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FEEL HAPPY! Achieving BALANCED EMOTIONS for genuine and lasting happiness.
These self help resources will help you to maintain a positive attitude and state of wellbeing.
Create Happiness with a Positive Life Outlook,
Changing what we believe about life, others and most important of all, ourselves.
The mind is the molder of our personal and communal world.
Every event we perceive through our senses is analyzed, evaluated and registered in the mind as pleasant, unpleasant or neutral. Our belief systems seek to determine whether each perceived input is something, which will “protect” or “endanger” our security, self-worth and / or freedom.
When life’s events are interpreted by our programmed mind as threatening, fearful or unpleasant, we experience a state of anxiety and tension. When anxiety and nervous tension become a chronic situation, then the body and mind are gradually worn down into a state of weakness and ill health. A psychosomatic illness is created.
The energy flow, concentration and clarity of the mind are disturbed. Organs begin to malfunction. Negative emotional states such as depression, bitterness, fear, anger, hate, envy, jealousy and resentment dominate the mind. Our relationships begin to deteriorate and a feeling of alienation can set it. It is time for «Attitude Therapy».
In «Attitude Therapy» we transform attitudes, beliefs or perceptions, which prevent us from experiencing health, happiness and harmony. Negative, life-destroying attitudes are replaced by positive life-building ones. Let us consider some of these beneficial attitudes.
1) I Alone Am Responsible for My Life, Health and Happiness
We create our health, illness, happiness, unhappiness, unity, alienation, joys and problems through our ways of thinking, behaving, eating, sleeping, living and interacting. When we eat poorly, do not exercise, sleep too little or too much, do not breathe properly and waste our mental and emotional energy on so many superficial pursuits, we will naturally lose our health and peace of mind.
We create our reality in four basic ways.
a. Our choices, thoughts, actions and reactions of the past create corresponding results in our present life and psychosomatic state. (If in fact there is such a reality as reincarnation, then our past will also include all our choices of past lives.) Thus, a considerable amount of our present reality is dictated by our previous actions, choices and reactions.
b. We have chosen (as souls) to learn certain “lessons” at each stage of our evolutionary process.
1. If we have chosen to learn to learn self-acceptance it is natural to experience rejection from others so that we can develop inner self-worth.
2. If we have chosen to develop self-confidence, we will naturally have chosen to experience an absence of external support.
3. If we have chosen to learn forgiveness and unconditional love, we will have made a secret “soul agreement” with others to harm us so that we can then develop that type of forgiveness and love.
c. Our present conscious and subconscious beliefs are perhaps the greatest cause of our preset reality. We attract to ourselves behaviors, events and life situations, which in some way “mirror” or “vibrate sympathetically” with how we think and feel in the present. Our present positive and negative conscious and subconscious beliefs, desires, needs, expectations and emotions such as fear, guilt, shame, love, peace and anger all combine to attract to us a corresponding external (and certainly internal) reality.
d. In addition to attracting certain realities, we also interpret what is happening according to our beliefs. We give greater or lesser importance to specific issues and thus allow them to affect our state of mind to a greater or lesser degree. When we give great importance to our appearance or to how others perceive us or behave towards us, then our reality will change greatly every time we receive an input concerning our appearance or what others think.
Of these four factors we have control over only the last two at this point in time. We cannot change our past choices and our soul lessons are an integral part of our presence in these bodies. Thus we are left with changing our present conscious and subconscious beliefs. Firstly this will allow us to attract more positive behaviors, events and situations toward our being. Secondly, we will perceive life more positively so that even when we are not getting our preferred reality we feel secure, worthy and free to be our selves.
This is our point of power.
Be FLEXIBLE, Don’t be a Perfectionist and do try to be Adaptable in your expectations of yourself and events around you. Our expectations can be so inflexible that even one small event can ruin the day for you. By maintaining an openness to changes in your plans and having back up strategies you will feel great every day.
Don’t be a perfectionist
“Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you “ Nathaniel Hawthorne
You can waste your energy and your life trying to be perfect, or create the ‘perfect’ outcome to your plans. Trying too hard, or creating an impossible to achieve set of obstacles to your happiness, guarantees you will remain discontent.
