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“Most people are about as happy as they make up their mind to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

"A weak mind is like a microscope, which magnifies trifling things but cannot receive great ones." - Lord Chesterfield

The focus of our attention determines our life experiences.

Where we put our attention, we put our energy.

Where we put our attention, we put our consciousness.

We draw into our lives the thing to which we give our attention, whether we want it or not.

We seed the thing or idea that has our attention.

That seed grows into the experiences of everyday life.

LIGHT AND DARK; POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE

There is a light side and a dark side to every part of life. Or we might say that everything has both a positive and a negative side or aspect.

Without the light and the dark (or positive and negative), life could not exist as we know it. The opportunity exists for personal choice of focus on either the positive or the negative.

We can choose to see and expand the darkness or the lightness of each situation, each relationship, each moment. We can choose to focus on the negative or the positive in each person -- both exist.

We can choose to illuminate the bad or the good in every situation. It is an individual choice, constantly evoked by our focus of attention.

We can be positive and happy simply because we make that choice, dependent on nothing else. That to which we give our attention grows and grows.

A little flaw becomes a big one as we talk about it. The flaw gains greater momentum with each telling, drawing to us others who are fascinated by the flaw.

As the fascination grows, we see the same or similar flaws in others.

So, too, a good point becomes an enormous asset as we focus on it and give it attention through our observations, thoughts, and conversations.

Article continued HA8 Focus of our Attention by Jeanie Marshall

“BEWARE! WHY do people let their dreams die unlived?”
One reason is the negative cynical attitudes of other people.

These people are not enemies, they are friends, even family members. If our friends are negative towards our dreams or aspirations . . . our friends can kill us.

Make me a coffee... Reflections on life
Be honest with yourself... which are YOU?... A carrot, an egg, or a cup of coffee? Which one would you LIKE to be?

“How to manage your fears”
Imagine discovering a way to get rid of your fears in a quick and painless manner. In fact it can even become fun!Did you know only two of all the fears you have are innate: The fear of falling and the fear of loud noises.

Take the Day Off
Are you tired yet? Really, really tired? Most modern moms know what it means to be really tired. And most don't know what a 'weekend' looks like.

You know. That interesting idea where you get two days off of work each week to rejuvenate. Rest and refresh.

Seven Strategies You Need to Know About Strengthening Your Self-Esteem
Did you know that your life’s success in all areas is directly related to having a healthy self-esteem? You’ve heard the cliché “You are what you eat.” Many would also argue that “You are what you think.”

If you can….
If you can start the day without caffeine or pep pills,
If you can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,
If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,

Discovering Your Talents
When we do strategic planning for corporations, we begin with the premise that the purpose of the exercise is to reorganize people and resources to increase the company's rate of return on the equity it has invested in the business.

This is done by allocating more resources to areas with higher potential returns, and taking resources away from those with lower potential returns.

By developing or promoting newer and better products and services, and discontinuing those that are less profitable, the company can channel its efforts in a way that maximizes its returns.

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21 things to remember...
1. Success stops when YOU do!
2. Look for opportunities... not guarantees.
3. If you don't start, it's certain you won't arrive.
4. The best way to escape your problem is to solve it.
5. We often fear the thing we want the most.

“How Do You Attract Opportunity Into Your Life?”
Someone recently asked me the question: "How can I have more opportunities come into my life?" Good question, but I think my answer surprised them a bit.

I bypassed the obvious (and necessary) points about hard work, persistence and preparation.

They actually were very hard workers. And they had the great attribute of being seekers, they were on the outlook.

“10 Potential Outcomes That Can Positively Change Your Life”
One of the hallmark traits of both top producers and successful businesses is their conscious and consistent investment in personal and professional growth. How much are you investing in your own business and personal growth?

If you begin today consistently investing in the personal growth strategies that we suggest below, here are 10 potential outcomes that can be achieved:

“Getting to know your friends & relatives”
What you're supposed to do is COPY (not forward) this entire email and paste it onto a new email that you'll send.

Change all of the answers so they apply to you. Then send this to a whole bunch of people you know *INCLUDING* the person who sent it to you.

The theory is that you'll learn a lot of little known facts about your friends/relatives.

“11 things you did not learn at school”
In his book, he talks about how the feel good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality, and set them up for failure in the real world.

“Today we mourn the passing of a beloved friend Common Sense”
Mr. Common Sense. Mr.Sense had been with us for many years. No one knows for sure how old he was since his birth records were long ago lost in bureaucratic red tape.

He will be remembered as having cultivated such valued lessons as knowing when to come in out of the rain, why the early bird gets the worm and that life isn't always fair.

