Power Tips newsletter, October Issue

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One Minute Tip
Power Quotes
Tips for your Happiness
Tips for your Health
Tips for your Prosperity
Sponsored Resources
Editor’s Note / Humour / new free books

One Minute Tip:

Ask the right questions

Questions have great power. One right question asked at the right time can change the direction of our lives. Hence, the quality of the questions that we ask ourselves is VERY important.

It is for the same reason that we need to choose our company very carefully. If we are surrounded with the right people and for some reason miss asking the right questions, someone in our group might ask the right question for us.

If we are not going in the direction that will ultimately lead us to our goals, one of the problems may be the questions that we ask ourselves. It may be time to reframe some of the questions. Here are a few examples:

Original question: What am I getting?
Reframed question: What am I becoming?
Original question: Why is this happening to me?
Reframed question: What can I learn from this?
Original question: Why can’t he/she understand me?
Reframed question: How can I communicate so that he/she can understand me?

I urge you to look at some of the common questions that you ask yourself and see how you can reframe them to make them more effective.

Power Quotes:

Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson quote

The man who has no imagination has no wings.
- Muhammad Ali famous quote

The real price of everything, what everything really costs to the man who wants to acquire it, is the toil and trouble of acquiring it.
- Adam Smith quote

I discovered a long time ago that if I helped people get what they wanted, I would always get what I wanted and I would never have to worry.
-Anthony Robbins Motivational quote

Tips for your Happiness:

The Power of Touch

When a child is ill, doctors will tell you that it is proven that a simple, loving touch of a parent can quickly pull the child through a crisis. It is the same for relationships.

Playing with your mate’s hair, rubbing their hand, a soft kiss on the neck, a soft pat on the leg or giving a gentle back rub will make a huge difference in how your mate responds to you. When was the last time you walked up to your mate for no reason and without saying a word, affectionately placed a kiss on their neck? This is not in a sexual way, but an affectionate way. There is a difference.

The next time the two of you are sitting in the car, at the grocery story, or standing in line at the theater, quietly reach over and take their hand. Do not be surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the first time!

“5 Reasons Why You Should Organize”

Some people think being organized requires a lot of work or maybe a complete system where you have to do a complicated set of tasks. In short, many people view being organized as impossible to achieve.

While that is not really true, it takes a much disciplined person not to resort back to his old habits. It’s really easy to do and you get many benefits when you’re organized. Here are some of them.

1. You will have more room.

When you get organized whether at your room or at your desk at work, you’ll find you have more free space and that you’re space is uncluttered. You won’t even have to throw something out.

You just need to place things in some sort of order and maintain that order at all times.

2. You will be able to save time.

Looking for files at work? It’s organized alphabetically in the cabinet. Being organized lets you look for files that you might need in a hurry in the future. Looking for your book? It’s safely stashed behind your bed.

This is a really good time-saving technique which would help you when you’re in a hurry.

3. You will also save money.

You don’t believe that? Try thinking why you bought another ballpoint pen today? Isn’t it because you lost your old one?

Or think of the countless items you bought because you thought you didn't have one of them at your house. Just think of how much you could save in a year just by being organized.

4. You will feel more in control.

Did you know that clutter around your house and at work causes the stress you’re feeling from time to time?

It’s no wonder you’re feeling more irritated at work. As your clutter goes, you’ll feel that it is easier to breathe and take charge of your own life.

5. You will make a great impression to others.

This should be a good enough reason why you should make a considerable effort to be organized.

Just think of your mother or wife not pestering you to clean your room again.

Or just think how you’ll never forget that you have a meeting with somebody at some place.

Being organized requires a lot of discipline to maintain. Nobody ever said it was easy.

You need to make sure you don’t lapse back to your old habits or all of what you have done will be for nothing.

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Tips for your Health:

Stress Management:

A lecturer, when explaining stress management to an audience, raised a glass of water and asked, "How heavy is this glass of water?" Answers called out ranged from half an ounce to over a pound. The lecturer replied, "The absolute weight doesn't matter. It depends on how long you try to hold it."

"If I hold it for a minute, that's not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I'll have an ache in my right arm. If I hold it for a day, you'll have to call an ambulance. In each case, it's the same weight, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes."

He continued, "And that's the way it is with stress management. If we carry our burdens all the time, sooner or later, as the burden becomes increasingly heavy, we won't be able to carry on. As with the glass of water, you have to put it down for a while and rest before holding it again. When we're refreshed, we can carry on with the burden."

"So, before you return home tonight, put the burden of work down. Don't carry it home. You can pick it up tomorrow. Whatever burdens you're carrying now, let them down for a moment if you can. Relax; pick them up later after you've rested. Life is short. Enjoy it!"

And then he shared some ways of dealing with the burdens of life:

• Accept that some days you're the pigeon, and some days you're the statue.
• Always keep your words soft and sweet, just in case you have to eat them.
• Never put both feet in your mouth at the same time, because then you won't have a leg to stand on.
• Nobody cares if you can't dance well. Just get up and dance.
• Since it's the early worm that gets eaten by the bird, sleep late.
• The second mouse gets the cheese.
• When everything's coming your way, you're in the wrong lane.
• Birthdays are good for you. The more you have, the longer you live.
• You may be only one person in the world to some people, but to one person, you may be the world.
• A truly happy person is one who can enjoy the scenery on a detour.