Set your target for something like eighty percent of what it would normally ‘take’ for you to feel successful, content, happy, prosperous, whatever. Yes, lower the bar if you recognize that you are setting yourself up for failure time after time.
We are naturally born happy. We have an undercurrent of happiness flowing through us at all times. Unfortunately, we suppress and divert that natural state of being, by insisting that all the ‘ducks have to be lined up in row’ for us to LET ourselves tap into that happiness, or let ourselves emotionally experience the outcome we want.
Loosen up a little, lower the bar of criteria that must be met, simplify your life and ‘must do’ to just LET some happiness seep out to bathe you in the natural joy you have in such abundance. Go on, stop and smell the roses today.
Be adaptable in your plans and expectations.
Expect that there will be delays, problems, breakdowns, late appointments, sour people. You don’t need to plan for the worst. Just make the effort to have back up plans ‘just in case’.
If you easily become aggravated or upset at delays, carry a small audiotape of motivational content, or a small book to read. Make calls on your mobile, use the time constructively to achieve something, rather than get your blood pressure up.
Allow plenty of time between appointments so that you are not constantly under pressure of a backlog. When you are early, take the time to window shop, or just sit down and take a few deep breaths and look around you for a minute. Find something beautiful to look at. If you look hard enough, you will find something.
Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s ALL small stuff in relation to the big picture of your lifetime.
Increase your chances of being happy by learning to love doing many things.
The more interests you have the more your chances to have to be doing things you love and enjoy on any given day. Identify the music you like to hear, books you like to read, places you love to be in or visit, people, movies, food, parks, entertainment.Identify them so that you know ‘where you are going’ when you set out each day.
If you just show up at places and events, without taking responsibility to ensure they are things you would enjoy, what do you expect – you decrease the odds of having a great time. Make a point to identify the things you already love AND then add new things to that list every month at least.
Try something new. You may not like it, but you won’t know for certain until you try them. And if you do love it, you have something new to add to your list of things you love to do, see, have, eat, hear, etc, for every day of the rest of your life. Those are the kind of odds everyone should bet on to be a winner in the life stakes.
Have better RELATIONSHIPS with family and friends that will support you in positive ways. Mother or Mother-in-law problems? Your Partner not as supportive of you as you need? Friends bringing grief into your life? Here are some self help strategies to bring warmth, love and respect into your relationships.
Your business and personal SELF IMAGE and self esteem shapes the way you feel about yourself and what you expect from your life and the people around you. You do deserve the best that life has to offer you, so why not develop a genuine expectation that life will always be abundant, supportive, fun and joyful?
Your APPEARANCE and PRESENTATION says so much about you and your expectations, to your clients and the people around you and to yourself when you look in the mirror every day. If you ever look in the mirror and ask yourself “who is this person?” you need to check out some of these self help strategies.
Sense of Purpose
Develop a SENSE OF PURPOSE to your life for greater passion, joy of achievement, and contribution. Remember the last time you woke up and just jumped out of bed, rushing toward the day ahead with an attitude of anticipation and excitement? You may not feel like that EVERY single day, but these self help strategies will help to bring you more than you have been getting lately.
Your RECREATION activities are what charge your batteries when you take time off to do the things you really enjoy.
When did you last have fun? Have you developed a Hobby that you truly love, that allows your creative energy to flow and makes you feel happy every minute that you are engrossed in it? How was your last Holiday? These self help suggestions will help to get the ideas flowing for more fun in your time off.
One top priority is Rest & Recreation to keep you fired up, not matter what your work schedule may be. SLEEP is usually the most neglected part of an entrepreneur’s health regime and this article gives you some reasons for us all to pay more attention to it.
Health and wellbeing self help article:
Deep Sleep: the Great Anti-Aging Regenerator
Men as young as 35 are already showing their age, according to a new study finding that changing sleep patterns in midlife could be costing men as much as 75 percent of a hormone known to prevent aging, namely growth hormone.
Previous studies have focused on growth hormone deficiencies in older men and women. Low growth hormone, low testosterone (in males) and high insulin are all associated with increased central obesity (pot belly), loss of muscle mass and reduced exercise capacity.