“HOW BALANCED IS YOUR LIFE?”
"Most people are so unbalanced today that they aren't even aware of it," says Terri Levine, author of the amazon.com best-selling book, "Work Yourself Happy."

She has created a short quiz to help measure the degree of balance you have between the demands of work, family responsibilities and personal time. Answer each question with a number, with 5 being "always" and 1 being "never."

“Explaining What You Do In 15 Seconds”
You're in the elevator and your friend John introduces you to Barbara who is the CEO of one of the companies you'd like to do business with. Barbara asks, "What do you do?"

“Desideratum Poem”
Here is the Desiderata also sometimes spelled Desiderada. Reading this famous poem daily will cause a positive mental shift. It says to remember what peace there may be in silence.

“How dreams become goals”
It is wonderful to have a dream. It can also be wonderful to have a goal. True, there is a school of thought that maintains we should not need goals. We looked at this view a few months ago.

My own perception of this viewpoint is that it applies to those goal-lists that time management folk’s advocate. They can be useful, or a burden, depending on where you are in your personal growth. Today, though, I am looking at something different.

“How to Be Strong and Powerful”
When we think of leadership, we often think of the traits of strength, and power. But what are these really, and how do they operate?

“How to organize your paperwork”
We must all be efficient and productive in today's business world. Being organized helps you handle tasks quickly so that you have more time and space to do what you truly want to do.

“How To Eliminate Negative Feelings Forever”
Today I want to talk to you about how to be spiritually fulfilled at work. Work occupies a big hunk of time in our lives. Its forty hours for most people and up to fifty, sixty, seventy, and more for others. So if we’re spending all this time at work, we may as well feel fulfilled.

“How to stay young”
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctor worry about them. That is why you pay him/her.

“How to Succeed for the Rest of Your Life”
I spoke recently with the owner of a large clothing store who had poured years of effort into his business. He had achieved his dream and built a successful career. However, his hectic pace was becoming difficult to maintain.

“Improving Your Self Esteem”
Often in our society, we are bombarded with the lives of celebrities. We can end up feeling that if we are not part of the rich and famous, our lives are insignificant. Our society also sends a message of competition and achievement. We watch sports, we always hear about profit and the bottom line being the dollar, we see large companies competing and constantly buying each other out.

“Identifying Work At Home Success Characteristics”
Do people that are successful in home based businesses share some common characteristics and, if so, what are the primary ones?

“Is Your Money Mindset Fat or Thin?”
It’s a well know fact that how you feel about money greatly determines how much of it you earn and more important… how much you keep. So lets take a look at your Money Mindset and see what it reveals about you. It’s a well know fact that how you feel about money greatly determines how much of it you earn and more important… how much you keep. So lets take a look at your Money Mindset and see what it reveals about you.

“JOURNAL FOR LIFE”
I will share with you a few of my on-going thoughts regarding the practice of keeping a journal. I am not an expert on subject: but I am a proponent of the art.

“Let's concentrate on personal development!”
These days, watching TV, listening to the radio, reading newspapers or internet news is real torture: nothing but sickening scenes, a horrible litany of killings, bombings, murder, rape...

“Make this year the Healthiest Year of Your Life”
How would it feel to rise early each day with abundant energy and a laser-sharp mind . . . completely free of aches and pains . . . lean and perfectly toned?

“Maintaining Your Motivation”
recently spoke to a group of sales professionals at the end of their training conference. The attendees had participated in many learning sessions over a two day period - most of which were product related. I was scheduled to speak after dinner and I was somewhat concerned how attentive they would be by this time.

“Yoga stress buster”
Follow a simple yoga relaxation routine to unwind completely after a busy day.

Used to calm the body and channel the mind, yoga is an excellent way to de-stress. The following technique focuses the mind in relaxing every part of the body.

“Why We Get Sick”
Why Recent advancements in the knowledge of how our bodies function has altered the thinking of many people in health and related fields so that they now give more thought and consideration of each individual’s contribution to his or her level of health.

“Your Personal Image: It's Your Most Important YOU Asset”
Your personal image, the perception that people have about you, affects your success in every aspect of life – your life on the job, your social life, even your "personal" relationships with others.

That is true because, no matter who you are or what you do, your success, ultimately, depends on what other people THINK about you – the image they have of you.

“7 Keys To Better Relationships”
Would you like to enhance the quality of your life and increase your personal happiness? If you answered "yes," the information in this article could change your life!

“Healthy Self-Esteem”
As the world becomes more complex, competitive, challenging, self-esteem is more important than ever.

The shift from a manufacturing-based society to one based on information, and the emergence of a global economy characterized by rapid change have created growing demands on our psychological resources.

