure that their elderly volunteers are given assignments appropriate to their physical abilities. But just getting out there and greeting others, reading to the blind, helping with a food or blood drive or jumping in where they can on a big community project gets the blood moving and maybe just the right kind of exercise they need to stay active and healthy.

Community service also provides opportunities to socialize with people of all ages and social backgrounds. One of the greatest dangers of a retirement lifestyle is the loneliness and isolation stepping out of the working world causes. Even if the elderly person lives in a retirement community, the chance to socialize with younger people and people of many backgrounds and orientations is tremendously healthy for the mental stability of one in that stage of life.

The benefits to the retiree of getting involved in community service are many. But giving that retired person that sense of personal value and worth that they have come to expect from each day’s work is valuable beyond measurement.

Many community service projects are short term so the volunteers get that immediate gratification that gives anyone a boost, but even more so a retiree who feels left out and not useful. Community service may be just the medicine to cure those ills.

Tips for your Health:

Almonds Can Help Reduce Inflammation and Cholesterol

Two recently published studies suggest that a healthy diet that includes almonds can reduce two of the primary risk factors for heart disease: high cholesterol and elevated C-reactive protein (a marker for internal inflammation).

Not only that, but both studies (published in the European Journal of Clinical Nutrition and the American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, respectively) show that a diet rich in almonds can accomplish this as well as or better than first-generation statin drugs.

In addition to having heart-healthy monounsaturated fat, almonds are the most nutritionally dense nut. They are an excellent source of vitamin E, magnesium, potassium, calcium, iron, protein, and fiber.

Anti-Inflammatory Diet - A Healthier Way to Lose Weight



By Tess Thompson

The human body has its own ways of reacting to foreign invasions. Bacteria, viruses, and toxins are common foreign substances that the body’s immune system considers as harmful. The system reacts with biological defenses to avoid diseases and infections. Inflammation is one of the first automatic responses of the auto immune system.

Some researchers believe that obesity is actually an inflammatory response of the body to warn us that we are eating what is not good for us. An anti inflammatory diet is based on the theory that the body does not need fat and processed foods and therefore reacts with inflammation. The theory appears to be logical considering the high incidence of obesity in the developed world which relies on processed fatty foods to a larger extent.

Determining food choices for an anti inflammatory diet is easy. The diet basically consists of foods that that are close to the original form. The essential ingredient that reduces inflammation is Omega 3 essential fatty acids. Fish, especially oily fish, is one of the best sources of Omega 3. Red meat, on the other hand, is considered to trigger inflammatory responses. Some important instructions that are part of the anti-inflammatory diet are:

- Caloric intake of 2000 to 3000 calories per day depending upon your size and level of activity.
- Calorie intake to be distributed between carbohydrates (40 to 50%), proteins (20 to 30%) and fat (30%). All three groups must be included in all meals.
- Use virgin oils for cooking and avoid saturated fats.
- Avoid margarine, vegetable shortening and all products that list them as ingredients at all cost.
- Decrease consumption of animal protein except for fish and low fat dairy products.
- Take at least 40 grams of fiber daily. These can be had from fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Ready made cereals are also a good source but make sure that they give you at least 4, preferably 5 grams per ounce.
- Choose fruits and vegetables from all parts of the color spectrum: berries, tomatoes, orange and yellow fruits and dark leafy vegetables.
- Mushrooms are advised as the preferred source of phytonutrients.
- Prefer tea over coffee and wine over whisky and beer.

A diet high in fresh fruits and vegetables in recommended quantities can supply all the necessary substances that a body requires. This includes vitamins and minerals for good health and weight maintenance. However, if some of the instructions cannot be met due to compelling reasons, the use of natural healthy weight loss supplements is recommended. Fish oil, garlic, ginger and turmeric supplements are available in convenient formulations that can make up for the nutrients missing in regular diet.

Anti inflammatory diet is natural in its approach and is based on moderation than on denial. It is closer to traditional healthy weight loss plans . It is unlike the fad diets that tell you how to naturally lose weight fast , which is not the right way to lose weight anyway.

Tips for your Prosperity:

"I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change."

"If you don't design your own life plan, chances are you'll fall into someone else's plan.

And guess what they may have planned for you?
Not much."
-- Jim Rohn

E-mail for a car quote

If you know what kind of car you want, you could save money by e-mailing auto dealerships in nearby cities and asking for a quote. Often different models aren't as popular in another area, or you could find an incentive that is not available locally.

If you do find an attractive deal, the sales manager will often put it in writing via fax. Ask him to list the car's features and get the sales manager's signature. You can then shop this offer around locally.