The ratio of the waist to the hip is a basic health and longevity biomarker, excellent being 8 to 10 ratio. But finding that human growth hormone (Hgh) decrease starts when men are in their 30s was unexpected, says Eve Van Cauter, professor of medicine at the University of Chicago and lead author of the study.
“When drug intervention targets older adults, that usually means over 65 years. The age range 35-50 is therefore younger that what is considered the entry into old age,” says Van Cauter.
The results of the study appear in the Journal of the American Medical Association.
The study involved 149 healthy men, ages 16 to 83, none of whom had a history of sleep disorders or took medications. Researchers mapped the chronology of age-related changes in sleep duration and found that the first stage of declining sleep quality hits men between the ages of 25 and 45!
Although total sleep time remained constant as men moved into midlife, the proportion of time spent in deep sleep declined from 20 percent for men under 25 to less than 5 percent for those over 35!
Article continued on HE98 link below:
HE98 Decline in Deep Sleep Causes Men to Age Faster by Dr. John H. Maher
On the Job
ON THE JOB: Enjoy yourself AT WORK so that you are happier in all areas of your life We spend so much time at work, whether it be at home or in a business, that what happen during those hours will impact on our view of our whole day, life and the world in general.
We need to develop skills in overcoming obstacles that we will inevitably encounter every day so that we can still enjoy the rest of our lives.
1. Take care of yourself. Healthy eating habits, following a regular sleep routine and exercise all contribute to your well being which allows you to perform at your best.
2. Do the worst first. If you find you cannot stop worrying about a certain task, then do the worst task first. Once that task is completed you will feel relieved and able to concentrate on the rest of your tasks, one at a time.
3. Focus on the task at hand. Attempting too much at once and underestimating the time it takes to do it will surely put you right back in the center of feeling overwhelmed and a step behind.
4. Control the phone. Decide when and where you will answer the phone. During off-time–use voice mail.
5. Separate work from play. Are you running the dinner table conversation the same as a meeting of the Board of Directors? Think about it.
6. Keep a Master List. Merge all your to-do lists, schedules and activity lists into one Master List. Use the technology that works for you whether it is index cards, spiral notebook, computer or a PDA.
7. Clean off your desk. Clutter is a distraction and time waster. How much time do you waste looking for documents and files?
8. Learn to say no. Take a reality break and identify what you can reasonably expect to get done. Accept your limitations and control your expectations. Would you really expect anybody else to work as hard as you do?
9. Use technology to help you. Create systems for handling your routine tasks. Take the time to learn how to use your computer to improve your efficiency to perform routine business tasks. Use templates for letters, faxes and email.
10. Slow down. Are you rushing through everything? Stop, look and listen.
self help article HA231:
PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT: strategies for a happier time while learning.
Also check out the “Business & Executive Development” section in the “Prosperity” Category below for business & work related resources.
Personal Goal Setting
GOAL SETTING and ACTION PLANS and CHECKLISTS and SELF GROWTH BOOKS Yes, at some point you need to do more than just read these self help strategies, you need to develop and define your goals and get yourself into action. The sheer Joy of Accomplishment is well worth the effort.
New Year’s Planning Critical Success Factorsself help Goal setting article by Paul Lemberg
New Year’s is a good time for strategic planning or re-planning your business. But don’t think that’s the only time. If you feel the need to re-consider your strategic plan – by all means – go ahead.
Whatever time of the year it is, you have probably set a working direction for the rest of the year, including clear-cut objectives. Your first-iteration plan to reach them should be in place.
This now (whatever time it is – if you are thinking about it) seems like an ideal time to rethink the whole thing, doesn’t it? In our sped-up 21st century world, plans are subject to change just as soon as – or perhaps even before – they are written.
If you haven’t already done so, now is an excellent time to review your company’s year-end results and plan for the coming year. If you’ve already created your annual plan, you may want to look at it in a new light.
A typical approach to planning suggests multiplying last year’s quantitative results by an acceptable growth factor. Industry standards vary, often from 5% to 25%.