“What Stress is…”
No two people are affected in exactly the same way, or to the same degree, but most people living in our highly industrialized society suffer from its effects at one or more times during their lives.

“You Are What You Think You Are”
Think out of the box, they say. But what's a box? In the context of the discussion here the 'box' is the sub-conscious mind. More specifically box is the limitation imposed by sub-conscious mind.

“The jar and the coffee – Time management tips”
When 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the following story about the mayonnaise jar and the coffee.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

“Affirmations = Life is a gift. ”
Life is a gift. Life is eternal.
Life is an experience. Spirit is essential.
Love is the Divine energy.

“5 Benefits of Keeping a Personal Journal”
Everyone who has kept a personal journal knows that writing is a therapeutic process that helps integrate seemingly unconnected life events.

Some believe the process works because the physical act of writing (using your hand-eye coordination) occupies your left brain, leaving your right brain free to access emotions, intuit connections, and create new insights

“6 Steps To Overcoming Your Worst Habit”
How ashamed are you of your habit? How much do you want to get over this habit? Thinking about the amount of “satisfaction" you gain from your habit, where would you place it on a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest?

“5 Ways to Kick the Procrastination Habit!”
Do you rush around doing things at the last minute?

How many times have you mentioned something that you felt that you ought to do and said "yes, I'll get round to it", but "it" never happens.

Procrastination means to "defer action", but it rarely serves us well, unless we know what's behind it and what to do about it.

“7 Weeks To A Happier Life”
Life is usually what we make it. Wait a minute -- did I say "make it"?

I know, I know, the conventional theory is that "life happens" -- um, yeah, I cleaned that up a bit.

“9 Ways to Motivate Yourself When You Just Don't Feel Like It”
Achieving the really big goals and dreams always involves breaking it down into do-able little steps.

Assuming that you've picked a goal or dream that you really love working at, then most of the steps are a delight to take.

No matter how much you love your dream and no matter how much you love your work, there are going to be tasks along the way that you really don't want to do.

“10 Minute Tricks to Help You Get Organized”
1. 10 MINUTE CHORE BOX:

Rather than spending hours organizing, and doing it all yourself, create a 10 minute Chore Box for yourself--and one for each family member, if applicable.

Each person's box would contain specific chores or tasks that need to be completed. The chores are written on slips of paper, and take a maximum of 10 minutes each to accomplish.

“Living your life 'in integrity'”
Living your life 'in integrity' means that your words match your actions which match your beliefs.

When you are living your life in harmony with your values, you naturally have more energy.

Clarifying what really matters to you, knowing what you stand for, will set you free to live life to its fullest potential.

“10 Ways To Feel Good About Your Life.”
Feeling good about your life involves just 2 parts. Really! One is to learn to think about yourself in healthy ways.

This is a learned skill, ladies and gentlemen, not something that a lucky few were born with.

“21 Days to A Positive-Attitude Habit”
This may come as a surprise... but your attitude is more important than your aptitude in determining your success in life!

“Eight Keys to Happiness”
I visit my mother in a nursing home several days a week.

Each time I leave I am grateful for being able to walk into the bright sunshine on my own two legs.

There are so many things to be thankful for in my life – among them good health, my skills and abilities and caring relationships.

I find that stopping to appreciate what I have helps me to stay positive and has a direct impact on how happy I feel.

“Finding Balance In A Tilted World”
I was recently talking with one of my entrepreneur friends. He has started three businesses in the last several years—a budding entrepreneur.

He was relating some of the joys he has experienced in those enterprises: a sense of freedom from the corporate world, pursuing his dreams and passions, setting his own schedule, controlling his destiny and a large potential for financial rewards.

“What Have You Done For Yourself Lately?”
This article helps individuals and entrepreneurs to set boundaries for their business in order to be more productive and live the life they want.

Remember the old Janet Jackson song, "What Have You Done For Me Lately?" Maybe you don't and maybe I am just dating myself! This song was about a declaration of what a woman wants from her man. The point of the song was that the woman does everything for her man but what has he done for her other than cause her grief?

“Does Social Anxiety Hold You Back?”
In the "Anxiety Disorders" section of the manual entitled "Diagnostic Criteria from DSM IV," which is used for the diagnosis of mental health conditions, there are 12 anxiety diagnoses covered.

“7 Keys To Better Relationships”
Isn't it easy to get stuck in the everydayness of life? We can get so busy making a living and getting ahead financially that the really important things fall through the cracks!

“Making Life Count”
Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.