You are what you believe. BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

Learn How to Relax.

The following exercise will introduce you to deep relaxation. It will help create a refreshed and peaceful feeling for the body and mind. Try to do this especially upon arising and before retiring.

1. Lie flat of your back, placing the feet about 18 inches apart. The hands should rest slightly away from the trunk, with the palms up.

2. Close your eyes and gently move all the parts of the body to give a general feeling of relaxation.

3. Start relaxing the body by part. First think of the right leg. Inhale and raise the leg about one foot off the floor. Hold it fully tensed. After five seconds, exhale quickly and relax the muscles of the right leg, allowing it to fall to the floor on its own. Shake the leg gently from right to left, relax it fully and forget about the existence of this leg.

4. Repeat this process with the left leg, and then with both hands one at a time.

5. Then bring the mind to the muscles of the pelvis, buttocks and anus. Tense them and relax. Once again, tense them and relax. Next, think of the abdomen. Inhale deeply through the nose and bloat the abdomen. Hold your breath for five seconds and suddenly let the air burst out through the mouth, at the same time relaxing all the muscles of the abdomen and diaphragm.

6. Move on to the chest region. Inhale deeply through the nose, bloating the chest. Hold your breath for five seconds and suddenly let the air out through the mouth while relaxing all the muscle of the chest and diaphragm.

7. Move on to the shoulders. Without moving the forearm off the flow, try to make the shoulders meet in front of the body. Then relax and let them drop to the floor.

8. Slowly, gently, turn the neck right and left, right and left then back to center, mentally relaxing the neck muscles.

9. Now coming to facial muscles, move the jaw up and down, left and right, a few times then relax. Squeeze the lips together in a pout, then relax. Such in the cheek muscles, then relax. Tense the tip of the nose, then relax. Wrinkle the forehead muscles, then relax.

10. Now you have relaxed all the muscles of the body. To make sure of this, allow your mind to wander over your entire body, from the tips of the toes to the head, searching for any spots of tension. If you come across any, concentrate upon this part and it will relax. If you do this mentally, without moving any muscle, you will notice that the part concerned obeys your command.

This is complete relaxation. Even your mind is at rest now. Observe your thoughts without trying to take your mind anywhere. Remain in this condition at least five minutes. When you decide to wake from this conscious sleep, do so quite slowly. Imagine that fresh energy is gently entering each part of your body from the head down to the toes. Then slowly sit up. This exercise helps create a refreshed and peaceful feeling for the body and mind.

Tips for your Prosperity:

44 AUTO DEALER'S TIP FOR CHOOSING THE BEST USED CAR..

1. Examine the car's exterior thoroughly. Look for rust, dents and evidence that portions of the car have rusted out and been repaired with body putty.
2. Look under car for breaks in the frame and signs that frame has been welded.
3. Check for excessive rusting of frame.
4. Examine condition of muffler, tailpipe and exhaust pipe.
5. Look for signs of oil or transmission fluid leakage under the car.
6. Check for signs of fluid leakage from shock absorbers.
7. Examine condition of tires, including inside surfaces.
8. Look for signs of brake fluid leaking on the inside of tires.
9. Walk around the car and check the condition of window glass.
10. Examine the condition of lenses of all lights - front, back and sides.
11. Test all lights to make certain they are functioning - headlights, taillights, flashers, backup lights, brake lights, turn signals, etc.
12. Push down on the corners of the car, front & back, to check the shock absorbers. If the car bounces up & down several times, the shocks are worn.
13. Stand back and see if the car is level. If not, the springs may be weak.
14. From a distance, look for evidence of an accident, dents, paint that doesn't match, ripples in the fenders, etc.
15. Check the spare tire. If it is cupped or worn unevenly, something may be wrong with the front end and a front tire is being used as a spare.
16. Make sure the car has a jack and that it is in good working condition.
17. Lift the hood of the car & examine the condition of the belts & hoses.
18. Check the battery to see if it is cracked.
19. Pull out the oil dipstick to see how dirty the oil is.
20. Check stickers (on doorposts or under hood) to see when the car had its last oil change & lubrication, and whether it was serviced regularly.
21. Examine the upholstery, safety belts and carpeting.
22. If the car has seat covers, look under them for wear, tears, dirt.
23. Badly worn carpeting or upholstery may be a sign of heavy vehicle usage.
24. Check the break pedal for free play.
25. Turn on all the lights one at a time and check to see they are working. 26. Take the car for a test drive over various types of roads.
27. While on the road, test the brakes for pulling.
28. Be alert for vibrations during the drive, for signs of front-end trouble.
29. If the car has manual transmission, be alert for excessive play, grabbing or rattling of the clutch.
30. Look for vibrations or unusual noises from the engine, transmission, rear end or wheels, that may be a signal of trouble.
31. Push the gearshift through its various positions and see how the car reacts.
32. Let the engine idle and be alert to noises or vibrations that could indicate a badly tuned engine or one with bad valves.
33. Be alert for any unusual odors. These could tell you that all is not well.
34. If the automatic transmission doesn't shift smoothly or is there is hesitation when it shifts, the transmission may be in need of repair work.
35. When test driving, step on the gas & look into the mirror for smoke from the exhaust. White or bluish smoke may mean an overhaul is needed.
36. Check to see how much power the car has on a hill.
37. Turn on the heater to see if it works.
38. Check out the air conditioning to see if it is working.
39. Turn on the radio.
40. Try the windshield wipers.
41. If possible, run the car through a car was to see if it leaks.
42. If possible, before you sign on the bottom line, have your own mechanic check out the car or take it to a diagnostic center.
43. Never buy a used car at night, in the rain or when you are in a hurry.
44. Have the man in charge put in writing & sign all promises BEFORE YOU BUY!