Add to that number scheduled enhancements to your product line plus solutions to key problems you’ve been meaning to address, and that’s your plan.
Those of you who’ve been following my articles know that I advocate a different approach to this process:
Step 1) Learn whatever you can from last year’s results – something many of us forget to do. For example, make 1998 the year you act on the knowledge that it takes six months to train your field reps, not the six weeks you used to allocate.
Step 2) Set targets which will excite you and your team and get you out of bed every morning;
Step 3) Figure out how to reach the targets in Step 2.
A well rounded strategy which will provide a platform for continuous growth should impact these critical factors:
• revenue and profit
• product development
• customer satisfaction
• intellectual capital
• strategic relationships
• new customer growth
• employee retention.
For each factor follow the three step analysis.
Step 1. What can you learn from last year’s experience in each area?
What did you do right – what worked – what should you do more of? What did you do wrong – what didn’t work – what should be stopped immediately?
Also, ask what is missing from this area. In other words, what could you add – or eliminate – which will make a big difference in your organization’s effectiveness.
Random examples of what might be missing: an organizational knowledge manager, periodic competitive analysis, a report of market share, an employee training plan.
Step 2. What results are you committed to produce in each area?
Remember, these results should be bold and dynamic. They should inspire everyone responsible for making them happen to do whatever it takes to get the job done.
These targets or measures work best when they are objective and quantifiable. They must be achievable, however difficult that might be.
Some examples of bold results: a 50 percent increase in sales; top of the list in prospect mind-share; 100 percent customer repurchases; three new products shipped by June; customer problems resolved in half the current time, a career path in place for each employee, zero turnover.
Step 3. How are you going to achieve these goals?
Your implementation plan has a number of components:
Who is accountable for each factor? Which executive? Which managers? What department? Some factors map directly onto a functional department, like revenue to marketing/sales.
Those are the easy ones. Less obvious are factors like intellectual capital or customer satisfaction – they don’t fall under one clear domain. Nevertheless, one person has to pick up the ball.
Along with their teams, whoever accepts accountability for specific the targets and goals will answer the remaining questions.
What strategies and tactics have a good chance to produce the results? Remember, if you’ve set bold objectives, you probably do not yet know how to reach them. That’s what makes them bold in the first place.
You are inventing the answers, making them up.
The approach to some targets will be simple, others more complex. While there are no guarantees of success, each target should have an identifiable path with a good probability of getting your company to where you want it to be.
That path will define one or more initiatives to be put on a timeline.
The path will also include milestones – checkpoints to measure the ongoing success of the initiative.
What structural and procedural changes will you make relative to this factor? Some examples are adding two salespeople, creating a quality czar, establishing new reporting lines, eliminating paper memos, making a large capital investment, acquiring a component vendor, or having a monthly new business quota.
Each structural and procedural change will give birth to its own initiatives, which also need to be time-lined.
Does this initiative have any staffing implications? Do you need to increase headcount, create new job descriptions or add specific managers?
Where a factor maps directly onto a department – such as revenue or customer service – what is the annual staffing plan? If there is a staffing increase, make sure the financial considerations are fed back into the budget.
Taken together, all the factors, targets, accountable parties, initiatives, structural changes, timelines, measures and milestones add up to a strategic plan for the year.Can you live without addressing all of these factors?
Of course you can – but will you prosper, and for how long? Increase sales, but neglect quality – what will happen to customer satisfaction? Improve product quality but neglect employee retention? What will happen to quality next year?
And then what will happen to sales? Focus on profits but not new customers or strategic relationships – next year’s sales (and profits) decline, and so on.
Each factor’s improvement synergistically contributes to your company’s survivability and prosperity.
Last issue: Can you do everything at once? You probably don’t have the resources for that. But the solution can not neglect any of your critical factors – we’ve just looked at the outcome of that approach.
Instead, create another breakthrough. Create a breakthrough in planning which commits your company to some level of advancement for each of the factors.
One that ensures they all receive some level of attention so that each is moving forward, although maybe not all to the same degree. To reuse a well-worn phrase, if you are not making progress in each area, you are losing ground.