“The Top 10 Best Ideas For Setting Goals”
You cannot pick up a book or participate in a training program today without the author or instructor teaching the power of goal setting. Yet, most people today spend more time planning a two-week vacation than planning their lives by setting goals. It's been said that achieving goals is not a problem--it's SETTING goals that is the problem. People just don't do it. They leave their lives to chance...and usually end up broke by the time they reach retirement.

“You ARE loved”
1. Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.

2. At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.

3. The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.

“Working with Simplicity”
From time to time, people confide to me that while the notion of simplicity is appealing, their work is more important to them at this time in their lives. The underlying assumption in this statement is that work and simplicity are somehow in conflict or not compatible.

“Useless Facts To Make Life More Fun”
Someone sent me these totally useless facts, but on the premise that you never know when they might come in handy, I pass them along as a public service. (And, please don't write to tell me some or all of them are mistaken - I make no promise of accuracy. I only know they made me chuckle.)

“Making Christmas Meaningful”
"If you give money, spend yourself with it." Henry David Thoreau Children make great volunteers they are full of enthusiasm, energy, and optimism. There are many good reasons why kids should volunteer. Studies show that people who help others are healthier and happier.

“Quiz: Are you creative? self help personality quiz”
Worried you may not be creative or you may not be creative enough? This quiz will help you find out just how creative you are.

“10 Ways Business Entrepreneurs Shoot Themselves In The Foot”
Entrepreneurs and their businesses have a tendency to ambush themselves when they aren't looking.

This affects how much revenue they can generate, how fast their business rises, and even if they survive after the first few years.

If you feel there is a possibility you are getting in your way to success, review these elements to see if any of these items might apply.

“12 Reasons Why You Should Never Neglect People Skills”
. Exceptional people skills and the ability to start a wonderful conversation with anyone you meet are essential life skills.

Your success and happiness are directly related to the development of these social skills.

“20 Ways to Advance your Career”
1. Exceed expectations; deliver results on a or head of time.

2. Manage your time effectively.

3. Create a career plan with goals and training requirements.

“Are You Addicted To Your Activities?”
Activities - such as sports, creative projects, reading, work, TV, meditation - can be a wonderful way to relax, express yourself, or connect to yourself.

Or they can be an addiction. How can you know the difference?

Your most valuable assets today are your abilities to use your mind to access, communicate, and creatively evaluate information.

In a society in which the main commodity is becoming information, it's not your status that matters, but what you know and how quickly you can learn.

As Churchill said, "...only the empires of the mind endure."

“Create Your Own Mission Statement for Your Personal and Professional Life”
Two of life's greatest tragedies are: Never to have had a great mission in life, and to have fully reached it so there is no challenge remaining.

“Reading body language”
Body language is fascinating. People rarely recognize how much information they give off and how noticeable it is to the human eye.

Even to the untrained human eye. It is said that no less that 50 percent of information on a person’s character, impact and credibility is conveyed through non verbal communication.

“Creative Problem-Solving: Following Your Stream of Consciousness”
Having trouble finding a solution to a nagging problem? Try a well-known journaling technique called stream of consciousness--you may be surprised at the creative messages you receive from your inner self.

“Discover Your Life Purpose”
Everyone has a life purpose; a unique and special something each of us is supposed to do in LIFE.

A life purpose is not a specific job or career, it is much deeper and much more fulfilling. Now, you can uncover your own life purpose.

You can do it the easy, fast, modern way, using a modestly priced online program, or you can uncover your own life purpose using the more difficult (but free) old-fashioned do-it-yourself method.

“Donkey in the Well – positive attitudes”
One day a farmer's donkey fell down a well.

The animal cried piteously as the farmer tried to figure out what to do.

Finally, he decided the animal was old, and the well needed to be covered up anyway; it just wasn't worth the time and trouble to retrieve the donkey.

“7 Solutions for Practical Stress Management”
Stress is amazingly persistent, even seductive. We get used to feeling tight and tense. Though positive thinking has its place, unless it is backed up by practical wisdom it tends to get overwhelmed and fade away.

“Meditation and visualization for relaxation”
Meditating can help bring mind and body into a state of harmony. It is a way to balance an active life with calming period of inner reflection, and has the benefit of promoting easy, restful sleep.

“How to Cope with Difficult People”
In my travels across North America speaking on motivation and human potential I hear the same question asked repeatedly, " How can I become more assertive?" There is no doubt about it, there are people in our lives who are harmful to our health and we don't like it one bit.

“Energy Rechargers for Winners”
Want more energy so you can live a more fulfilling life? Energy is life's fuel! According to Benjamin Franklin, "Energy and persistence alter all things."

“Procrastination Pointers”
Procrastination is one of the biggest enemies we have to our Personal Productivity. Thinking about doing something and planning to do it are fine, but what if we fail to move ahead?