Supervisor's corner:
Rejection affects thought processes

Sometimes you notice that one of your people is left out of conversations, eats lunch alone, or doesn't seem to have a friend in the department. Is that any of your business? Consider this:

Psychologists at Case Western Reserve University say interpersonal rejection can dramatically reduce the capacity for intelligent thought. It is so apparent to researchers that they wonder if reasoning skills evolved to help us navigate the complexities of social life rather than help us solve technical problems.

After taking a personality test in one study, one group of subjects was told they would die alone. The other group was told to expect lasting friendships. Subjects who thought they would have a solitary life were significantly impaired in performing complex reasoning tasks. They were also slower and less accurate in their responses to a timed IQ test.

The doctors' report, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, said the effect was similar to the cognitive impairment caused by head injuries. In a related study, rejected people took greater risks and made more unhealthy choices rather than taking better care of themselves.

Study leaders conclude that excluded individuals are so busy trying to suppress emotional distress that they are unable to engage in controlled thinking.

If you can arrange to include a socially rejected employee in more socialized activities, you could be rewarded with one who thinks better and works better.

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Editor’s notes:

WHAT TREE DID YOU FALL FROM?

Find your birthday and then find your tree. This is really cool and somewhat accurate. Then send it to your friends, including the one that sent it to you, so they can find out what tree they fell from, but don't forget to change the subject line to your tree. Find your tree below and see what you are like...

Dec 23 to Jan 01 Apple Tree
Jan 01 to Jan 11 Fir Tree
Jan 12 to Jan 24 Elm Tree
Jan 25 to Feb 03 Cypress Tree
Feb 04 to Feb 08 Poplar Tree
Feb 09 to Feb 18 Cedar Tree
Feb 19 to Feb 28 Pine Tree
Mar 01 to Mar 10 Weeping Willow Tree
Mar 11 to Mar 20 Lime Tree
Mar 21 (only) Oak Tree
Mar 22 to Mar 31 Hazelnut Tree
Apr 01 to Apr 10 Rowan Tree
Apr 11 to Apr 20 Maple Tree
Apr 21 to Apr 30 Walnut Tree
May 01 to May 14 Poplar Tree
May 15 to May 24 Chestnut Tree
May 25 to Jun 03 Ash Tree
Jun 04 to Jun 13 Hornbeam Tree
Jun 14 to Jun 23 Fig Tree
Jun 24 (only) Birch Tree
Jun 25 to Jul 04 Apple Tree
Jul 05 to Jul 14 Fir Tree
Jul 15 to Jul 25 Elm Tree
Jul 26 to Aug 04 Cypress Tree
Aug 05 to Aug 13 Poplar Tree
Aug 14 to Aug 23 Cedar Tree
Aug 24 to Sep 02 Pine Tree
Sep 03 to Sep 12 Weeping Willow Tree
Sep 13 to Sep 22 Lime Tree
Sep 23 (only) Olive Tree
Sep 24 to Oct 03 Hazelnut Tree
Oct 04 to Oct 13 Rowan Tree
Oct 14 to Oct 23 Maple Tree
Oct 24 to Nov 11 Walnut Tree
Nov 12 to Nov 21 Chestnut Tree
Nov 22 to Dec 01 Ash Tree
Dec 02 to Dec 11 Hornbeam Tree
Dec 12 to Dec 21 Fig Tree
Dec 22 (only) Beech Tree

TREES (in alphabetical order)

Apple Tree (Love) -- quiet and shy at times, lots of charm, appeal, And attraction, pleasant attitude, flirtatious smile, adventurous, sensitive, loyal in love, wants to love and be loved, faithful and tender partner, very generous, many talents, loves children, needs affectionate partner.

Ash Tree (Ambition) -- extremely attractive, vivacious, impulsive, demanding, does not care for criticism, ambitious, intelligent, talented, likes to play with fate, can be very egotistic, reliable, restless lover, sometimes money rules over the heart, demands attention, needs love and much emotional support.

Beech Tree (Creative) -- has good taste, concerned about its looks, materialistic, good organization of life and career, economical, good leader, takes no unnecessary risks, reasonable, splendid lifetime companion, keen on keeping fit (diets, sports, etc.).

Birch Tree (Inspiration) -- vivacious, attractive, elegant, friendly, unpretentious, modest, does not like anything in excess, abhors the vulgar, loves life in nature and in calm, not very passionate, full of imagination, little ambition, creates a calm and content atmosphere.