© Copyright 2004 Quantum Growth Coaching. All Rights Reserved ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Paul Lemberg’s clients call him “the unreasonable business coach” because he insists they pursue goals and take actions far outside their comfort zone to make more money than they previously thought possible. To get business coaching, tips, tools and strategies like these, visit www.paullemberg.com
2 – Healthy Body & Mind
When your life revolves around work, it is difficult to maintain any real perspective on good nutrition or healthy lifestyle, UNLESS you make the effort and committment to yourself that your Physical Wellbeing is just as important and “valuable” as any of your Enterprise Goals.
Whether you have weeks of “perpetual lunch” meetings or “no-time” to eat or workout at all, you simply cannot have geniuine Happiness or Wellbeing unless you have Peak Health and Fitness.
Money does not compensate for Pain and illness.
So below are some self help resources to create a genuine DESIRE for better health, fitness and general physical wellbeing.
FIVE WAYS TO BEAT WORRY:
(1) Separate worries into those you can do something about and those you can’t. Deal with the first group, and forget the rest.
(2) Distract yourself with a walk, a book or a movie.
(3) Behave as though you aren’t worried. (Sometimes you can even fool yourself by blocking out worries)
(4) Have long talks about your worries and anxieties with a friend
(5) Use a relaxation technique such as meditation or yoga.
Learn How to Relax.
The following exercise will introduce you to deep relaxation. It will help create a refreshed and peaceful feeling for the body and mind. Try to do this especially upon arising and before retiring.
1. Lie flat of your back, placing the feet about 18 inches apart. The hands should rest slightly away from the trunk, with the palms up.
2. Close your eyes and gently move all the parts of the body to give a general feeling of relaxation.
3. Start relaxing the body by part. First think of the right leg. Inhale and raise the leg about one foot off the floor. Hold it fully tensed. After five seconds, exhale quickly and relax the muscles of the right leg, allowing it to fall to the floor on its own. Shake the leg gently from right to left, relax it fully and forget about the existence of this leg.
4. Repeat this process with the left leg, and then with both hands one at a time.
5. Then bring the mind to the muscles of the pelvis, buttocks and anus. Tense them and relax. Once again, tense them and relax. Next, think of the abdomen. Inhale deeply through the nose and bloat the abdomen. Hold your breath for five seconds and suddenly let the air burst out through the mouth, at the same time relaxing all the muscles of the abdomen and diaphragm.
6. Move on to the chest region. Inhale deeply through the nose, bloating the chest. Hold your breath for five seconds and suddenly let the air out through the mouth while relaxing all the muscle of the chest and diaphragm.
7. Move on to the shoulders. Without moving the forearm off the flow, try to make the shoulders meet in front of the body. Then relax and let them drop to the floor.
8. Slowly, gently, turn the neck right and left, right and left then back to center, mentally relaxing the neck muscles.
9. Now coming to facial muscles, move the jaw up and down, left and right, a few times then relax. Squeeze the lips together in a pout, then relax. Such in the cheek muscles, then relax. Tense the tip of the nose, then relax. Wrinkle the forehead muscles, then relax.
10. Now you have relaxed all the muscles of the body. To make sure of this, allow your mind to wander over your entire body, from the tips of the toes to the head, searching for any spots of tension. If you come across any, concentrate upon this part and it will relax. If you do this mentally, without moving any muscle, you will notice that the part concerned obeys your command.
This is complete relaxation. Even your mind is at rest now. Observe your thoughts without trying to take your mind anywhere. Remain in this condition at least five minutes. When you decide to wake from this conscious sleep, do so quite slowly. Imagine that fresh energy is gently entering each part of your body from the head down to the toes. Then slowly sit up. This exercise helps create a refreshed and peaceful feeling for the body and mind.
What Stress is…
Stress is an abnormal condition that disrupts the normal functions of the body or mind. No two people are affected in exactly the same way, or to the same degree, but most people living in our highly industrialized society suffer from its effects at one or more times during their lives. Symptoms range from mind headaches, occasional bouts of insomnia, overall restlessness, digestive problems, irritable bowel syndrome, constipation and diarrhea, and abdominal pain.