“How to Stay Motivated Despite Negative People”
Getting motivated is sometimes easy enough to do, at least for short periods of time, but staying motivated can be a lot harder to do.

“What Would You Do If You Knew You Could Not Fail?”
The next time you find yourself relaxing on the couch, having popped some corn and about to watch the “Sopranos”, instead, pose this $1,000,000 lottery question to yourself and see what flows. What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Would you work, not work? If you knew anything you touched or did held the possibility for success - whatever that is, what would you do? If there were no time constraints, no obstacles, no self-doubt, what would you do?

“Ten Tips For Personal Growth”
Personal growth seems to occur in spurts. We gain a little, lose a little, surge ahead or slide into a holding pattern where in growth seems to be stagnated. Here are ten ways to get back on track.

“Words That Limit Your Success”
article about limitation by Meir Liraz

“How to Be a Perfect Failure”
In my opinion, one of the greatest highs in life is creating something and watching it work once it has been created.

Humans were meant to be creative creatures and evolution has rewarded creativity and achievement with wonderful and pleasurable bursts of neurochemicals our brains create whenever we do something creative -- not to mention possible financial rewards and the satisfaction and increased confidence that comes of having done something well.

“Your Imagination, the Ultimate Success Tool”
In order to achieve your goals and attain new levels of success, put your imagination to work. Get into the habit of visualizing your goals as if they are already happening. Talk to yourself as if you are already achieving that success that up until now you've only dreamed of.

“7 Tips to a Healthier, Happier You.”
Health and happiness are not that difficult to have in one's life.

It just takes some attention and some action to insure that you have as much of both as you desire.

“6 Steps To Overcoming Your Worst Habit”
How ashamed are you of your habit? How much do you want to get over this habit? Thinking about the amount of “satisfaction" you gain from your habit, where would you place it on a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 is the highest?

“What Stress is…”
No two people are affected in exactly the same way, or to the same degree, but most people living in our highly industrialized society suffer from its effects at one or more times during their lives.

“7 Solutions for Practical Stress Management”
Stress is amazingly persistent, even seductive. We get used to feeling tight and tense. Though positive thinking has its place, unless it is backed up by practical wisdom it tends to get overwhelmed and fade away.

“Sleep, Thoughts, Worries and Fears”
Do you fall asleep immediately after entering bed or do thoughts and worries begin to flow into your mind, keeping your sleep away? Do you find it hard to stop them?

“Doleful Tales of an Insomniac”
I tried with all my might but I just could not stay awake.

My eyelids grew heavier by the moment until I finally caved in and dozed off. When I was abruptly awakened 15 minutes later, by an old lady poking my ribs with her fancy umbrella, I realized that I missed my stop again.

“Anger and your health”
Jane and Anthony have differing ways of viewing the world.

Jane is a pessimist (the glass is half-empty), while Anthony is an optimist (the glass is half-full).

“20 Tips to Ensure Good Sleep”
Getting a good night's sleep is one key to having a productive day -- so if you're plagued by periodic or chronic insomnia, you're bound to be compromising your ability to do your work.

Here are 20 things that can help you . . .

“Fifty Useful Tips For Better Sleep”
You can sleep without pills and still beat insomnia. The fifty following tips will help you to have a better night'ssleep.

“Dress for Health! Creative Ways to Make Wellness a Habit”
Every morning you get dressed, right?

Well, what if you could put on your wellness habits each day as easily as you put on your clothing?

And to keep moving towards your healthy goals, you would 'dress for health' each day. What would you wear?

“9 Ways to Motivate Yourself When You Just Don't Feel Like It”
Achieving the really big goals and dreams always involves breaking it down into do-able little steps.

Assuming that you've picked a goal or dream that you really love working at, then most of the steps are a delight to take.

No matter how much you love your dream and no matter how much you love your work, there are going to be tasks along the way that you really don't want to do.

“Finding Time; Tips for Gaining 2 Hours Each Day”
Would you be interested in finding two extra hours each day in your schedule? Here are some ways to do just that.

“Don't Let Finances Rule Over Your Self-Esteem”
I know a barber who had the opportunity of buying one of the oldest and best barbershops in his city. He had worked there for a few years, and knew it was a good investment.

So, he made arrangements with the owner, and took the plunge.

“Create Your Own Mission Statement for Your Personal and Professional Life”
Two of life's greatest tragedies are: Never to have had a great mission in life, and to have fully reached it so there is no challenge remaining.