Cedar Tree (Confidence ) -- of rare strength, knows how to adapt, Likes unexpected presents, of good health, not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, a great speaker, determined, often impatient, likes to impress others, has many talents, industrious, healthy optimism, waits for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.

Chestnut Tree (Honesty) -- of unusual stature, impressive, well-developed sense of justice, fun to be around, a planner, born diplomat, can be irritated easily, sensitive of others feelings, hard worker, sometimes acts superior, feels not understood at times, fiercely family oriented, very loyal in love, physically fit.

Cypress Tree (Faithfulness) -- strong, muscular, adaptable, takes What life has to give but doesn't necessarily like it, strives to be content, optimistic, wants to be financially in dependent, wants love and affection, hates loneliness, passionate lover which cannot be satisfied, faithful, quick-tempered at times, can be unruly and careless, loves to gain knowledge, needs to be needed.

Elm Tree (Noble-mindedness ) -- pleasant shape, tasteful clothes, Modest demands, tends not to forgive mistakes, cheerful, likes to lead but Not to obey, honest and faithful partner, likes making decisions for others, noble-minded, generous, good sense of humor, practical.

Fig Tree (Sensibility ) -- very strong minded, a bit self-willed, honest, loyal, independent, hates contradiction or arguments, hard worker when wants to be, loves life and friends, enjoys children and animals, sexually oriented, great sense of humor, has artistic talent and great intelligence.

Fir tree (Mysterious) -- extraordinary taste, handles stress well, loves anything beautiful, stubborn, tends to care for those close to them, hard to trust others, yet a social butterfly, likes idleness and laziness after long demanding hours at work, rather modest, talented, unselfish, many friends, very reliable.

Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary ) -- charming, sense of humor, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness.

Hornbeam Tree (Good Taste) -- of cool beauty, cares for its looks and condition, good taste, is not egoistic, makes life as comfortable as possible, leads a reasonable and disciplined life, looks for kindness and acknowledgment in an emotional partner, dreams of unusual lovers, is seldom happy with its feelings, mistrusts most people, is never sure of its decisions, very conscientious.

Lime Tree (Doubt) - intelligent, hard working, accepts what life dishes out, but not before trying to change bad circumstances into good ones, hates fighting and stress, enjoys getaway vacations, may appear tough, but is actually soft and relenting, always willing to make sacrifices for family and friends, has many talents but not always enough time to use them, great leadership qualities, is jealous at times but extremely loyal.

Maple Tree (Independence of Mind ) -- no ordinary person, full of imagination and originality, shy and reserved, ambitious, proud, self-confident, hungers for new experiences, sometimes nervous, has many complexities, good memory, learns easily, complicated love life, wants to impress.

Oak Tree (Brave) -- robust nature, courageous, strong, unrelenting, independent, sensible, does not like change, keeps its feet on the ground, person of action.

Olive Tree (Wisdom) -- loves sun, warmth and kind f! feelings, reasonable, balanced, avoids aggression and violence, tolerant, cheerful, calm, well-developed sense of justice, sensitive, empathetic, free of jealousy, loves to read and the company of sophisticated people.

Pine Tree (Peacemaker) -- loves agreeable company, craves peace and harmony, loves to help others, active imagination, likes to write poetry, not fashion conscious, great compassion, friendly to all, falls strongly in love but will leave if betrayed or lied to, emotionally soft, low self-esteem, needs affection and reassurance.

Poplar Tree (Uncertainty) -- looks very decorative, talented, not very self-confident, extremely courageous if necessary, needs goodwill and pleasant surroundings, very choosy, often lonely, great animosity, great artistic nature, good organizer, tends to lean toward philosophy, reliable in any situation, takes partnership seriously.

Rowan Tree (Sensitivity) -- full of charm, cheerful, gifted without egoism, likes to draw attention, loves life, motion, urn! est.,and even complications, is both dependent and independent, good taste, artistic, passionate, emotional, good company, does not forgive.

Walnut Tree (Passion) -- unrelenting, strange and full of contrasts, often egotistic, aggressive, noble, broad horizon, unexpected reactions, spontaneous, unlimited ambition, no flexibility, difficult and uncommon partner, not always liked but often admired, ingenious strategist, very jealous and passionate, no compromise.

Weeping Willow (Melancholy) - likes to be stress free, loves family life, full of hopes and dreams, attractive, very empathetic, loves anything beautiful, musically inclined, loves to travel to exotic places, restless, capricious, honest, can be influenced but is not easy to live with when pressured, sometimes demanding, good intuition, suffers in love until they find that one loyal, steadfast partner; loves to make others laugh.

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