SELECTED LIFE EVENTS THAT CAN BRING ON STRESS:
Death of Spouse.
Death of a close family member.
Death of a close friend.
Major personal injury, illness or pregnancy.
Sexual molestation, drug abuse.
Major change in the health or behavior of a family member.
Gaining or losing a new family member.
Marital separation from mate.
Marriage, marital reconciliation, divorce.
Arguments with spouse, family members, friends, co-workers.
Changes in sleeping habits or change in part of day when asleep.
Vacations, Major holidays. In-law troubles.
Financing major purchases.
Beginning or ceasing formal schooling.
Change in usual type and or amount of recreation.
Change in outside social activities, religions, etc.
Major change in eating habits, Iiving conditions, moving.
Spouse beginning or ceasing work outside the home.
Changing to a different line of work.
Major change in responsibilities at work.
Changes in working hours or conditions.
Troubles with the boss.
Being fired at work.
Starting a new job or career.
Retirement from work.
Business readjustment, changes in financial condition.
Minor violations of the law (e.g., traffic tickets, disturbing the peace, etc.)
Detention in jail or other institution.
Dealing With Work Related Stress
Examples that can cause work related stress are trying to get too much work done in too little time, cutting corners or otherwise taking chances that may put you, or someone else at risk, and trying to get along with superiors and co-workers.
Everybody has days when there simply seems there’s too much work to get done. Trying to get everything done by yourself can bring on stress. Some people try and deal with the pressure by delegating certain jobs to others. If you can unburden yourself and not worry about when and how the work gets done, if you can put full faith and trust in co-workers or subordinates it can be an effective escape valve. Trouble is, most people can’t let go. If you have the type of personality that demands to know how things are going, chances are you’re only increasing the pressure and stress on yourself by constantly worrying if the work is getting done or not.
To lessen stress you must either learn to trust others to get the job done, or prioritize jobs to get rid of “what must be done” first. Many people tend to “put off” the difficult jobs they hate to do until the last possible minute. Of course, this only makes it all the more difficult and stressful when you finally get around to doing what you should have done earlier.
When you feel the “walls closing in on you” if possible, take a break. Many people in trying to relax actually kick their bodies into overdrive by using their break time to either get a nicotine or caffeine fix. Instead of calming you down, both substances being stimulants speed up your body processes. You may think you’re relaxing, but your blood pressure and heart are working harder.
Instead of coffee or cigarettes try a brief chat with friends, a short leisurely walk, even just looking out the window for a few minutes. Never take breaks, or eat lunch at your work station. The point of a break is to get away from whatever work you’re doing. You can’t get your mind off your work if you’re chained to your work area.
Getting along with your co-workers and the boss can be more than a sore point. It can be something you learn to put up with, or it can turn into a festering wound that only gets worse with time. If you’re having problems, get them out in the open. Most managers today at least have some training in dealing with personal problems. If you can’t clear the air or have tried using all the company procedures to resolve a grievance, and you no longer enjoy your job, hate to go to work in the morning, or feel that the pressure is getting to be too much, it may be time to seriously consider a change.
STRESS AWAY FROM WORK
Anyone who’s ever been stuck in a major traffic jam probably has seen the darker side of many people’s personalities. It seems everyone is always in a hurry to either get, or go somewhere, and never seem to allow enough time for the everyday problems that are bound to crop up from time to time.
Banging on the steering wheel, laying on the horn, giving someone the “finger,” or shooting a string of obscenities is only reacting to something that has already happened. You can’t make the guy in front of you go any faster, or prevent someone from cutting you off. Accidents, road repairs, and just plain heavy traffic happens. Learn to deal with it or don’t drive. If you must, at least change your route from time to time. Always allow plenty of time, and try and make all trips as pleasant as possible. You may not realize it, but how you act on your way to work, or on your way home will have either a positive or negative impact. Accept the fact that it’s something you just have to get through so you may as well try and make the best of it.