“What Would You Do If You Knew You Could Not Fail?”
The next time you find yourself relaxing on the couch, having popped some corn and about to watch the “Sopranos”, instead, pose this $1,000,000 lottery question to yourself and see what flows. What would you do if you knew you could not fail? Would you work, not work? If you knew anything you touched or did held the possibility for success - whatever that is, what would you do? If there were no time constraints, no obstacles, no self-doubt, what would you do?

HA224 Stress Relief: How to Let Go and Reduce Stress with the 90/10 Method self help article by Arlen Busenitz
The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and apply this secret. The result?

Millions of people are suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and heartache. They never seem to be a success in life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening.

HA103 Overcoming Anxiety, self help article by Robert Elias Najemy
In order to create the healthy, happy and harmonious reality we all desire, we will need to create emotional harmony.

This process can be divided into six basic steps:

HA211 Control Your Own Life self help article by Leon Turner
I have gained and achieved a reasonable degree of control over my own life. In times past I have allowed others to anger me by them doing or not doing according to my will, wish, want and desire.

HA225 SAVORING THE "EVERYDAYNESS" OF EVERY DAY self help article by Momscape.com
When was the last time you were "in the zone?"

When was the last time you experienced that hypnotic feeling of being so utterly concentrated that you lost track of the rest of the world?

When was the last time you were completely task-oriented, enveloped in a self-induced trance, hypnotized by the joy of just doing something - of being entirely focused on a single task?

HA126 The Forgotten Formula to HAPPINESS and SUCCESS, self help article by Dr. Houston Vetter
Before we get started let me state this material is meant to encourage and motivate.

HA127 A Nature Meditation, self help article by Robert Elias Najemy
You are sitting by a quietly flowing stream in the countryside.

It is spring and life is green and moist?

Sitting on a rock, the sights and sounds of the flowing water begin to work their mysterious way into your nervous system.

Gradually, with the simple repetition of the water’s song and the harmonious beauty of the natural surroundings, the thousands of electronic impulses of your brain begin to discharge into the tension-absorbing air.

HA104 SOMETIMES LIFE IS JUST "TIRED!" (Making It During The Blahs) self help article by Lee Wise
SOMETIMES LIFE IS JUST "TIRED!" (Making It During The Blahs) self help article by Lee Wise Happiness and wellbeing personal development article about self help, happiness, personal development, self growth. How do you spell "Life?" Answer: Dry Corn Flakes.

Sometimes life is like that, isn't it? Not that it is terrible or even terrific. It's just goin' -- and that's the point! I really don't know what you call these times. Maybe you could call them "dry cereal days."

HA106 Anger – Solutions, self help article by Robert Elias Najemy
Anger – Solutions, self help article by Robert Elias Najemy Happiness and wellbeing personal development article about self help, happiness, personal development, self growth.

Rage is an advanced form of anger, just as panic is to fear, a state in which we are even less in control of our words and behaviour. Hate is a condition in which we think very badly of someone, avoid contact with him, and probably wish the worst for him, perhaps even hoping that he might experience a tragedy. All three of these emotions, which from here on in we will simply call "anger", are secondary emotions in the sense that they arise from other emotions, such as hurt, fear, guilt, injustice, disappointment, etc.

What's life about? Being happy, of course!
This may be hard to believe, and you most likely won’t want to believe it but…..You ARE HAPPY – right now, you just don’t know it or simply don’t know how to tap into that deep down undercurrent of pure Joy and Pleasure that is flowing through you right now. Maybe even a chuckle is just waiting to bubble to the surface if you want to let it – who knows? By nature we are actually happy all the time – if we don’t let life get in the way.

HA236 How To Cheer Yourself Up When You're Down, happiness self help tips by Colleen Moulding
Got the colder weather, sour relationships, no money, poor health, plain ol' down 'n dirty blues?

Try some of these strategies to blow away those dark clouds and let the sunshine into your life again.

HA101 Stress Eliminating self help Affirmations by RE Najemy
Our thoughts create our reality. Here are some Affirmations which create a more positive, happier more fulfilling reality.

HA6 Create Happiness with a Positive Life Outlook by RE Najemy
Changing what we believe about life, others and most important of all, ourselves.

The mind is the molder of our personal and communal world.

HA255 George Constanza’s Words of Wisdom
Says George: “The most unfair thing about life is the way it ends. I mean, life is tough. It takes up a lot of your time. What do you get at the end of it? A death. What’s that, a bonus?!?

HA242 What Is Happiness? 20 Inspirational Quotes compiled by Colleen Moulding
Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. Nathaniel Hawthorne

"Love Quotes, Poems and Romance Manual" right mouse click on self help ebook to download

HA509 Happiness tips for Couples
When you enter into a ‘partnership’ one of the very first things you notice as part of a couple is that you are no longer master of your own life. It may be that you feel restrictions placed on you to account for your every minute and to be on call and on time for things that may or may not be a high priority for you.