ESTABLISH A GOAL

What do you want? Are you looking for financial security, professional acknowledgment, spiritual attainment? Do you want to fit better socially, or become more expressive creatively? Establish the goal that's right for you.

Then turn that goal from a dream into a desire. You want to realize that goal, not just wish for it. Aesop said, "Beware that you do not lose the substance by grabbing at the shadow." Know exactly what you want, then go for it.

Don't be tricked by your own procrastination - especially if you want to achieve something artistic. The writer Thomas Wolfe wrote, "I had been sustained by that delightful illusion of success which we all have when we dream about the books we are going to write instead of actually doing them.

Now I was face to face with it, and suddenly I realized that I had committed my life and my integrity so irrevocably to this struggle that I must conquer now or be destroyed."

Can you see what you want? If you want the abundance of material wealth that money provides, what goal will give you that money? Do you want the prestige of owning your own business? What business do you want to begin?

Where are the opportunities for you? Talk to everyone in the business you want to join. Make friends in the literary or art societies in your area. Read books and articles about your field of endeavor. How can you attain your goal?

"If you don't want to work, you have to work to earn enough money so that you don't have to work," wrote Ogden Nash. And isn't that the way" Money makes money; success breeds success. But not always. How can you break through those thoughts to help yourself to the rewards?

Henry David Thoreau wrote, "I have learned this at least by my experiment: that if you advance confidently in the direction of your dreams, and endeavour to live the life which you imagine, you will meet with success."

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Editor’s notes:

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PERKS OF BEING OVER 50:

Your supply of brain cells is finally down to manageable size.

Your secrets are safe with your friends because they can't remember them either.

Your joints are more accurate meteorologists than the national weather service.

People call at 9 pm and ask, "Did I wake you?"

People no longer view you as a hypochondriac.

There is nothing left to learn the hard way.

Things you buy now won't wear out.

You think humor must be good for your body, exercise and diets haven’t worked well.

You can eat dinner at 4 P.M.

You can live without sex but not without glasses.

You enjoy hearing about other peoples operations.

You get into heated arguments about pension plans.

You have a party and the neighbors don't even realize it.

You no longer think of speed limits as a challenge.

You quit trying to hold your stomach in, no matter who walks into the room.

You sing along with elevator music.

Your eyes won't get much worse.

Your investment in health insurance is finally beginning to pay off.

You know more about prescription drugs than you pharmacist

You can't remember who sent you this list.

The Pastor and the Cat

He had a kitten that climbed up a tree in his backyard and then was afraid to come down. The pastor coaxed, offered warm milk, etc. The kitty would not come down.

The tree was not sturdy enough to climb, so the pastor decided that if he tied a rope to his car and drove away so that the tree bent down, he could then reach up and get the kitten.

He did all this, checking his progress in the car frequently, then figured if he went just a little bit further, the tree would be bent sufficiently for him to reach the kitten.

But as he moved a little further forward, the rope broke.

The tree went "boing!" and the kitten instantly sailed through the air - out of sight.

The pastor felt terrible.

He walked all over the neighborhood asking people if they'd seen a little kitten. No. Nobody had seen a stray kitten. So he prayed, "Lord, I just commit this kitten to your keeping," and went on about his business.

A few days later he was at the grocery store and met one of his church members. He happened to look into her shopping cart and was amazed to see cat food. Now this woman was a cat hater and everyone knew it, so he asked her, "Why are you buying cat food when you hate cats so much?"

She replied, "You won't believe this," and told him how her little girl had been begging her for a cat, but she kept refusing. Then a few days before, the child had begged again, so the Mom finally told her little girl, "Well if God gives you a cat, I'll let you keep it."

She told the pastor, "I watched my child go out in the yard, get on her knees, and ask God for a cat. And really, Pastor, you won't believe this, but I saw it with my own eyes.

A kitten suddenly came flying out of the blue sky, with its paws outspread, and landed right in front of her."

~ Dwight Nelson (According to www.mountainwings.com, this is a true story about the pastor of Mr. Nelson's church)

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