Most people are smart enough to know that they should set some time aside to take it easy. If you participate in some sports activity, remember you’re doing it to relax! While many people naturally have their competitive nature come to the surface when engaging athletics, don’t lose sight of the fact you’re participating to have fun. Don’t get bent out of shape if you don’t always win or otherwise play up to par. The whole point is to enjoy yourself and forget your everyday worries. Treat it as a night out with the “boys,” or gals and relax!
Families can be as source of support, an oasis away from the everyday pressures or sometimes it’s only a place to grab a few hours sleep and get back in the rat race. Your children, spouse, family members, in-laws can be a source of irritation at times. If someone is constantly doing something that really “bugs you,” tell the offending person or persons and see if things can be straightened out before things get out of control.
A man’s home (a woman’s too) should indeed be a place to rest and relax. Many people find it helpful unwind by sharing the day’s events with their loved ones. It should not develop into a daily routine, nor should you give a detailed blow by blow recap of the day’s events, but when things go wrong, who better to talk to than your family? Holding things back, keeping it inside yourself, almost always does more harm than good and can affect not only your well-being but everyone else in your family as well. Talking things over is a great way to get rid of built up stress that many people overlook.
You should also be a good listener. Don’t unload your problems and have no time for your mate’s or children’s problems. They may seem trivial to you, but they are real problems that need solving just like yours.
A great way to get rid of stress is, every once in a while, do something totally different and unexpected without any prior planning. Don’t fall into a trap when you must do such and such thing a certain way, or at specific time or place. If you always put on a blue suit on Thursday, or go to an Italian restaurant on Tuesday, break the habit every once in a while. Even doing things you like can become stressful if you’re stuck in the same old rut week after boring week.
Stress can best be managed by realizing what you can change about your life and knowing what you can’t. Learn how to recognize the difference and you’ll enjoy life more and be better able to deal the ups and downs that are part of everyone’s life.
Tension: Ten Easy Ways to Handle It.
Pray and meditate.
Sing or listen to music.
Laugh and use humor.
Hug someone. It’ll remind you you’re not alone.
Get together regularly with your friends and family.
Play a noncompetitive game or go swimming.
Take a hot bath. Heat relaxes your muscles and causes stress to decrease.
Take a brief rest during the day.
Get away for a while.
Spend money without overdoing it.
1. Inhale deeply through your nose, then purse your lips and exhale slowly through your mouth while letting out an audible sigh. Do this ten times, visualizing your troubles blowing away with each breath.
2. Lower your chin to your chest. Slowly rotate your head up the right shoulder and continue around and down the left shoulder in a complete wide and easy circle. Do this five times. Then straighten up, and shrug and wiggle your shoulders. Then do five more head rolls in the reverse direction.
3. While seated, take your shoes off and roll a walnut or golf ball under your foot, including heels and toes, for one minute. Then repeat the exercise with the other foot.
4. Sit down, close your eyes, relax and slowly rotate your shoulders forward, up-ward, backward and downwards. Do five complete rotations one way and five the other way.
5. Sit down and let your chin slump to your chest. Close your eyes and picture the most beautiful sunset you’ve ever seen. Then massage your temples and the corners of your jawbone under each earlobe. Use the tips of your fingers to tap rapidly and gently all over your head and the back of your neck. This entire exercise should take about five minutes.
6. Sit with your elbows propped on a table. Slowly rotate your wrists while keeping your hands limp. Do this five times in one direction, five times in the other. Then get up and shake your hands as if you were shaking water from them. Imagine you are shaking off whatever has been causing you to feel stressed.
7. Put your arms at your side and shake your hands vigorously. Bend your elbows, bring up hands up to shoulder height and shake your hands once more. Make a tight fist with each hand and hold for a minute or two. Now, extend your fingers into a wide span. Relax, and repeat the exercise about five times.
8. Rub your palms together briskly until they feel warm. Then quickly cup the palms of your hands over both eyes. Close your eyes and breathe deeply and quietly. Imagine the sound of your breath as a light wind rustling through the trees. When you feel completely relaxed, you can stop.