Flood your heart with laughter and happy memories will follow, self help article by Patricia Ritsema van Eck
Have you ever experienced how easy you can bend and twist after a good laugh? No? And you’re not a yogi? Nor a ballet-dancer? Then you should try the next exercise.

Stand up straight, but relaxed, your knees slightly bent and your feet about 30 centimetres apart. Now slowly bend over. Start with lowering your chin to your chest, then lower your head further and bow your back. Don’t force anything! How far can your fingers reach down?

HA237 A Selection of Natural Highs to inspire you to Make Every Day Special
The satisfaction of knowing, that as a teacher, you are, in fact, a dream maker - showing the adults of tomorrow that anything is possible. Getting the final Jeopardy question right. A perfect performance after a stinko rehearsal. Finally accomplishing what everyone thought was impossible. A long rally of hard hit tennis shots. The feeling you get sometimes, where just being alive on this beautiful planet is all you could ask for.

HA28 One Thought at a Time self help article by J Marshall
I harm or heal myself One thought at a time. I discover myself and others One thought at a time. I live my life One thought at a time.

My telephone rings, I choose a thought. I choose to choose from among the many positive thoughts. A connection with the outside world. A friend. A client. Information. Happy News. Appreciation. Technology. An answer.

HA66 Facing the Enemies Within by Jim Rohn
Maybe some of our fears are brought on by your own experiences, by what someone has told you, by what you've read in the papers.

Some fears are valid, like walking alone in a bad part of town at two o'clock in the morning.

HA92 Say Goodbye to Struggle, Jeanie Marshall
Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live in every experience, painful or joyous; to live in gratitude for every moment, to live abundantly. -- Dorothy Thompson

Struggle is a common expectation in our society. We tend to plan for it, anticipate it, and invite it into our lives.

HA80 Asking Empowering Questions by Jeanie Marshall
Questions guide us in all that we do. Some questions we ask to ourselves; some to others. We walk into a room and think or ask, "What's going on here?" We hear the telephone ring and wonder, "Who's that?" We see a friend and ask, usually quite automatically, "How are you?"

HA22 What you see is What you Get by Lee Wise
WE CALL HER "MIK"

People call her "Mik." Short for Mikaila. Yes, her parents approve of the nickname.

They gave it to her!

Mik is our daughter's first child, and we are fortunate enough to have them living right down the road from us.

Yesterday was one of those neat "Mik" times. She is jabbering now.

HA42 Dealing with Emotional Pain by RE Najemy
We feel emotional pain when we do not get what we want, need, or expect. We might feel hurt, rejection, bitterness, abuse, injustice or simply emotional pain.

In such cases, we have not received the behaviour or outcomes we expected or believed we deserved.

We feel this kind of feel pain in cases when * people * do not behave to us in the ways that we had expected as well as in situations where * life * does not give us what we feel we need or deserve.

HA83 The new Epidemic: Anxiety, Panic & Depression by E Bohorquex
MENTAL HEALTH for balance of body and mind. Directory of self help resources and articles to help achieve BALANCE in you private life, work life and general lifestyle for your Wellbeing.

Without good mental health it is nearly impossible to maintain a state of Happiness and Wellbeing. Pain and Dis-Ease will inevitably detract from any headway you make in your Positive Attitude towards life and your day to day activities.

You need to both nurture and feed your bodya and mind and to protect it from vulnerable areas of attack.

HA31 Hocus Pocus - Magic Does Exist! by N Neta
Lately, our little daughter has been afraid of dragons. Some witches and the neighbour’s black dog have also been causing her concern. We taught her the magic spell: 'Jimalaya...Jim!' and since she's been using it, the dragons, witches and even the big black dog, aren't bothering her anymore. How come? It's magic!

"365 Daily Success Quotes" motivational famous quotes e-book to have and to share with friends

"Ten Ways You Can Be Happier........ Right Now" by Dr. Cliff Kuhn, excerpt from "THE FUN FACTOR" self help Happiness ebook

"Inspiration for the Happy Heart", ebook by Patricia Ritsema van Eck

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Create Happiness with a Positive Life Outlook,

The mind is the molder of our personal and communal world.

Every event we perceive through our senses is analyzed, evaluated and registered in the mind as pleasant, unpleasant or neutral. Our belief systems seek to determine whether each perceived input is something, which will "protect" or "endanger" our security, self-worth and / or freedom.