9. Slap your whole body with warm water for a few minutes.
10. Get into a warm bath, lean back, relax and breathe very deeply.
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HE002 Staying Healthy ebook
Staying Healthy e-book to give you a starting point for some things to think about, and practical strategies for pro-active health care:
TABLE OF CONTENTS:
• Tips and Advice for Better Health. • Live a Longer and Healthier Life. • Nature’s Miracle Energy Boosters. • How to Boost Your Moods. • Maintain a Healthy Body and Mind. • Principles for Better Health and Living. • Learn How to Relax. • How to Stay Young Indefinitely. • Maintenance for Smokers and Drinkers. • What Stress is… • Tension: Ten Easy Ways to Handle It. • Tips to Help You Quit Smoking. • Apples Will Keep You Happy. • It Pays to Have a Good Attitude. • Preventing Backache. • The Best Foods for Your Health. • Energize Yourself. • The Wonders of Garlic.
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Need to Lose Weight & Shape Up?
So you have a desire to change, I think that’s great! No matter what level we are at, change for the better is always good for our self-esteem. If we stop progressing mentally or physically, we will often become bored and unhappy with ourselves.
In this free ebook you will learn what to do and what not to do regarding fitness and weight loss programs. It is divided into five chapters and is easy reading. All the major aspects of a weight loss program are covered and maybe even some things you haven’t considered.
The pages are designed for easy printing or saving to your computer. Share it with anyone you like. I would like to say that in fitness, especially weight loss in particular, that almost nothing is written in stone. In other words, if you find something that works, stick with it! No one can tell you otherwise. In the end I wish you the best of luck and feel welcome to share your story, thoughts, tips and experiences with the Fitness-Tricks community through our newsletter.
Sincerely, Randy Mclean www.weightlossguidance.com “Don’t be afraid to learn. Knowledge is weightless, a treasure you can always carry…”
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If you have ever wanted to own your own profitable, low maintenance business, but just couldn’t seem to figure out how to start one from scratch, then this product was created for you.
We have come up with 101 of the best Internet Marketing Ideas, Tips, and Suggestions and put them all together in this one package…Read through this electronic book…Study it…Pick out businesses you could create online for high profits.
This product isn’t just for beginners. We are also including ideas which you can use even if you already have a very successful business or web site. We are going to include profit models you can learn from.
Every web site owner should find ways of bringing in multiple streams of income into their business…Use the ideas you find in here to do just that: create multiple streams of income from every web site you own or are involved with.
Table of Contents
Introduction: Choose An Online Business
Business 1 – 10: Building Your Own Online Community
Business 11 – 20: Creating a Free Service
Business 21 – 30: Provide Services To Others
Business 31 – 40: Create Automated Traffic Tools for Web Sites
Business 41 – 50: Build Your Own Information Empire
Business 51 – 60: Be The Next Bill Gates with Your Own Software
Business 61 – 70: Create Videos for Niche Markets
Business 71 – 80: Join a Dealer Network
Business 81 – 90: Create Your Own Opt-In Email List
Business 91 – 100: Create a Residual Income Through Subscriptions
Business 101: Joint Venture Marketing
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Small Business, Prosperity and financial wellbeing self help series of articles we have compiled into an ebook for your convenience:
Effective Decision Making
How to Choose and Keep Customers
Keys To Small Business Success
Ten Keys to Working Effectively in a Home Office
Ten Marketing Mistakes Small Businesses Make
Ten Areas of Leverage That Every Small Business Has
Ten Employer-Employee Rules for Successfully Running A Small Business
Essentials Of Successful Print Ads
45 Ideas to Promote Your Business
Ten Signals That It’s Time to Make a Radical Shift in Your Business
Win-Win Negotiation Tips
Tips to Enhance Your Decision Making Batting Average
How to Improve Your Delegation Skills
How to Be More Effective and Organized
How to Improve Your Goal Setting Skills
How To Improve Your Supervising and Leadership Skills
How To Improve Your Planning Skills
How To Improve Your Self Management Skills
Ten Things to Say or Do When a Prospective Customer Says No
Nine Ways to get free PR/media coverage for yourself or your business
Ten Warnings of a Business Turnaround Situation
Ten Strategies To Increase Your Sales
Ten Strategies To Building a Solid Business Partnership or Alliance
Tips for getting FREE Publicity for your business
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