When life’s events are interpreted by our programmed mind as threatening, fearful or unpleasant, we experience a state of anxiety and tension. When anxiety and nervous tension become a chronic situation, then the body and mind are gradually worn down into a state of weakness and ill health. A psychosomatic illness is created.

The energy flow, concentration and clarity of the mind are disturbed. Organs begin to malfunction. Negative emotional states such as depression, bitterness, fear, anger, hate, envy, jealousy and resentment dominate the mind. Our relationships begin to deteriorate and a feeling of alienation can set it. It is time for «Attitude Therapy».

«Attitude Therapy»

In «Attitude Therapy» we transform attitudes, beliefs or perceptions, which prevent us from experiencing health, happiness and harmony. Negative, life-destroying attitudes are replaced by positive life-building ones. Let us consider some of these beneficial attitudes.

1) I Alone Am Responsible for My Life, Health and Happiness

We create our health, illness, happiness, unhappiness, unity, alienation, joys and problems through our ways of thinking, behaving, eating, sleeping, living and interacting. When we eat poorly, do not exercise, sleep too little or too much, do not breathe properly and waste our mental and emotional energy on so many superficial pursuits, we will naturally lose our health and peace of mind.

We create our reality in four basic ways.

a. Our choices, thoughts, actions and reactions of the past create corresponding results in our present life and psychosomatic state. (If in fact there is such a reality as reincarnation, then our past will also include all our choices of past lives.) Thus, a considerable amount of our present reality is dictated by our previous actions, choices and reactions.

b. We have chosen (as souls) to learn certain "lessons" at each stage of our evolutionary process.

1. If we have chosen to learn to learn self-acceptance it is natural to experience rejection from others so that we can develop inner self-worth. 2. If we have chosen to develop self-confidence, we will naturally have chosen to experience an absence of external support. 3. If we have chosen to learn forgiveness and unconditional love, we will have made a secret "soul agreement" with others to harm us so that we can then develop that type of forgiveness and love.

c. Our present conscious and subconscious beliefs are perhaps the greatest cause of our preset reality. We attract to ourselves behaviors, events and life situations, which in some way "mirror" or "vibrate sympathetically" with how we think and feel in the present. Our present positive and negative conscious and subconscious beliefs, desires, needs, expectations and emotions such as fear, guilt, shame, love, peace and anger all combine to attract to us a corresponding external (and certainly internal) reality.

d. In addition to attracting certain realities, we also interpret what is happening according to our beliefs. We give greater or lesser importance to specific issues and thus allow them to affect our state of mind to a greater or lesser degree. When we give great importance to our appearance or to how others perceive us or behave towards us, then our reality will change greatly every time we receive an input concerning our appearance or what others think.

Of these four factors we have control over only the last two at this point in time. We cannot change our past choices and our soul lessons are an integral part of our presence in these bodies. Thus we are left with changing our present conscious and subconscious beliefs. Firstly this will allow us to attract more positive behaviors, events and situations toward our being. Secondly, we will perceive life more positively so that even when we are not getting our preferred reality we feel secure, worthy and free to be our selves.

This is our point of power.

Changing what we believe about life, others and most important of all, ourselves. Some of those alternative ways of perceiving life will be described in this series.

Some of them are:

1. We alone are responsible for our lives, health and happiness as individuals and as a group.

2. We have the inner power and resourcefulness to deal with whatever life brings us.

3. Our self-worth is a function on our inner being and has nothing to do with appearance, affluence, position, knowledge or what others think.

4. Life is always giving us exactly what we need to create happiness and to continue our evolutionary process.

5. We are free to live our lives according to our own inner ideals and goals and to change our reality if we chose to.

6. We deeply love and seek to help our loved ones, while simultaneously remembering they are souls in the process of evolution who have chosen heir specific lessons.

7. We are all eternal souls in the evolutionary process of rediscovering and manifesting our inner divine nature.

8. Each being is divine creation and deserves our love and respect including us.

9. Our life purpose is to individually and collectively transform our reality into a more enlightened and loving one.

10. Our basic lesson is Love.

11. All of this universe is an expression of the one Universal Omnipresent and Omnipotent Being - Consciousness.

12. We as co-creators with the Divine have been created to bless, spiritualize and transform the material world.

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Robert Elias Najemy is the author of over 600 articles, 400 lecture cassettes on Human Harmony and 20 books, which have sold over 100,000 copies. He is the Founder and director of the Center for Harmonious Living in Greece with 3700 members. His book The Psychology of Happiness is available at http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/ASIN/0971011605/holisticharmo- 20 and http://www.HolisticHarmony.com/psychofhappiness.html. You can download FREE articles and e-books from http://www.HolisticHarmony.com where you can also receive guidance on life issues.

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